[S.O.S] Do you hold a grudge towards your Ex?(pics included)

You do realize that McFerrin has stated in numerous interviews that he wished he had NEVER written that song, right?

 

OMG .. 15 years?!?!!???

You're not supposed to wait for the pain to stop, man. You're supposed to let it go. How do you hang on to something like that for 15 years? It's not fair to your wife and kids, not at all. Learn to forgive, people. Learn to forgive. Forgive them even when they don't deserve it. Forgive without expecting something in return. That's the only way you can free yourself from that pain. Life isn't about what people have done to you, it's about how you respond to what has been given to you. Those who succeed are those who are able to take the ugly things life dishes to them and make them beautiful.

Sorry about the short soapbox moment, just felt it needed to be said.

 

I woke up on the roadside, daydreamin' 'bout the way things sometimes are
Visions of your chestnut mare shoot through my head and are makin' me see stars.
You hurt the ones that I love best and cover up the truth with lies.
One day you'll be in the ditch, flies buzzin' around your eyes,
Blood on your saddle.

Idiot wind, blowing through the flowers on your tomb,
Blowing through the curtains in your room.
Idiot wind, blowing every time you move your teeth,
You're an idiot, babe.
It's a wonder that you still know how to breathe.

 

conquistador#11, don't forgive her, just forget her. What she did to you was unforgivable. She basically left you alone to die. b****es like that aren't worth a damn. They're with you when you're doing good, but leave when the chips are down. The majority of girls you'll met are like that. You want a women that will be there for you through it all, the bad & good. The good thing is, at least you know her true colors. Could you imagine being with her knowing that she doesn't really want to be with you?

If I were you, the next time I'd see her, I wouldn't even acknowledge her presence. I say treat her like she did you and act as if she was "dead". No eye contact, no smiles, no hello, no nothing. Don't forgive, just forget about it. I know it may be a hard thing to do but you just beat cancer dude! This broad ain't even worth it.

 

agree with everything except not to forgive... you can't forget unless you forgive.

 

Conquistador#11. From one latin to another I say this. Nobody likes being dumped. Especially latin males. Trust me I know. However, given the circumstances it seems your ex is an emotional invalid devoid of any human feeling. Any attempts at extracting emotional revenge will be ineffective. If she didn't care about your situation before she probably won't give two hoots about you now.

This is what you could do. You could date a collegue of hers, preferably someone who's more accomplished in her carrer. This usualy pisses off the competitve carrer types. Or you could just find a girl that posses all the qualities she lacks. Essentially find someone better. But above all else kill her with kindness. This a a very effective form of getting back at someone who's hurt you.

Lo que puede resultar si algun dia se encuentren y te pregunte come estas o si estas con alguien. Le podes responder que si. Que encontraste un persona divina y que es todo lo que ella no fue.

 

if she works at mdacc i can get someone to spread nasty rumours about her

 

O mejor dile que es una pinche puta que no vale verga! y que te limpias el culo con sus certificados de mierda!

 

dont know all the words... just the good ones.

 

ohh man...damn it...my ex dumped me 3 years ago and i havent been able to move on since...we planned our family...figured what we were going to name each of the kids and plan to grow old together...told each other it was always and forever...then she dumped me cos her mother was dying and she didnt wanna settle down yet...

3 years on and not one day has gone by where i havent thought about her...and now i read this...IT SCARES ME that i could turn into you...15 years!!!... ...how do you live with that burden for 15 years?...what happened to that old proverb "time heals everything"?

 

remove ALL of sentimental things of her then you should be able to move on more quickly and if you still talk to her then your chances of moving on drop dramatically.

 

yea, I didn't move on from my ex until I destroyed everything that reminded me of her and everything she had ever given me. It was pretty emotional but it helped. I actually left all the broken glass and stuff in a corner in my room for about 1 week. Then I cleaned it up and got on with my life.

 

Thanks, but it hasn't all been roses. When I was younger, I was lucky enough to be living in what, looking back, was a very special time. Think of the '20's, but with a terrible war, the draft, and no stock market crash followed by a Great Depression. I knew it was a special time at the time, but not as "unique" as it turned out to be. We thought the world was changing a lot, and for the better. That was only partly true. It was changing, and some things got better, but a lot of things got worse. To paraphrase a quote from a movie I'm fond of, revel in your time. Take chances. Someday, you'll be 30 or 40 years older, and the things you regret the most are the missed opportunities. The girl you spent hours talking to, got caught late at night with in the rain, under an eave, thought about kissing, and didn't. Kiss her. I can think of one I kissed and one I didn't. I've never forgotten either one, and have regrets associated with both, but completely different regrets. If you have a chance to travel, do it. If you don't, create one. There is such a world out there, populated with incredible, beautiful people. Some are dense, ugly, and irritating, but you can filter those out. If you think you can be creative, give it a real shot. One of these days, you'll look back and wonder why you didn't. And other things too numerous to mention, and things that shouldn't be mentioned.

Sorry for the digression.

 

I still hold a grudge against my ex. As much as try not to, I can't help it. I lost contact with her for about a year, then thru a friend I obtained her new email address. I wrote her, asked her how she had been, what she had been up to, etc. She wrote back, said it was good to hear from me, what have I been up to, etc. As much as I wanted to write a nice response and leave it at that, I just couldn't. All the negative feelings about her emerged and I basically wrote back telling her to go F herself and I'm glad we broke up. Of course she didn't respond so I felt great that I got the last word in, but in reality since I can't let it go she knows she got the best of me.

 

You guys don't just kill your ex gf's?

 

Dude, killing people that are underage is just sick.

 

that's too bad mate..


I did exactly the same thing... only with...












MUCH BETTER RESULTS!!


and apparently she had been thinking about me and was about to write me when she saw the letter!! bwahahahah!


we're talking again!

 

I totally understand this.

I had to break up with an ex-girlfriend about 17 years ago. She hurt me a lot in our relationship, though I wasn't an angel either.

I won't get into the specifics of it, but sometimes I think of her. The worst was when I wasn't thinking of her, and she'd just be in my dreams. Then when I woke up I'd be thinking of her.

I recognize the good and bad from the relationship, and I'm happy to have experienced the good, and I don't really dwell on the bad at all.

But sometimes it's hard thinking about her.

I guess it isn't to the same extent that your pain is, but I understand where you are coming from.

 

Yeah.

I don't think I've presented myself accurately, though.

I'm not a mopy, whiny, sad and depressed guy. I'm just a normal guy. I enjoy the time I spend with my family. We have a great time, Sure, there are rough times, but it's a pretty normal life.

I work. I play. I'm a great father, a great husband, I'm in decent shape and every day, I try to make my life and the lives of those around me a little better.

... it's just that that pain is always there.