i would think it's always hotter if the other person makes the first move, when it comes to initiating sex or even just making out...it pretty much guarantees they want you.
I think that a woman likes... a man to take charge... tell'er what to do... Sincerely, Spoiler NOT SO FAST. Name that movie! (difficulty: easy) Ok... I mentioned [and showed] some of your responses to her... and she says she likes that there are fun and serious responses all around. Adding to my point... if a man lets a woman "make the first move", he will probably expect her to "make the first move" for lots of other things... not in a "macho" sort of way, again, but... you know... for everything... "well, you decide where to go... I can't think", which unconsciously is saying: "I'm indecisive." Do women like that? The coworker says she doesn't like for the guy to wait until SHE says where to go, what to do, what to watch, etc. , all the time... maybe SOME of the time... but not always.
Pole was right on, woman usually make the first move... Whether it is by continual eye contact, body movements, complex maneuvering... When they find a man they want, they give the clues. If you are drawn to someone, you should act. I, personally, think men and woman should have the balls to make it known they are interested when they want something strong enough... then I think the man should seal the deal and ask the lady out. With my wife, I saw her immediately and purposely sat within 5 feet of her in plain view... waited for her to give me a couple fond glances to know I had a chance, then I started casual conversation which she helped build and knew that asking her out was the next move... there is definitely a rising energy shared.
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I read the "how do i know this?" question in the voice of Dirk Calloway and answered, "because you're such a good friend."
I think in this day and age, it doesn't really matter too much. I have to agree with the poster that said women make the first move subconciously. They really do.
If a woman makes the first move, it is assumed by all parties that there is an offer of sex, with no assumptions that there will be a 'relationship'. Men are remorseless horny dogs.
You make it sound like it's such a bad thing, good sir. Swoly, I think it's time you show us pics of said coworker.
I asked some of my friends (girls) and the told that they would make the first move only if they are really, really attracted to the guy. If not, then they wait for the man.
Being a shy guy, I voted yes. But I noticed recently that there are more females making the first move than I had expected.
In my experience the women who make the first move tend to be more slutty, outgoing, and less loyal. I prefer these women.
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