We were on vacation in Tulum,Mexico and sat by an older couple that had been married 42 years. My wife asked her "What is the secret that helped you two stay married for so long?" She looked at my wife and told her. "You never say no to your man honey." I looked at her husband and he blinked at me. I called the waiter over and bought each of us a shot of tequila. No sex, no marriage unless there was something preventing her medically like cancer or an accident. I would want to take care of her rather than that.
Dude, you guys should be hitting it 3 or 4 times a week AT LEAST. If she's not in the mood, there are things you can do to GET her in the mood, ya savvy? Pick up some flowers and a bottle of wine on the way home from work tonight and GET BUSY.
I had 2 (three year) "dry spells" since I became sexually active. This was a result of not finding a suitable partner and not being willing to jump through 100 hoops to bed some random woman I wasn't that interested in. (Don't feel too sorry for me, for a 40 year old single guy my sex life has mostly been very good.) So my experience is that while not having any sex at all for a length of time is unpleasant, it can be endured. That said, when I am in a relationship I expect regular sex, which my partner is into and enthusiastic about (or at the very least makes me believe so). Not because I NEED sex, but because it is a good and important part of life and relationships. If my girlfriend were to suddenly develop a permanent headache I would 1) See if there was anything I could do to alleviate life stresses that might keep her from wanting to have sex. 2) See if there is anything in bed I can do to make sex better for her 3) Figure out if this is a temporary lack of ardor or something more permanent But if none of those worked out I would not cheat but 4) Extricate myself from the relationship. I have a right to a full life that makes me happy just as much as a woman does.
^Well said... I've been in droughts, the longest 6 months...twice...but that was when I coming out of relationships trying to figure out what i really wanted...it can be endured, but if I was in a relationship/marriage and that was the status quo, why wouldn't you want to get out...why stay in that type of relationship, kids or not... hahahaha...I'm in a long distance relationship now, so when I'm in town, it's twice/three times a day on the weekend...if its not a long distance relationship, it should be a lot more, IMHO...
Only one female other than me posted something about this. Tell us your opinions! "Never saying no to your man" - Um, no. If I am tired and want to sleep, I give hubby a rain check. Why would I want to have it if i am not in the mood? I don't blame you for that and that is being honest. It doesn't make sense to be in a sexless relationship. Why not be BFFs?
We have sex (or some sort of sexual relation) pretty much every single day. There is rarely a day that we skip. Ever. We've been together 6 years.
Not all husbands want their wives if they see they arent in the mood young lady. You have to be a little mature about time and your partners mood. I dont believe there are husbands wanting his wife 24hrs / 7 days a week. That might be an addiction. :grin:
a woman in her 30's is peaking sexually. so if she isnt sexually active with her husband then she prolly is with someone else. (health problems aside). and if her hubby isnt frankenfurtering her then he is most likely a chronic masturbator, gay or cheating.
Ever heard of a quickee? 3 minutes and done. It will put a smile on your man's face. And when you get down to it, how priceless is that?
I've discovered that that's not true, at least for some. My SO is still searching for her sexual peak. It's gotten better over the years, not worse. Rain checks are good. If I'm told, "Work was **** today, sweetie. I'm beat. Tomorrow night, I promise!" that does it for me. She always comes through on a deal like that. I get to ponder it for 24 hours, have time to line up the mood enhancers, make sure the toys work, there's a classic in the DVD gizmo from the 1970's, that I've got her favorite libation cold in the fridge, and that I haven't run out of the blue pill. Actually, being shined on for a day can end up being far better than her getting it on when she's half awake. And I don't get the "age thing." We jump in the sack as often today as we did twenty years ago, which is to say a lot. After 30+ years together, things still click beautifully. And thank goodness for modern science! At my age, the buzz from the boost is a bonus, especially if you pop one about 3 hours before you figure to hit the sheets.
