[Sorority/Fraternities]Would you let your child join one?

Riiight. Spoken just like someone who was never in one. I've been done with it so long ago it isn't even funny, but it always amazes me that the stereotypes are always so negative by people that were never in one.

Now find me someone who joined and hated it, and we might have something.

 

Me. The experience in itself wasn't bad, but it lends itself to making some really poor decisions. I would definitely not do it again if I had the choice.

On top of that, our fraternity had lots of older former members hanging around trying to relieve their "glory days" on certain occasions. I know you're not like that, but it was really sad to see.

 

Those of you advocating the kid pay her own way....are you paying for everything else except this? It seems kind of odd if you're paying their other living expenses, but asking them to get a job for this-- and take further time away from their studies -- because you disagree about them joining an organization that might take away from their studies?

 

"Frat Guys people are easily startled but they will soon be back and in greater numbers."
- Obi Wan Kenobi


The frats at SFA were moronic. They would basically have frat gang fights and stuff and carried around walky-talkies to reach other frat guys in a hurry (1993 no cell phones). It was just dumb. Everyone I knew just laughed at them.

So yeah, I couldn't have a more negative opinion of them.

 

No offense, but I do not think you are a choice spokesperson for frat promotion.

 

Yes he is.

 

Good Point. I stand corrected.

 

I have a social website now!........so Im late....so what. Carry on.

 

I have a couple of good Friends that are Odies [Omega Delta Phi]
I use to be very anti-Greek
but I have met some really cool Greeks
and even Joined one myself. It does not make one anything
it is what you do once in it

The only thing I could tell the father is . .. these are your girls
YOUR GIRLS at this point they are what you made them
It is time for your to let your training and values take over
Allow them to be who use what you have taught them
cause .. .
in the end. . . they will be what they want to be . . .
nothing he says will change that

Rocket River

 

I absolutely agree with you.

 

I never joined a frat, and if any of my kids felt they wanted to join one, then I'd support it.

My college-aged son, though, has shown no interest in doing so thus far. My younger son doesn't seem the type, either, but he's only 15 so that could change. And my daughter is just about to turn 1, so she's got a ways to go.

My image of sororities comes from both my second step-mother who was in a sorority at Tech and fulfills just about every sorority stereotype one could imagine, and my experience dating a woman who was in a sorority while we dated. While she didn't fit the stereotypical image, several of her sisters did (and they pressured her considerably to change to suit their worldview). So, I'm not generally a fan.

Related to this, though, now that I have an adult child, I am often amazed at how well adjusted he seems to be and how well he seems to do with his decision making. Presumably he got all that from his mother.

Because of all of that, I would support his wish to join a frat if he told me he wanted to join one. If he was different, I might have a different opinion.

 

<-------Sigma Chi

 

I agree that unity, love, and respect should be the principles in life, but fraternities and sororities are just stupid. (except for the DU chapter at UTPA)

As for the father, he has every right to place an embargo on her education. I mean he is paying for it.

 

When my younger brother started college a few years ago he asked me whether he should join a frat. I told him it was worthwhile simply for the fact that it is a great networking opportunity especially if you are going into a field like business. He joined, and two years later he tells me it is the best decision he ever made. My brother doesn't even drink, but he enjoys the camaraderie and all the connections he has made.

Most all the members of his fraternity have GPA's above 3.5 and are in Honors Program at his school. Being in a fraternity is not all about partying and drinking as many assume.

 

As a member of Alpha Phi Alpha, If i ever have a son I'd hope that he would want to join his fathers fraternity. Actually, i would rather him be a GDI than be involved with any other fraternity. Only A Phi A!!!!

 

In hoc brother !!

DD

 

long as my kid allows me to retire.


id prefer him to somehow skip college and go straight to the NBA if the commish allows it.

 

I didn't respond while at work, so trying my best to remember what I wanted to say...

YOUR CREDIBILITY STOPPED at that last sentence. See, that's what I am talking about.

A COLLEGE EXPERIENCE does NOT have to have a fraternity or sorority to be a "full" one, and if you've had one, GOOD.

The whole issue here is that if it's the father's wishes for those girls not to be in one, they should respect it. Now, if they were on their own with money and living expenses, more power to them and no one can tell them what to do.

Isabel, I sort of stand where you stand.

 

Sig Ep 1994-1998. Some of the best times of my life and I have developed lifelong friendships. I would absolutely let my child join one.