Moving is the best way to deal with dirty laundry, skeletons in the closet and other past secrets. Just go rent a UHaul.
I can relate, it happened to me after I first started dating my current girlfriend in college. All of a sudden, girls become attracted to you. I think someone said it earlier, it's because you no longer reek of trying too hard and desperation. I eventually broke up with her a year ago for about 9 months, and I did the "talking to other girls" thing. I ended up getting back together with her (10x the effort to get back with a girl who's heart you broke once). So the bottom line is, if you're thinking about cheating, don't. If you want to break up with her and play the field, by all means do it. Just know that you'll never work harder to get with a girl than you will trying to get your ex back.
Already plenty of good advice in this thread. Look into what you want to do and why you want to do it. Assuming it's not "because my girlfriend doesn't love me and I wish my life was better", and it's more just "because the little head tells me to"... ...think deeply about what would happen if she found out. (and usually, sooner or later, they do; even if they don't, you're having to live with that guilt forever) You would lose a lot of what has made you so happy in the first place. You would regret it and might never be able to make amends. Think about what's more important to you, long term. (and, if you do cheat, at least make sure the other woman knows you have a girlfriend and that you're only there to hit it. Make sure everything is at least open and above board. Still, I would rather not even see that.)
How would you like it if she started ****ing some other guys? That should tell you what you should do in this situation.
truer words have never been spoken (or typed, i guess.) i've been on both sides of this situation and there is no winner. be thankful for what you have, or move to something else.
relax man...as unfortunate as it is, we guys apply different rules and standards to women as we do ourselves, which is why a guy who gets a lot of girls is viewed in a positive light by other guys, while a girl who gets around is viewed in a negative light...i'm applying a different standard to myself than her....life isnt fair
thanks for all the good advice thus far...i especially appreciate the female perspective on this issue
man, thats like a triple-double or something....thanks for sharing your story and thanks for the advice as well
Man, when I was single, no one wanted me. Now I get calls asking if I want to be a judge in a BJ contest. Just think about how you would feel if she cheated on you, then think about how she would feel if you do that to her. And she will find out, either from your guilt or because you don't cover your tracks. Also stay out of situations that would tempt you and if someone hits on you mention the gf or act sleazy.
but he's asking how would you feel if she did it to you? not how others would react to her. if you dont mind her sleeping with other guys, maybe you should bring it up with her. you know, an open relationship?
The only thing about that is that the one constant is you. If you f^ck something up badly in one place chances are you will do it again somewhere else.
Here's the thing. Your relationship has already lasted 2 1/2 years and possibly going for a lot longer. Sex with someone else will last x minutes. After that lying, deception, possible guilt, will last for quite awhile, and probably occasionally rear its head from time to time as long as long as you are with your gf. Are those minutes of pleasure going to be worth the prolonged dishonesty, possible hurt, stress, etc. that will happen after you do this? The decision is yours, but those are basically your options.
couldnt agree more...not once have you said something thats wrong with your current girlfriend. dont risk it Im sure you wouldnt feel too good about the situation if the tides were turned
I absolutely cannot take you serious. Your speak cracks me up and so you deserve to be in my sig for awhile.
