I know, that's just a wrong thing to do. He's definitely leading him on by saying "thanks" after the guy texted him he was "sexy". That pretty much changed the game. He was probably gauging to see if you were gay or not and saying "yes" gave him the answer he wanted. Now you have to go with it or break his heart. Just go with it dude.
yup. I still can't understand how on earth he thought it was a good idea to text "thanks". He should have defused the situation by a little joke like..."thanks, but you aren't my type...i'm a vagina man."
Why do women tell guys they work with who ask them out that they have a boyfriend even if they don't? There are a variety of reasons why you might want to let a guy down easy in this situation especially if its a work situation. You would hope that everyone would be professional enough that they don't get offended when they get turned down by a co worker but human nature doesn't always work that way.
Get really intimate with him, pull his pants down, and then say "ewwww... you have a penis?!?! gross!!!"
Document every text/email that is inappropriate. Let him know that you're uncomfortable with certain language. If he doesn't back off... PROFIT.
There might be a human resources issue here, but... it seems you may have left the door open for more innuendos and advances from this dude if you don't put a stop to it. Speak to him candidly and just smoothly enough so you don't piss him off and he runs off to call your employment office. What's the issue here? You know what to say, but don't know if you CAN or SHOULD? What makes you afraid to say: "Dude, excuse me for saying this, but... I believe you might think I am gay, but I am not. I don't mind the compliments, but I am not attracted to you. Sorry. Are we cool?" ?? Just be straightforward with him without beating around the bush, so-to-speak. Do this when you two are alone, and let him know you're telling him alone so you don't make a fool of either of you in front of other people. Also, ask him if you can trust he won't go to HR to tell them a different story. That's just my opinion here. Don't play with these things if they're this serious.
not all women do that, but for the ones that do i would say its b/c they are not interested in the person asking them out and they are too afraid to just be honest about it. in the case of the OP i dont think he should be afraid to be honest. "let him down easy" - give me a break judoka! - this isnt you breaking up with some one you have been dating for a couple years...this is a dude who needs to tell another dude straight up that he doesnt swing that way. and i have a feeling that someone who goes around acting the way this gay dude is acting towards the OP isnt someone who is going to be "offended" if his advances are rejected. and if he thinks there is a problem he goes to his manager and lets them know of the situation and shows them the text - that way if the gay dude starts causing problems the boss will already know whats up. now the poster has admittedly done a very poor job of making himself clear and im here to tell him that he should not feel embarrassed or act like he owes anybody kind of considerations. here is exactly what you say OP..."i might be totally off base here and i am admittedly a little slow picking up on stuff like this, but it seems like you want to be more than friends and i absolutely do not swing that way." and i would say you thought the "sexy" text was a joke so thats why you just said "thanks". when you are trying to tell a gay dude to back off it seems silly to first have to say "i have a girlfriend...so back off". that implies that if he didnt have a girlfriend that he might be interested when the reality is that he is not gay...thats all there is to it.
I think it's a great oppurtunity for the OP to experiment. Maybe move the earring over to the right side for a week or two. If you walk funny and don't like it you can always switch back, right?
