That's tough, Manny. Don't stay in this marriage if counseling and/or drugs don't help the situation. You really do not deserve to be completely unhappy. You only have one life man. I'm praying for your guidance through all of this.
Well I talked to her this morning and told her I was sorry for not being more understanding. I guess I just don't have experience when it comes to women getting emotional and dramatic (sorry finalsbound). I really want in my heart for this marriage to work. All of my life I have been searching for someone to spend my life with. I have also been bad about running away from things when I feel they get too hard. I am going to try to keep this thing afloat. I'm still seeing the lawyer though today. My biggest fears are: 1) How expensive this *possible* divorce would be (especially in the legal fees) 2) If I could sell my house and be able to pay off the loan AND have the fees to pay the realtor 3) The absolute hell I would have to go through emotionally and mentally as this woman would fight me tooth and nail if I did decide to divorce her. She really doesn't have any money and I don't think her parents do either, but I can't assume that. She might try to contest it and take me for everything I have (which really isn't much). Of course another problem I have is that if a year goes by and I get to the point of where I feel the marriage is not salvageable (which right now I think it is somewhat salvageable), then the divorce would probably be even more expensive at that time compared to now. I just wished that I was like Bobby Ewing in that all of this has been nothing more than a bad dream.
Dude, you don't have kids together and you haven't been together long enough to aquire any assets. Hell, you didn't even want to pony up for xmas tree so I can't imagine a tight ass like you going nuts on a bunch of **** that yall would have to seperate. If you are going to bail, then bail. Stop being a whiny b**** about it. You obviously want out so just do it.
Obviously most of us are siding with Manny here, because we have known him for some time and one can tell that he is a good guy at heart, or at least trying to be. But I have to admit that it would be interesting to hear her side of the story, to say the least. Quite frankly, reading Manny's posts, it does not sound to me like the problem is only on her side. Anyway, sorry to hear about the problems. I really hope that things will work out for the best for both of you, whatever that may be.
My sentiments, exactly. MANNY: You keep coming back and updating us on "She did this" and then you come back and say "I should have done this" and then you come back and say "but she did this and I think she's sick" and then you come back and say "but I don't know if it costs this much"... G0dd4mn1t, m4nny. GET THE F*CK out of there. PERIOD.
Manny - I suspect to a certain extent you're looking for advice from the people you know on here. You may not know me. But, I'm gonna give some advice anyway Can you ever see this woman being the mother of your child? Would you feel good leaving your child alone with her? Would she give your child the love s/he deserves? Judging by the way you write about her, she causes YOU, a grown man, emotional harm. What's going to happen if you stay with her and have a family with her? What is she going to instill in your kids? Maybe you're not interested in kids, but regardless, I still would think you'd want to be married to someone who is loving enough to be a great mom. She doesn't have to BE a mom, but she should have the qualities. Give counseling a chance. Give medical stuff a chance. Try it out. If you see a real change in her and it changes your feelings, that's great. If it's not, find a way to make yourself happy. Life is too short and too much of a gift to be miserable.
why is everyone saying Manny doesn't have a kid? Master Baiter says he does...unless MB is referring to a girl from someone else.
wow manny, what a mess. it may seem that some people are being a little harsh, but maybe you need to hear it. i mean, look at SwoLy-D pulling a 360 about divorce in this very thread. it ain't lookin' good bro.
No, no, señores... don't get me wrong. I love vows and MARRIAGE and being HAPPY with whom I chose as my wife, and BOY, do we make each other happy but... At first I was all ... then, it became , but now, for Manny's sakes, I am just . Hence the 180º turn only for this thread, Jason Kidd .
I hate to judge..but..I do. First of all...you got married after 2 months?!! Holy cow! I absolutely want to believe in love at first sight, but then again I can't help but to judge your wife just a little bit on this one. She got married to a dude she's known for only 2 months??!! The reason I say this is because I think it's weird that a single mother with a young daughter (Isn't your stepdaughter 6 yrs old?) would marry someone not knowing who he really is. As far as anyone knows, she could have married a child molester. (Not at all saying that you are, but I hope you know what I mean). What happens when and if you have a child with this woman? (Sounds like she could be very capable of "making you stay" by getting pregnant). I have a feeling that she will pull something like that as soon as you drop the bomb about counseling and a possible divorce. She will end up doing anything and everything she can to make you stay. Hope you're ready to become a daddy Manny
Not that unusual. A single mother over 30 starts getting that desperate/scared feeling (magnified as the years move past 35). Her mothering instincts want to provide a live-in father figure and her own survival instincts tell her that she needs stability because she has felt under the current ever since she has had the child by herself. Further you can almost guarantee that there are some father issues she has and Manny probably provided something in that area because you can tell he tries to be the "sweet nice guy". If she has had financial issues (compounded by raising the child by herself even if there is child support) then she saw Manny as the frugal b*stard that he apparently is and thought - "wow, he could rub off on/provide for me". Oddly enough, that likely would only backfire on her if she has no history of frugality or has not known a frugal person such as Manny who does not understand why a Christmas tree and ornaments are important for a family with a child. So that will end up bringing out her reactionary badness. People are predictable and not as unique as they think they are. I very well could be wrong about all of that but from what has been described she would seem to fit that mold as unfortunately many women do.
And she'll probably cheat on him with the first alpha male that comes along if she's attractive at all.
See Miller v. Miller (478 A.2d 351) - Stepfather hit with child support for accepting financial and emotional responsibility of former spouse's children. Somewhere the natural father was heard screaming "Hallelujah Jesus!!!"
aint that the truth. all the female ladies i know have kids. this is my first post in this thread. let me start with the christmas trees. I've never had a christmas tree in my house. Never. Didn't want one, didn't need one. I rather have the gifts. We never put up lights either. If my kids want a tree, then I will get them a tree. Lights might be pushing it. I don't want to climb a ladder and do all that stuff. it's good that Manny's trying to work something out, instead of quitting. Quitters Quit. Why fight a losing battle? It puts a strain on your well being.
Oops. I was going to say sign a prenup then bang away but I don't think future child support can be in a prenup so yeah stay away from being a parent to kids who are not yours unless you are willing to be a parent. It's a rare state case that probably hasn't been followed in other states but it's out there...spooky. Disclaimer - not an attorney!
