Good for you man. Good for you. Hello everyone. My name is Han Solo. I am addicted to p*rn. I am 29 years old and i have been addicted to p*rn since about 11 years old. I have dealt with "pushing rope" since i lost my virginity at 15 years old. I couldn't bust my nut when i lost virginity. Wow...getting sad just thinking about it again....keep your composure hany, buddy..keep your composure. Every relationship i've had with a girl ended the same way...with me having to watch hardcore p*rn because i couldn't get off during real sex. Although this helped me learn new ways to please my partners with my hands and mouth, i was still left with an empty and depressing feeling when my little buddy would fail me or the feeling of guilt if i had to imagine a p*rn scene in my head to get the blood flowing. I've had very few true relationships because of this. From 18 and on, i've experienced mostly one night stands, prostitutes, random sex meets from the internet. The older i get, the weirder my search query looks. Midgets. Fisting. Choking. p*rn ruined my youth. I can't go back. I am Han Solo and i have a disease. It's called p*rn addiction. I seek a cure because i want a normal life! I need...a normal life.
^ Hello, Hans. AND... that's a little too graphic, even for these forums. Please tone it down, sir. Deckard, sir, I know my spouse likes some things and not other things, and if I know for a fact that this is working for me and her, shouldn't I just continue it this way? What do you think?
That is a good point but I suspect that any control group in America might have some big variables such as religious or economic background. While not perfect for an experiment I think a worldwide search would pretty quickly turn up a group of young males who haven't looked at internet p*rn.
Too much info! Could've done without the middle section of your post but if this isn't a trolling thread there are anti-addiction therapies that could help.
While some folks are saying you went a little over the edge, they may be correct. But I applaud you for sharing something personal and real. I have also been exposed to p*rn since the age of 11 or so, but would have never called it a troubling addiction. There were definitely times in my life where I saw the side effects in play, but there were also plenty moments of success. Sexual relations with my last two relationships worked almost perfectly due to the mutual feelings shared. Without any feelings of attraction or love, I found it very difficult to perform how I wanted to. I hope you apply your best effort in chasing a life where these unnecessary short-term pleasures are no longer needed. Take the time instead and apply it to something you enjoy or something you have always wanted to do/learn. Some people say they play video games when they contract an urge. You should also consider joining some sort of community to help motivate you and share success with (i.e. Reddit /NoFap). After some time, you can focus on chasing a relationship that provides substance beyond sexual pleasures. From my own experience, it is much easier to perform your best with someone who you actually care about.
I don't know much beyond the video posted, but I think the primary movement involves no personal 'activities' as well. At the same time, I believe that doin the deed provides health benefits given it comes in moderation... I think you need to unload at least once per week. (Insert "Is it true that if you don't use it, you lose it?" 40 Year Old Virgin clip) I do have a signif other, but we have been apart for a couple of weeks. She just returned to school after winter break. As you described your experience, I would say the same.
SwoLy, I'm a firm believer in doing what works. Unless I find something that works even better. That it is impossible to be too hard yourself, or with your partner. So be firm, unless you can't. Gentle is as gentle does, as someone might have once said, and only if it's satisfying, which can and should be entirely mutual. And if confusion runs amok, or things get old? Go with the blue pill. In other words, if you are happy, don't change a thing, unless you must.
Thanks man. I've thought about this for a long time. When i start to care, i can perform, but over time, the disgusting p*rn images in my head would pop up just so that i could continue to perform. I felt worst when i'd imagine these huge p*rn studs doing the girl that i was sleeping with in order to get turned on. Perhaps i just need to find love. I have done a great job of staying away from sleeping with random girls. I've only had 2 1 night stands in the past year and on and off again sex with an ex. I'm waiting to meet someone i'm very attracted to and know i won't need to resort to p*rn because i only have sex with her just to have sex and instead being with her because i'm truly and deeply attracted to her. I've found i'm getting more and more turned on by a certain kind of girl, so i'll look at models from Ukraine or Russian women and they don't need to be naked or getting railed by some 10 inch dude for me to masturbate. I wonder if i need to cut out masturbation and p*rn completely. Or if it's just p*rn that does the damage and masturbation to regular thoughts or images is okay? I'm going to be a lot more busy with school(was unemployed and not going to school so i had a lot of time to just sit there bored and put p*rn on). Hopefully being so busy will in turn keep my mind busy and clear of the dirty addictive world of p*rnography.
