ha- hush yo mouth! you know i can beat you up i take it back!! i take it back!! forgive me... Moderator
If that's the case then you need to cut away from her. She says she wants time apart, well dammit Rokkit, take YOUR time apart!! Don't let her determine when you do and don't have contact with her. Don't answer all of her calls, don't return her calls for days at a time. Go do your thing. Go enjoy life. You simply need to get out there in the world and do the things you enjoy. Don't worry about her. It will be hard, but I guarantee you will be a stronger and better man in the end. Also, don't listen to DM. She is probably feeling as confused as you are. She doesn't know what is going to happen any more than you do. Don't convince or fool yourself into believing things will in fact work out because they might not. The key is to not let yourself get into a vulnerable position by being at her beckon call. Once again go have some Rokkit-time. You need to get out and do the things you liked doing before you got together with her. Regain your open mind and don't let her be your focus. The focus should be on yourself and your own well being.
don't let the door hit your ass on the way out BTW Jeff, thank you for ending that soap opera(I hope). DM, I don't know you, but anyone that wears an afro to a Rockets game is cool in my book. Don't sell yourself short.
I just turned 25. She is 20. She's been calling me still, though the first few times felt more like a 'pity/feeling guilty' thing....and then came the two calls where she wanted it to be only 'time apart' and that she was feeling 'better about us'. That was the first time she told me she was so confused and that I felt as though she was actually hurting. She made a point of telling me that she was going to some church social thing with one of her girlfriends Thursday. And also that she was going with that group out on Saturday. Although she also made a point - during the 'time apart' call Wednesday - to point out that she told her friend not to 'try and hook her up with someone', because we were just taking time apart. Now she called today, saying she had fun at the social thing and will probably go back next week. And again she now sounds like she's 'doing okay'. Makes me feel as though we are back to a permanent thing, for all intents and purposes. I'm going to spend the weekend with my friends, try and do something at least....but I'm alternating between confused, depressed and all sorts of stuff. Everyone tells me to go on like I had planned before the 'time apart' talk....and I'm wondering if I should just tell her not to call unless she wants to talk about us (not just to see 'how I'm doing'.)
