Totally wrong. Speak to him and have him speak to his wife about getting "his time" with her and to enjoy marriage and fatherhood to the fullest. No one should high-five anyone for cheating on their spouses, whether they're 50 or 20 years old. It isn't unusual for people at work to know if you're married or aren't. These things are easily communicated through casual conversations or by some photos on your desk or, better yet, that ring you're supposed to wear as a symbol that you're taken. No person "doesn't know" someone is married or isn't, unless they meet on the street or at a club. Of course we can blame the woman as well. I disagree with you. As our Mexican saying goes: tanto peca el que mata la vaca que el que le agarra la pate (the one who kills the cow is as much to blame as the one who helps him kill it). There's no need for "professional advice". A marriage is a sacred vow. What, you were lying when you made your vows? Someone should also talk to that woman and see what her intentions are. Mr ROXRAN, I don't know if you might want to talk to your cousin alone, but you should also let him know that this is something his wife should know. Your cousin should stop doing this. EDIT: He told you about this because he needs help. HELP HIM.
Possibly a midlife crisis. Tell him to buy a motorcycle instead. An extremely likely possibility to consider though, he has finally found true love with his soulmate! This 23 year old is obviously an angel sent from above, and his wife is an evil hag. The only way we can judge on the matter is with pictures of both. P.S. He can still be a good father after divorce. But he's most definitely a bad husband either way. P.P.S. I'd divorce him if I was the wife. P.P.P.S. I'm serious about the pictures.
Is this also a definition of a douche? Or, does he also need the bad tan and stupid hair cut with the Whitesnake - "Is this Love?" playing in his car stereo while he drives over to 24 year old's house? lol He has crossed the line. It didn't seem like a very hard decision for him to betray his family. He could lose them both. He could be screwed (pun intended). Now, he either comes clean or walks around with a lie on his face the rest of his family life. I feel bad for his wife and son.
sorry, but your cousin is an idiot and a piece of trash. You should tell him as much, and then turn your back on the situation.
Yeah, I personally wouldn’t want to have anything to do with someone who could betray his family like that. Not the kind of person I want to be associated with, family or not. He would be out of my life until he cut it off with the honey and went back to his family. If he has problems with the marriage, better to work them out than abandon his kid for some silly little hussy he has the hots for.
Totally do the opposite of this ^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Talk with him and explain to him the consequences of his actions. He may lose his sons respect in the future and many others as well. Tell him that if he wants to see others that he needs to end it the right way. Ask him if its really worth it. Right now he may be caught up in all the 'new' sex and thinks it is. Just talk with him. This is a family member who is important to you. He stood in your wedding and I can read that you do care about him. Dont just do 'nothing'. Something has to open his eyes and make him realize that this is all wrong. Maybe it will be you.
Not something I wanted to read with my wedding coming up soon... Note to self: stay sexy and give my hubby booty after having kids... OP, like someone said, it is not your business and you should stay out of it...lot of things can go wrong like his wife hating you for knowing about this affair. i know it is hard since you guys are close but nothing will change if he won't change anything about himself. i think this is more of needing some attention that his wife is not giving him and his ego is all up there from getting attention from a twenty- something old chick, especially if she's hot.
^ It is his business if it's his cousin and he trusted ROXRAN with this information. HE IS ASKING FOR HELP. p.s. Even guys who get the "best booty" after kids or after marriage with their own wife get tired of other things and go look for other things their wife isn't giving them. It can't just be the sex alone that keeps someone without infidelities. These things happen from a combination of things. Some things lead to others, and deterioration should stop at the first sign. I know from experience.
I know he told Roxran but it doesnt mean he can get involved...he could just say "hey man, i dont agree with what you're doing so just leave me out of this until you man up". Really, from experience? Hmmm.
that was the point of my post. You have to confront him. His is a grown ass man and doesnt need to be handled with kid gloves. The only way he will tell that his actions are serious is when it alienates his family (which is what his actions will ultimately do). Sit down, tell him you are only doing this when because you care. Tell what he is doing is downright trashy and stupid. Then tell him if he continues this behaviour, that you wan't nothing to do with him and may even be forced to get the family involved.
Everyone in this thread has been an idiot so far. Tell him to keep banging the 23 year old and keep the wife unnoticed about it. Forget Steve McNair, that was a rare situation. After he gets tired of the 23 year old, he can dump her in the alley, go back to his wife, and let her smell the perfume. Then, your job is to go there and video tape their "fight". Woo Woo. So essentially, your job is to continue to encourage him to do this... and then at the end, video tape it. And please, don't quote this message with negative responses.
He dipped his pen in the company ink. He's screwed. If it doesn't work out with the mistress, he could lose his job and family.
