I don't think he is attacking you. I think he is listing reasons why some judgemental folks could be choosing not to hang out with you. That sucks but it's reality. Maybe I missed it earlier, but exactly what kind of things do you like to do for fun? I also wanted to note that the folks that you claim "do nothing"....they may be pretty content with that and actually have fun "doing nothing". Some folks are just homebodies and can enjoy sitting around the house, or talking on the phone to someone, etc. If they are content doing their thing I don't think you can really down them for it....
You're now the: Old dude, with long hair, who goes out alone because no one wants to go with him. You're screwed.
They are mostly homebodies, which in and of itself is fine. I'm not complaining about anybody being homebodies....I'm not dogging them for that at all. I was complaining that I was bored because they're a bunch of homebodies. Our lack of cohesion has been noticed by faculty, and faculty has been getting on us for it. And as for fun, I mentioned bowling, movies, lunch, dinner, playing pool, watching OU games, going to hear music, etc....basically anything that would allow for us all to get to know one another better. I get along with everyone, and everyone gets along with me. I've never questioned whether or not people like me because I have no reason to believe that they don't.
Did you turn into Rocket River all of a sudden? I'll just keep hanging with the seniors. Going to one girls house for dinner tonight. The seniors rock. My class....not so much.
I've skimmed the thread and not knowing anything about Lawton, OK or your classmates I have no good advice. I will relate to you my school experience during grad school which was that almost all of my time was spent either in class or doing Judo. While my classmates weren't the homebodies that your class seems to be they weren't very social or very outgoing. I got in good with a few friends in class and we are still friends now and also ended up dating someone I went to school with. The most I can suggest is to just try to get close to a small group of your classmates rather than the whole class. Yes, it might be come off as being a clique but you will probably find it more rewarding and comfortable for yourself and your friends than trying to worry about fostering camraderie among your whole class. I also agree with the gym suggestions and particularly if you can get in good with a group of friends who you regularly work out with. Physical activity will do a lot to relieve your stress and its also good to be doing something that has nothing to do with the rest of your school work. The other thing you might want to look at is meetup.com to see about finding groups of people in Lawton who might be doing things you might be interested in doing or if there are no meetups in Lawton even checking craigslist or other Internet resources for things to do. Finally just hang in there. I've had a few periods in my life where I've felt like you do and the worst thing you can do is get down on yourself and your life. Depression and desperation is never appealing so it helps to stay positive. Good luck!
What the heck does having long hair or short hair have anything to do with this? As for Lynus, I think part of the reason why the younger students don't want to do anything is because they are so focused on not failing out. It would be a huge financial burden if one does. The seniors can afford to have fun, because they know they can pass classes with a certain amount of study balanced with leisure. The younger students probably haven't proven themselves in terms of getting actual semester final grades in the book.
Cool...so it sounds like you are more of an outdoors person. Sorry there aren't more folks like that in your class....
Cheer up 1999er! Find a new hobby, hell go do something you thought you don't like doing.. ie. country western dancing. have you tried meetup stuff? do like fight club and start going to random stuff
Lynus...I've known you for a while, so I guess I can chime in now. I've been in your situation many times. The only thing I can tell you is that you've got to find your own happiness in this world. Whatever it is that makes you happy, as long as it doesn't break the law, go for it. It could be snowboarding, macrame, studying the Civil War, video games, writing, playing an instrument, chasing tail, whatever. You've got to find out what it is, and treasure it. I'm going through a little of this right now...working way too much and not having enough fun. Definitely not playing enough guitar, either in public or around the house. I have vowed to fix the around the house part this week. Don't have a blues gig until the end of February, unless we get some parties or clubs booked...we are playing the House of Blues (Restaurant) at the end of February. The other band is tediously mixing it's new CD, and won't be doing any shows until it comes out, probably in the spring. So, until then, I work...and work...and work. Could be better, but could be much worse.
Seems like your the Mr. Knowitall type of person, oh well at least I tried giving you some of my advice. Hope everything goes well with you and your classmates.
I thought I'd revisit this thread after finishing a sleep-deprived Semester from Hell. My semester was spent treating Mondays and Tuesdays as my weekends because Wednesday-Sunday I was studying for the tests we had every single freaking Monday. After class Monday = relaxation and moderate alcohol abuse. It was tough but I made it out of the semester alive and with a 3.5 GPA and a 22yo girlfriend, who I'll get to in a minute. I spent my summer working at an ER in Oklahoma, poking people with various sharp objects and sticking tubes into various orifices and I loved every minute of it. I'm now sitting here in Houston, reveling in the fact that I'm back in civilization. Oklahoma isn't all bad, and I know Texas has plenty of weirdos, but some of these people look like they just stumbled out of the woods and wandered into the ER. Usually during my shift. Anyway. I'm about to start my senior year. A year from now, I'll be an RN working who knows where and making a good living. For the first time in my life, quite literally the whole world will be open to me, and I can't wait. My class is still lame. Everyone is still cool, but very, very boring. I've just had to accept that fact and more or less give up on any form of group cohesion/support/camaraderie with my classmates, who are collectively about as much fun as trying to cath a 400lb woman who hasn't had a bath in a week. As a result, I have branched out beyond my class because they all suck: beer buddies and friends range from 18-30yo. Only one of them is actually in my class. He's the only other guy in the program and he's quite possibly the weirdest 21yo I know of, but he's still cool. And I'm nailing a 22yo chick in my class. She's sweet, cute, and a total freak. Helluva cook, too. And she does my laundry. All in all, Oklahoma isn't all bad, which basically just means that it isn't terrible. I've carved out a decent enough niche for myself that's doable for another year, anyway. Then I'm off to anywhere I want. And if Ace is still around wanting to insist that I still need a haircut before anyone will ever like me/hang out with me/respect me: I'm now entering the 6th of what will surely be many more years of being surrounded by doctors, nurses, nurse practitioners, nurse anesthetists, social workers, PhD's, etc. and my hair is still long and still no one cares. Except chicks, of course. They love it. Yep.
I didn't read your entire post but I'm glad things have improved for you getting that haircut was a good idea after all
Congrats! Two of the dad's of kids in my son's soccer league are RN's. One has long hair. Both are very cool. That's not your pic you posted, is it? Because long hair with a bald head isn't quite so cool .
