socializing with co-workers

I've socialized with coworkers pretty much everywhere I've worked. I'm typically a pretty quiet person, but I will hang out with people if invited somewhere. Not like, call them up and see if they want to come over randomly to watch a game, but go hang out at a bar, sure.

Then again, a lot of times my coworkers have been people on here (Dave2000, aeroman10, OmegaSupreme)

 

Are you "mad" and saying "ugh" because you are married and unable to go see some cute chicks from work?

 

Well, I work in IT so...we get a wide variety of nerds. I personally could never hang out with most of them outside of work. But, we are all sociable while we are working. You always have the one guy who seemingly knows everything about everything. I have a hard time hanging with people like that...because they tend to look down on other people they work with...and they are so nerdy having conversations with them is exhausting. But, my boss is really cool and I wouldn't know he was a manager in IT if I met him on the streets. The rest of us under him range from really nerdy to somewhat nerdy to clueless nerdy. You have to be some level of nerdiness to work in IT. We can shoot the sh_t about non-work topics but those topics run out fast. They tend to turn to sports a lot...which is fine. But, saying we all have common interests outside of work would be a total lie. Social conversations over lunch is about all I can handle. We've been to some x-mas events and a Texas Rangers game. It's more tolerable when you get some alcohol in the system. lol

 

I used to work in an office with a lot of my friends and it was the funnest job that I've had, but I had to leave cause it didn't pay $**t. Now I work in a place with no one that I would really want to hang out with, but I don't mind because I like what I do and it pays a lot better.

 

I say that I socialized with coworkers a lot more when I was single compared to now. Shortly after I got married, my wife and me used to go out and eat with my boss and his wife (his wife was the one that set us up) but I found very quickly that you are asking for trouble when you try to become best friends with your boss. I now have a different boss (it's a woman instead of a guy) and although I am friendly with her, I can't see myself socializing with her since she has a family too (and her husband is the insanely jealous type). We'll work Bonnaroo together every year (her husband also works it with us) but that is really the only socializing I do now when it comes to co-workers.

 

Nothing more than polite office banter.

I like to keep my home and work life TOTALLY separate. I’m very George Costanza about the whole ‘worlds colliding’ thing…

 

Depends on which coworkers. I've got my good coworker friends who know me and the BF and we're all tight like that. I hang out with them on weekends, we go to each others parties, the whole nine. They're my homies.

Then there are the rest of the suckers I work with - they're a nuisance - it's tiring just to keep up office banter with them during the work week. I run the other way if I see them outside of work (and I literally have). Those people can go suck an egg.

 

i typically work contracts that last between 1 year and 3 years. on all of my jobs i've done the happy hour thing. a few jobs we would do happy hours fairly frequently because we enjoyed each other's company.

my current job has to be the most socializing i've done with coworkers. lunches, happy hours, movies, and just hanging around the office talking after work. these are people i would hang out with regardless.

and i'm currently "hanging out" with one of the chicks, so there's that...

 

I've had some gigs where I never wanted to hang out with anyone I worked with and some where I have met some of my best friends so I'd say it depends on the people and the situation. I prefer to be somewhere where I'm friends with the people I work with. It makes life much easier.

 

Never, ever, ever, EVER get high with your boss. Even if you work and live in Austin. Just say no.

 

I'd chat with them and all at work but that is it...no socializing outside of work.

 

interesting, my co workers are always trying to have get-togethers, happy hours, crawfish boils, for the most part I have no interest. I force myself to go on occasion though bc i've developed the reputation for never wanting to be involved in any of these things.

 

I'd like to know the story on that...that just seems pretty random

 

I am a keep em separate kinda person, but I've always worked with people I know already or that I liked a lot, so I've always hung out with coworkers whenever. I agree, usually not on a all the time consistent basis, but getting together to hang out whenever for a beverage, a game, or a Christmas Party has always been a good time regarding folks with whom I've worked.

I'm a "don't cross the streams" kinda guy, myself, and have seen the death of "independent crazydave" long ago, but it wasn't the anti-schism catastrophe I always thought, and generally has worked out.

 

I've made some pretty good lifelong friends at my old job that I still keep up with, and some at my new job too. For whatever reason, back at the law firm it was more like a school (class years etc) than a co-worker type environment, In fact I even got some of my old job friends/coworkers to come join me at the new one. I've known these folks for almost close to a decade, so after awhile the whole "work friend" distinction fades away.

 

Have the courage to learn to live happily with that you can't change, and change what you can't live happily with if you are able.

 

I'll have sex with co-workers but that's about it.

 

I dont get why co-workers are looked at differently from the people you meet at a bar, at a friends place, school etc... if i get along with them, have similar tastes in humor and culture, i make friends with them. Does it really matter that they also happen to work with you?