good luck. tough situation and i wish you better luck than how my parent's divorce went. the hair will get you more chicks...so that doesn't need to be a worry for ya.
Hey Jeff, welcome to the club... my divorce should be final in February. Same situation, still friends, mutual split, yadda yadda yadda.... I know I'm happier. I have ups and downs but that's par for the course. The biggest difference is the lack of a dual income, but I'm managing. Good luck to ya buddy!
Wow, really sorry to hear that. It's good to see that both of you (well I'm guessing both of you) are handling things well and ok; I don't think I could be anywhere near as stable, even after a few months. Man, makes me scared to think that, when and if I do get married, how much of a chance these days such things will last. Hope for the best for both of you.
I'm sorry to hear about that, man. Breaking up always sucks, and a divorce always sucks even more. I am happy to hear that you two are making the best of it and are able to remain friends. I never met Mrs. JB, but you were one of the first people I met from this bbs way back when Save Our Rockets first got started, and everything I've read by her here makes me think that she's every bit as cool as you are. Again, sorry to hear about that and best of luck to you both.
yeah, last night, in the chat, i wanted to say something, but all i know is, i didn't want to say the wrong thing. Divorce is a bad thing, or it could just be the best damn thing in your life, so instead of saying anything, I just kept thinking to myself in chat, "DAMNIT BELTRAN, SIGN.!" This means you can now hit the adult clubs with no repercussions.
Like Dr of Dunk said, it's kind of mind blowing. And as Isabel said, we really only know what we "see" through the Net, in our community here. After 26 years of marriage, with more ups and downs than you could count, I can't imagine splitting up. That's probably dumb luck more than anything else. I don't know how long the two of you were together, but I'm sure it's hard to take a step like this. As everyone else has said, best of luck to you both.
I keep waiting for Mrs Balke to show up here and post: "Whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa; you get to keep the house? Get your butt upstairs, we're gonna talk about that!!" And Jeff types, "Look, can we discuss this later?" And she replies, "Uh, I know all these Internet Rockets geeks worship you and everything, but just 'cause you Saved the Rockets does NOT mean you GET to KEEP the HOUSE!" And Jeff replies, "G**damnit, don't move, I'm coming upstairs. Ugh. I can't believe this!" ----- Just kidding with you, Jeff. Breaking up sucks, but you seem prepared to deal with it. At least you've had some time to digest this. Stay cool. Before you know it you'll be strutting past the Power Dancers wearing an "A$$MAN" T-shirt: "That's right, ladies, that's right, come and get me; oh, hey, sweeties, let's see, no, don't tell me your names, I'm gonna call you Wednesday and you Thursday."
Dude, this sucks. I guess everyone has their reasons, but I just hate to see people who call themselves best friends suddenly develop compatability issues....something much deeper is happening. Sorry man, keep your chin up. Can I ask a personal question? You don't have to answer this if you don't want to, but what was your guy's love based on?
Jeff, if you do find Jennifer Aniston's phone number, and you happen to come across Brad's number.... Could you get me that? Not that I need it, but you know.... It's Brad Pitt. But seriously, best wishes and much happiness to the both of you.
We were married 9 years - together 12 1/2. There is a BIG difference between compatibility as friends and compatibility as married partners. I don't want to go off into a big lengthy discussion of our situation because it is complex, but we just have very different ideas, ultimately, of what relationships should be. Neither of us is right or wrong, just different. We really wanted things to work and the fact that we do get along so well probably caused it to take longer than it probably should have to figure it out. She is really an amazing woman and we both have great love and respect for one another. We just need different things from life and from love. As for dividing up stuff, that's been pretty easy. We are both WAY too lazy to argue about stuff. It comes down to something like: Person A: I really want the toaster. Person B: Yeah, I could use it too. Person A: Well, what do we do? Person B: **** it. You keep it. I'll just get another one. Person A: Well, let's go get one for you so at least you get a decent one. Person B: Cool. Thanks. That is pretty much how it worked because we'd rather be kind and lower our stress than argue over material crap.
Or not. Funny, but looking at personals, the #1 turnoff seems to be long hair and the #2 seems to be facial hair. Damn, two strikes against me already.
As someone who is engaged to be married to his best friend, I'm interested in how each of your ideas differed... I just don't see you as being someone to let petty arguments get in the way of love, or who would be unwilling to change your idea about what should come from a marriage... Sorry to be so nosey.
That isn't an issue. Since I'm staying in the house, most of them will stay here. We will divide the costs of caring for them - food, vet bills, etc. That's a big deal to us so it was right at the top of the list of things to decide. twhy77: I respect your question, but it honestly isn't something I'd like to hash out on a public bulletin board. Suffice it to say the things that led to this decision were neither petty and or insignificant and had been coming for a LONG time.
Come on man, the Rockets are important but not THAT important! Wow, this was unexpected. Sorry if it wasn't meant to be. Best of luck to the both of you.
