[Sorority/Fraternities]Would you let your child join one?

Haha. PBLer. My cousin was one.

 

I would never pay for it.

 

Nice post. Except pledges deserve to get their balls hazed off.

 

At 18, it is time to cut the freaking cord dude. There is nothing wrong with helping them financially through college if it is economically viable. If you are going to do that, there should not be any strings attached to that other than pass your classes. Young adults are often coddled WAY too much. They are adults, let them live their life and make their own decisions. Learning what works and doesn't work comes from success and failure based on the decisions that you make. They can't do that if Mommy and Daddy is still holding their pee pee when they go potty.

 

HECK YES !!!!

I am Sigma Chi until I die.

Incredible experience.

DD

 

heard a rumor that yall were trying to get reinstated on campus.... good luck. it was hell when we went through it, but our nationals hosed us pretty good. we still managed to pull some solid pledge classes the first 1.5 years or so... took a little bit of a dive after that, but i'm hearing decent things about our last 2 classes or so.

48th annual fite nite coming up april 10th... i wont be there, unfortunately

 

I don't consider paying money for your kid to be part of a social club when they are an "adult" as economically viable.

By the way, I speak from experience here, as my father paid for my school and also paid for my membership dues to a fraternity. I wouldn't have if I were in his shoes. If a kid wants to pay their own membership dues and it doesn't adversely affect their school, fine.

But this is not always the case. I, like 90 percent of my pledge class, suffered poor grades as a result of having a little too much fun with fraternity lifestyle.

 

Growing older and growing up are two very different things. Your age only determines whether you're old, your actions determine whether you're an adult.

I agree with the "not paying for it ... don't let it affect your grades" sentiment.

 

I had a buddy that was either a Sigma Nu or Sigma Chi at SWT. Stephen Cochran?

 

you couldn't have paid me to join either one of those fraterntites on my campus.... EX because they were off campus with no prospect of coming back on (and gay) and EN because it was chock-full of spikey-haired metros.

KE baby.

edit: what year? i knew a stehpen that was an SAE, but i cant remember if his last name was cochran (SAE's were even more flamingly metro, but they had a handful of solid guys).

 

My friend was a country boy definitely not metro. Might have even been an SAE. Cannot remember.

Thought I'd throw the name out there. Great guy.

EDIT: 'just saw your SAE comment. '06. He grew his hair really long for a while there.

 

i graduated SWT '05 so probably not.

 

Texas Tech University - 1992-1996.

I have no problem with any children of mine going should they want to attend. I had a great time, and still have plenty of relationships through it.

 

Amen on that one, brother.

 

I've always found it amazing how chapters on some campuses are completely different on some other campuses.

You should really tell the girls to send their father to www.juicycampus.com. Quality reading.

 

in college, my roommate was in a frat. he was pulled over and locked up for a dui. (he was coming home from partying w/ his "brothers") he called all his "brothers" to swing by to pick him up. none of them went bc they had a party planned that night. in the end i pickup him up from the tank.

im sure there are a lot of sincere/honest people in frats. but from my experience, frats are a sham. if my son or daughter wanted to join one. id tell them no. if they still persisted, id tell them they could as long as 1. they pay the fees and 2. it doesnt affect their grades.

 

I'm not a big fan of Greek organizations in their traditional form. I wouldn't touch one with a ten foot pole. However, if it was my kid, they could do whatever they wanted to. When you're in college, you start learning to be an adult. I do think the expenses should be the kid's responsibility.

I always felt like the whole idea was overrated, and involved paying a bunch of money to let people your own age tell you what to do. It's depressing to think people can move up in the world just because, when they drank in college, they did it wearing the same Greek letters that their boss used to wear. Aren't we, as adult humans, supposed to construct our civilization on better things than that? It depends what you're planning to do, but there are jobs in the world you can make without those letters. Not to mention true friends (probably more real) and, for those who want to party, there are plenty of people who can do that just fine without being Greek.

But I do realize it's based on people's personalities - I may end up having a kid that's totally different from his or her mother, plays the traditional popularity game, and can't imagine life without that. If that's who my child is, then that's who he or she is. They can have that organizational framework for their social life if they want it, as long as they behave themselves.

Meanwhile, I encourage you all to go GDI... that's [gosh darn] Independent...

 

Could'nt agree with you more!

Hopefully, my parenting will allow my children to grow into responsible, social, and successful people without the aid of such organizations. I am sure that there are plenty of frat/sorority members who are good people, but I havent met them. The ones I have met are superficial flakes who would drop you the minute you stopped paying your dues.