I'd try to get him professional help. i cant think of any cirsumstance where I would strike my mother that is not a normal thing to do unless your like 8 years old... Also not sure if he is able to live on his own but i was capable of living on my own and was living with the parents are 33 years old I'd be upset as well as they woud be.That would be an unhappy household. Also if i had to live my parents as an adult for any circumtance i cant imagine myself being very happy... sounds like a bad situation good luck to you
FT, You really only had two options in this case, call the law or keep it in the family. You kept it in the family. Your brother should be thankful. If you mother is over 65, he could have been looking at a 3rd degree felony.
I gave you rep. You know, for being able to type on the computer with your head and a stick up your ass. Props to you.... Oh, and it's "you're." Maybe that's a mistake caused by the head/ass syndrome, though.
The fact that you are self-aware enough to feel guilt in the first place and trusting enough of the opinions of people here says plenty about who you are. Don't be so hard on yourself. I don't think anyone here is too judgmental about what you did. You found yourself in a difficult situation without an easy resolution and lost your temper. Most of us, as grown men, have done worse, especially when faced with circumstances similar to yours. What your brother did to your mother is much more serious and much more likely to happen in the future. You have a capacity for self-control that he clearly doesn't, and if your situations were reversed, I doubt you'd get off as lightly as three slaps. I have an aunt that's mentally disabled (mentally about 6 to 8 years old) and she was very violent when she was young. My grandmother was probably not well equipped to deal with her in the first place, and it eventually drove her to a breakdown, which prompted moving my aunt here , where she's been now for most of her life and is much happier. I don't know if your situation is extreme enough for something like this, but if you really believe your brother is a danger to your parents, I'd consider something like this.
My family isn't that close really either. I don't feel comfortable asking them things like I do here. I always have described my family as just a bunch of acquaintances who happen to be related. I have no problem/issues with my family per se, it was just that we were never close growing up. So I don't think a family situation must "REALLY suck" it could just be that some folks weren't really close to begin with.
I'm sorry that you don't have a support system to get you through emotional and stressing times, but that's no reason to take it out on someone that does.
Wait. I don't get how people do this. I mean you click GARM, and then you click a thread in GARM. Then you formulate a thought about the game. And then you post in said thread in GARM. There are like 3 safeguards built in to prevent posting in a wrong thread, and forum. I've seen other people do this as well, but never understood how it is possible to post in a wrong thread albeit wrong forum.
I did it once, simple error. Had the game thread up and another window with the Hangout as I was reading stuff in there in timeouts... do it most games.. quickly wrote something and hit submit while watching the game and then saw what I did. Simple to do and if you can't edit well your're stuck with it! You have to remember a lot of members and rookies post on other forums where they can edit their post so you get used to submitting and then checking.
Police, restraining order and/or some kind of honest-to-goodness competency hearing, unless you plan on being there 24-7. Based on some of my own family's experience, your brother's assault might compel the parents to get a gun or something to protect themselves. In what appears to be a inevitably tense living situation, that could then easily spiral out of control.
Thanks, but this is not a situation in which he does not want to leave or he is forcing his way in. My parents are taking care of him...and I can guarantee that a gun will not be considered.
Thanks guys for your suggestions and support. I've spoken with Tara and my sister extensively about this. A psychiatrist would obviouosly be the best choice. We've actually spoken to my parents about this in the past, but they never followed through on taking him. We have had his doctor evaluate his medicinal dosage, but doc said his readings were all within acceptable levels. As my brother and I sat and spoke that night, he told me some of the things that were bothering him. Like I said before, he is lonely, and I understand his frustration about being alone. Doesn't excuse what he did, and we did talk a lot about how he treats his family. I didn't get a chance to go by last night, as I still can't face my dad, but I have been calling to check up on him. My mom and sister tell me his is bruised and swollen, but not hurting much. I was able to sleep better last night, so I guess I am coping with the situation. Thanks for the support.
