I have a couple of thoughts. I hate the a-holes who will never initiate a greeting when you pass them in the hallway. And often times when you do they may not say anything, just keep walking. And it's not as if they are pissed at me, they are just rude jerks. Another thing I hate is when I see someone coming...you time it just right to get your greeting out and they blurt out first, "how's it going?" and I follow with "how's it going" because that's already what I had in my head. I'm not quick enough to say "what's up?" instead. I've had that happen to me countless times. A higher up at one place I worked would always say, "what's up, my man?". We knew damn well it was because he didn't know our names. "My man" is the stock choice of names to call someone when you don't know their name.
This is a great thread. I'm also pretty weird in situations like this. I never know if I should/shouldn't say hi to someone, and I usually end up saying something and sounding like an idiot. Like I don't know if I should say "Hi" or "Good Morning" or what, so I usually just end up making a strange noise and making an ass out of myself. Sometimes I will pretend to be talking on my cell phone when walking down the hall at work, just so i can avoid situations like this. Yeah I know, I have issues.
on a side note, when I don't know somebodies name I call them "boss" or "chief". Someone told me boss has some sort of prison connotation...any truth to that?
Yeah, that gets me too. Another conversational blunder I make sometimes (especially before coffee): someone says, "How's it going?" and I say "not much." Or they say, "what's up?" and I say, "Good, good!" This doesn't happen often, and when it does it's usually as we're passing each other in the hallway, but it still makes me want to kick myself.
In this situation I usually just drop my drawers and do a helicopter with my penis. If they still say 'hi,' then I figure they're dedicated enough to the whole greeting process that I should reciprocate.
I don't know why but I laughed out loud when I read that and I rarely laugh out loud when on a computer. I guess it's cause I can relate to that. Don't you hate it when someone throws you a curve when you were expecting a fast ball?
it was in Shawkshank Redeption and The Green Mile best ettiquette when i cannot remember someone. .. I wait til someone i know comes by . .then i grab them an go . . HEY you met JOHN . . .. . and usually the other person will say . . HEY JOHN I'm JOE Rocket River . . . .
Those "a-holes" could be introverted or shy people. I know because I am one of them. It takes me a long time to feel comfortable saying "hi" to someone that I don't work with on a regular basis. I usually know this person's name, but that is about it. Just because I don't say "hi" to them means I am rude. Be careful on how you label people in that regard. Ask Mango or Batman Jones about me in person...at the Smeg thing in 2003, they were 2 people I thought I would talk to a lot and as it turned out, I said hello to them and that was about it. I wish I could have had more time and be fundamentally different in my personality, so I could have said more to both of them. Oh and this thread is a classic Zac_D thread: Where my threads are music-driven or about doing "tournaments" and other useless drivel , Zac's are always very "quirky" - he is cool like dat.
My vision is bad right now, and I have to get these specialized contacts for my astigmatism, and I refuse to wear glasses because I know they will be a waste of money ... so I walk around half way blind. A few times apparently, I've "ignored" people I know as they passed by. Why cant they say hi first, so Ill know? b****es...
at the university i go to...75% of the people know my name, the only problem is i only know about 35% of other peoples names. Oh, and they all try and act buddy buddy with me - calling out my name from far away and stuff - and when i don't wear my contacts, that really is a pain in the ass. i can't see who they are, i might not know who they are - but they're wanting a response. yeh, kinda sucks. oh, and the weirdest thing happened in the cafeteria the other day. i was in line for food and the 3 girls in front of me were talkin about me, but i guess they didn't even know what i look like. i'm the only "chad" in my school, and they were talkin about how crazy i got at a party that weekend. they weren't at that party - i'm pretty sure about that. anyways, the one finished her story, about how i stumbled around while karaokying and then went away with a girl who is dating another guy (we didn't do anything, but they thought we did) - they all laughed and were like "that guys crazy" - i then patted one on the shoulder and said "hi, my names chad." they all got kinda nervous and then the two that i never tapped on the shoulder laughed it off awkwardly and the other girl just went beat red and said extremely nervously, "i'm emily" and then pretended i wasn't there.
Awesome. I thought I was the only one who used this move. I've done it so many times. I guess that's the problem with meeting people while you are drunk...you frequently forget their name.
If Im not talking to someone on a regular basis....I tend to foget them very quickly. Thats not being harsh....its just the way I remember things I guess. I dont remembers teachers Ive had, people I went to school with, stuff like that. My sister on the other hand.....she can have worked somewhere for a week......not spoken to anyone from that place for 2 years....but if they make a phone call to her she'll chat away with them like they have been life longs friends.
