Anyone who is in a serious relationship, but is thinking about having a fling with someone else and is asking for advice on a bulletin board, is not in a serious relationship.
Thank you. Saying you aren't that attractive and then saying that you've got all these chances to get laid (obviously hinting that doing that would make you feel better about yourself) really says more about your level of insecurity than it does about your manliness or attractiveness. Any guy who thinks that being the best looking guy in a bar full of hot women is what makes you attractive doesn't really understand women very well. And any guy who thinks other guys think he is cool because he gets laid often by different women cares way too much what other men think.
Your girlfriend is already dealing with this issue all the time. She has other men hitting on her all the time. She's turned down opportunities for your sake (as far as you know). I only wanted to play I thought what he didn't know wouldn't hurt him anyway But he found out and someone else gave him her hand to hold And suddenly I find myself out in the cold He trusted me all the time I thought I could see another man and he would still be mine Well yesterday I had a good thing worth more than gold Today he's got a truer love and I'm out in the cold I had a love warmer than fire But I listened to my desire Now yesterday's dreams are tomorrow's heart aches I'm payin' (payin') for my mistakes Now girl, take a tip from one who knows If you open up a new door, you may find the old one's closed So be true to your good man Take a lesson from the story I have told Or you just might get-a left now out in the cold You just might get-a left now out in the cold Don't let yourself get left now out in the cold Don't let yourself get-a left now out in the cold
The mere fact that you have to ask means that it is wrong. Why do something like that unless the girl you are with means nothing to you. At least have the courtesy of dumping her first (and let her know the real reason) then you can bone all the girls you want. Cheating is wrong no matter how you spin it.
I've tried this and come pretty close a few times, but it's just way too much effort Now as for the people criticizing me for starting this thread, relax, this is just a situation that I haven't really encountered before, thus, I was asking to see what others who have been in the same position have done...no need to over overanalyze
I strongly disagree. Attraction to other females and the temptation will always exists, even within the confines of a committed relationship. We're sexual beings. The choice to cheat, on the other hand, would signify immaturity and unpreparedness to handle a serious relationship.
Do what ever the hell you want, just don't lie about it. If you want to to risk your existing relationship for some strange tang, fine, just be straight with the girl, tell her exactly what's going on, you're young, you're not married. I will remind you (as I always do) that when you go for the drama, the higher highs usally comes lower lows too. You may have some hot sex, you might find a better relationship or you may end up with nuthin. My other applicable universal truth is my current sig.
I don't see that at all. Manny said that if you're tempted to cheat, then you're not ready for a serious relationship. Stone Cold Hakeem disagreed by saying people can always be tempted, regardless of whether or not they are in a serious relationship. I'm obviously in one and of course it would be tempting if a hot woman came up to me. I would never do it, but it sure would be tempting.
To me, "tempting" implies that the thought would cross one's mind regardless of whether or not you choose to act. For me, the thought would never cross my mind even if the circumstance presented itself, but that's just me.
not the thought to actually do it. but the thought that really simply that person is attractive. and that that said person would find you attractive would make you feel good about yourself.
Quality > Quantity Though you may not drive a great big Cadillac Gangsta whitewalls TV antennas in the back You may not have a car at all But remember brothers and sisters You can still stand tall Just be thankful for what you've got.
I understand where you are coming from CreepyFloyd. Im 21 and I've been with my girlfriend for three and a half years now and she's the only girl I've been with. Sure the temptation always exist but if you are going to do it, I'd recommend breaking up with her first. Even if you don't get caught, it is something that will probably be in the back of your mind for a long time whenever you are with your girlfriend. The regret and hurt feelings and all the other stuff that comes with cheating is not worth it. One of the ways I've looked at it before is that a lifetime (or however long) is worth more than an hour with some random girl. P.S. If you do cheat, at least get tested afterwards if you go back to your gf. It's bad enough to betray her trust but to pass something on is unforgiveable.
You can't make it happen, you just have to be at the right place at the right time. If your ever lucky enough, enjoy.
I agree. There is a difference between looking at another woman and thinking she is good looking and thinking about whether or not you would be "tempted" to cheat.