I think being busy will definitely help. If I were you, I would cut out p*rn entirely, and masturbation for a couple weeks and then maybe squeeze one out (without any form of p*rn). All depends on how much you want to help yourself. The more willpower you invest, the more your confidence will show for it.
I did it for three days but I couldn't resist anymore on the fourth day. Felt really good though on the third day, I just couldn't resist fapping.
* YOU DID IT FOR THREE DAYS?!?!?!?! * you animal! I'm about to start my 6th day. I let Mrs. SwoLy rest tonight.
Guys, I've been reading through this tread and I've decided I'm going to come clean. Hopefully this information gives hope to my fellow board members. In our generation, it seems like EVERYONE watches p*rn. There is an assumption that because of this, its ok. This is simply not true. I began really getting into this habit in college, while living alone. Because of this, I had a couple years of failed sexual encounters with women, never really understanding the cause. In turn, I would go to p*rn for validation that I was a functional human being. I should have known the difference because before this habit, I had no problems in bed. I became very depressed and had tremendous social anxiety. I felt as if I could never please a woman, hence, never have a meaningful relationship again and live alone the rest of my life. Looking back now, even that statement has so many flaws in it. In april of last year I started reading http://yourbrainonporn.com/ Specifically the videos and forums were very informative. Listen, I KNOW first hand how hard it is to stop. In fact, studies have shown the habit is just as hard to break as a cocain addiction. It's so hard to stop even when you feel terrible about yourself. My solution, I played an ungodly amount of Skyrim at night. Did I have lapses, yes. Many times in fact, but progress isn't overnight and every second spent on the path is a victory. Consider the fact, that the more time you spend resisting the urges, the more time your brain patterns begin to change. I'm happy to say that I'm completely free from this ILLNESS. Within a month I noticed serious improvements in many areas of my life, and they only continued as time went by. I lost 90% of my anxiety issues with people and have become a more productive human being. My mind is SO MUCH more clear now than it was and I have so much less anger and guilt. It's like I've been balanced out. Remember, p*rn acts like a drug and sends an unnecessary amount of certain chemicals to the brain. When I felt ready, I was re-introduced to women and sex with no problems at all. I have an amazing girlfriend now and I'm more confident than I've ever been in my entire life. The lack of confidence all stemmed from this, and it was ruining me. Forgive me if this is too graphic, but now I literally can't stop myself from getting aroused. Anywhere at anytime. Self love feels much, much better. On top of this I've become more close to other women and understand them better as human beings. I'm having sex very, very frequently now as well, so I've concluded that it's the p*rn that is the problem, not anything else. To those of you who are trying to stop, consider the fact that most people buying Viagra right now are in their 20's. On a lot of the website's they overtly advertise the product as well. This should tell you that something is very wrong. I hope that my success story gives some of you hope, and I'm here to tell you that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and it is SO MUCH BETTER. I'm such a better, happier, more fulfilled person in so many ways. I've gone from avoidance of sexual encounters, to confidence that is through the roof! Just know that I understand how hard it is to stop because I've certainly been there. Please dont be too hard on yourselves. I promise you, if you rid yourselves of this habit, you will have no idea how much your life will improve.
You know, I thanks the lord for the fake sechs I receive through my computer screen and for the real sechs I receive in my bed. There is room enough in my erection..er, heart for all of it.
Reading through this thread makes me extremely grateful for my wife. And also, don't hold out on your wife. Marriages need intimacy. Don't "experiment" that out of your marriage.
