Move at the pace you want to and don't let her push you into anything. Otherwise, you will just end up building up resentment. You have to decide what you need, and everything she does "right" is not going to change that. It starts a bad pattern when people move faster than they want to just because they feel like the other person has left them no choice. Fortunately, at least you've told her this...
I've tried but it falls upon deaf ears. I think you are right about the resentment part, I already get pissed about it sometimes.
In my experiences, the girls that want to move into a serious relationship really fast have serious insecurity, and co-dependency problems. Personally, I leave these girls alone. If you want this to continue, tell her to back off. If she can't respect and follow that, watch out. EDIT: The main reason I feel these girls are problematic is they typically also harbor a lot of jealousy issues. And jealous women are like cauldrons ready to blow.
I dont doubt that because it seems like she gets all of her self worth/esteem from me and that is something that I worry about. It is nice because the girl bends over backwards to please me.
Bad situation, even if it does come with perks. You may need to back off some and/or encourage her to spend more time on outside friends and hobbies. Also, make sure you're not in this just for the things she does for you... if that makes any sense. If things carry on like this, she will keep trying to please you and fix everything that way. It won't work. You'll build up resentment, and eventually she might as well (when she realizes exactly what she has done - take it from someone who's been there).
I'm probably in it for the perks right now. She is cool and it isnt much work. I've known that I don't feel that "it" factor but my whole view/perception of what the "it" feeling is has been completely shaken by my divorce. I'm out of town (St. Louis) on work right now and she constantly calls me saying how much she misses me and how sad she is and blah blah blah. I guess I never really noticed how clingy she is until I left. I miss her too but nothing like her. I had to practically make her go out last night with some of our friends because she wanted to stay at home and talk. I didn't. I'm here and I want to enjoy the city. I want to meet people and hang out. I cant do that and spend time (i.e. calling, chatting online, etc.) with her. I should probably ****can her but I'm not really ready to just yet.
No, really I'm not. It's just that... ummm, certain angles and positions don't do much for the female.
I know everyone needs someone dude, but there is alot to be said of the waiting a while after a divorce theory. I mean your's isn't even final yet, I think. If I were you, which I may be soon, I'd stick to the Gillen style of dating. Get what you can and make no commitments.
I once dated this girl who ate her peas one at a time, wore the same outfit everytime we went out AND was a re-gifter.
I also once had a fair skinned lass with a veiny bossom, but I learned to adjust my taste. I don't regret that at all. I've also seen girls that had the odd stray hair around the nipple unless they took extra care in their grooming. That stuff didn't really bother me. The lamest reason, was because a girl smoked. I knew she smoked, and wasn't going to let it get in the way. It didn't get in the way for two weeks. Then I just could no longer stand the thought of kissing her with that smoker's mouth. I knew that was a horrible reason, and was kind of shallow. But I just couldn't stand it. I don't know what was wrong with me. Well the end would have come anyway for other reasons, but at the time, that was the main thing. 1.5 grams of coke in 12 hours is a good reason to break up with someone. I have to agree with Isabel. Nothing strange about that at all.
