Tact with Married Folks who want to be Single

I waited until I was 30 to get married. We had already been together for 7 years at that point. No it's 8 years later and I have a great 7 year old daughter and a 5 year old son and I still love my wife as much as when we first got together.

My wife has told me she would be ok with me having an affair as long as it didn't change things at home. I never have because a.) I get what I need at home and b.) one woman is enough to have to put up with at a time.

Now if the stars were to align just right and some off the scales hottie wanted a one nighter, I might be inclined to give it a go, but I have no desire to be single again.

I love my life at home with my wife and kids. My wife gives me all the freedom I want to go where I want, when I want, and I always have a loving family to come home to.

I consider myself a lucky man.

 

Even if my wife said that, I could never take her up on it.

 

I doubt I ever will either... but if Jessica Alba comes knocking I'm not turning her down.

 

I'd have to slap you if you did.

 

And how would you react if she did the same thing? And she told you, as I'm sure you would tell her?

 

zzzactly. maybe wifey is a little too accomodating

 

I got married young-ish and thank my lucky stars every day that I am not single right now. I have single friends that tell me their stories and they are either depressing or fun in limited doses. I am a hermit-like curmudgeon so what do I know? I hated the singles game enough when I was there so everything has worked out. I made a good choice (I was OLD for my age) and there have not been any surprise problems thus far. Sure, we call each other horrible names and offend other people (who think we are serious) but that is all about the love. That last sentence is further proof that I chose well.

thegary - it is not just a New Yor thing. Starting with "gen-x" people have been waiting until their thirties. Now with younger generations the idea of marriage, on average, isn't even in existance until early 30's.

 

I'd like to think I would react the same way I react to other things that happen in life, In a calm thoughtful manner considering all angles before taking any action.

 

It's not just that. Like I said, most people I met who were miserable in their marriages were just plain miserable, period, or people with unrealistic expectations of what they or their partner wanted out of a marriage. That one seems pretty common.

 

i think many people walk right into marriage because it's the societal norm and that it is what they are supposed to do. prolly many think once married it's all peaches and cream and pink babies. nope, sorry, if you don't know what you want, the both of you, you are asking for it. i think waiting is usually best but there really is no rule book. you do need a game plan though.