I been down lately and want to get things off my head. My girlfriend I been talking to for a little while now broke up with me two days ago on the 20th(the night of the massacre). So far I can't get her out my head and it's killing me. I thought she was a 10. I wanted to do everything with her and I wanted to go everywhere with her too. We use to talk nonstop when we were together and we spent most days just talking. We shared a bunch of things in common and all I did was think about her... When we were together, I felt good and didn't care about any other girls I seen. Now the only thing that's easing my mind so far is the news of our rookies doing well in SL and the team getting Jeremy Lin. I need relief from this so I can move on and get going again. I feel drained, I don't feel like doing anything right now. I don't known too many people here and not having anything going at the moment too makes it worst. I need some ideas to maybe help get this out my system. Getting wasted though is not something not an option and not something I do. Help me get this off my mind already! *And btw I'm not putting a picture of her up so don't bother asking...
You don't have to get hammered but why not some drinks? I would say make some guy friends too and go out. Definitely don't stay in and just think about her.
Keep yourself busy. Working out, reading, hanging with friends, work...whatever. Just curious...did she give you a reason/excuse? How did she break it to you?
Know the feeling bro. It's worse when the girl is basically your best friend. Chin up man, you'll get through it.
Work on yourself. Focus on any hobbies you may have. Work out/play an instrument/video games/go running/hiking/play ball at the gym/whatever. Just remember what you used to do before her. Surely you had things going on back then. Try to get into those things again. If not, find new hobbies. Busy yourself with things that interest you and it'll help you a lot.
Go do other ****. Go ball, get a bike and ride the seawall, pick up a book and better yourself intellectually in whatever interests you, dress nice and go on with your day with a smile, people will notice you, go hit the gym and get cut up. I'm not the kind to find a one night stand or get hammered, I'm the kind that will make her wish she hadn't ended it if you run into her again.
keep urself busy, hang out with friends...maybe u might meet another girl that you will start to like...or that you will start talking to take ur mind off ur ex
I won't get into details much but she said she felt like we were at different places and that we wanted different things. She could've kicked me in my nuts and it probably would've been less painful than hearing that.
My advice isn't worth much, but I've been in your exact spot. I'd be lying if I said I don't still feel a little sting when I think about that specific girl. We all leave marks on one another, even if we don't think so. It never gets totally easy, you simply need to acknowledge that there's a wide world out there. Don't get too down on yourself because of her choices. Fulfillment will never come from other people, only from yourself. You won't find your best relationship until you're fully confident, and women can sense that. Give everything time. Focus on starting/mastering an instrument, going to the gym, accomplishing projects. Don't jump feet first into a social group, be natural. Don't beat yourself up for having negative feelings, but be self-aware and realize that tomorrow is another day. Things have a way of working themselves out; pessimism doesn't accomplish anything. This is all easier said than done... but I've learned that every single of one of these steps helped me. Most of all remember: It's a process, not an event.
