I'm going to be un-PC here for a moment and say that I have met a sizable number of girls lately who say that can't cook at all. They even have a proud inflection in their voice when they say it...almost like they are fighting against gender stereotypes or something: "No, I don't cook! Hehe! haha! Well, unless all the guy wants to eat is hot dogs and kraft easy mac! Hehe hehe!" Are you serious?! Personally, I like to cook and I love to fire up the grill, so it's no like "cooking skills" are high up on my list of traits I look for in a woman, but come on, basic cooking skills are a life skill that borderline everyone should know how to do. As for the cheating, let's not try to overthink this, guys. Sometimes a guy just want a little strange...
Couldn't agree with you more. It's not for me to say that women should just be able to cook, but you definitely should know how to cook something. Personally, the satisfaction from eating my s.o.'s home-cooked food is high on the list.
I read an article ages ago that made sense to me, here is the gist of it. BTW, I am female somewhere between the 2nd and 3rd relationship. The article ties modern behavior to our caveman background, it's premise is that we are driven by primative needs. All females have 3 relationships in their life. The first is the procreation ideal. She is looking for the best gene pool for the "best" babies. The 2nd relationship is the provider/nurturer relationship. The female is looking for a partner to help raise her children. And finally, the 3rd relationship is for companionship. The children are gone and she is looking for someone who is fun to be with and can talk and be a good companion. This is oversimplified and one of the points of the article is that the lucky couple adapts and the same male fulfills all 3 roles. Just something to keep in mind.
I hate these types of stupid broads. Cooking has nothing to do with gender stereotypes. It has to do with being in control of an important facet of your life. Your body. I cook all my meals. I rarely go out to eat. Why? I want to know what total control of what I'm putting into my body. I believe in a dual income family. Gender equality. My partner better work.
The important part of what I was trying to say is a partner to help her raise her children. I did not mean to imply that the male had to be the sole breadwinner, but rather that the important thing to the female is the nurturing he will provide to the children - not being the genetic material provider. I am probably not saying this well and of course this is all generalizations. But some truth holds. What the female is looking for in her partner changes as her needs change. For a relationship to make it, both people must evolve.
I really don't give a crap if she works or not; it's her choice. I'm not trying to make a personal attack, but isn't "my parter better work" enforcing your expectations and will on her? Isn't that in itself NOT gender equality? I don't think you necessarily meant it like you said; I think it just came out wrong. I think you want to marry a woman who has ambitions and wants to keep her job, right? I just got this nasty vibe reading it the way you worded it, that's all. I've never cheated on a girl, and I never will. It's just not even something I've considered. But I've mentioned an ex of mine who I still miss. She's gorgeous, just stunning. I think she's easily the most beautiful human being I've ever seen. But I know people who say she's cute... and that's it. They don't see her the same way. I was the better looking one in the relationship. Ultimately, I think the concept of getting with a less attractive guy so he won't cheat is wrong. A guy who will cheat is going to cheat. A guy who won't won't.
I know exactly what you are saying. That general theory is espoused in basically every evolutionary biology/psychology book I have read.
My girl is way more attractive than me and I would not cheat on her. And about her cheating on me?... well.. thats what the big penis I have is for.
Straight truth man. I say this to the girls I know, it doesn't matter if you're not the greatest cook, if you can cook something decent, your S/O will act like its the greatest thing he ever ate and will appreciate it so much. Girls don't understand that. I still can't believe the amount of girls these days that can't cook at all. I mean I can at lease cook a few things to prevent myself from going hungry. Sex and food, we are not complicated.
I think men and women cheat for the same reasons: boredom and opportunity. Women have way more opportunity, but it balances out because they tend to be more risk averse. Given that, I think being more attractive has nothing to do with cheating and everything to do with power. It's about "hand". Sure, I've known some whipped dudes who had zero power over their hotter girls. The guys weren't looking to cheat because they were too busy keeping their crazy girls happy. Without power, there can be neither boredom nor opportunity. What I think is even more interesting is fat or plain girls with attractive guys. Man, talk about being treated like crap. Of all the powerless relationships, that is by far the WORST dynamic.
I used to think this wasn't a big deal, since my parents are lousy cooks when I grew up. And I've never dated anyone with good cooking skills. So I just cook when I have time, and eating out when I don't. Very simple. But recently, a family friend rented a room in my home because he's in the city for a few months. And the guy is an awesome cook. And the feeling is just amazing to have great home-cooked meals. So much that I almost never eat out now. Eating healthier, lower food cost, it's just awesome. I kind of hate him now because of how much he spoiled me. Now I can't stand living with anyone who can't give me some good home-cooking.
You date people like your parents (or opposite of your parents if you really hated them), so for me who has parents that LOVE cooking (they are in the kitchen 24/7..), potential wifeys must enjoy cooking and eating at home from time to time. Cooking together and having a nice romantic dinner at home is quite a cheap yet fun date actually. Often times it leads to another part of the room in the house.
^Agreed... I totally agree..That's what I was saying here #30... Women Won't Cook... It's like they are proud to not be able to cook...I just don't get it...Granted, this isn't how everyone thinks, but even brokeback meh agrees, nothing is more satisfying than a home cooked meal... Funny thing is, my mom did the majority of the cooking when I was growing up, now it's reversed and my dad does most of it...Well, she still cooks my favorites when I'm in town, but that's because I'm the favorite...
There is nothing that will ensure that people won't cheat but I agree with this advice (slightly more attractive) for long term relationships based on observations. I have heard the same from different people from different countries too. Also, I think this is very much an open secret. It is just that men aren't savvy enough to recognize it. (Tell a woman that you saw her boyfriend with another woman, the first question she will ask is "how did she look?") Anyway, the average women puts in a greater effort towards looking good than an average guy and everything works out equitable in the end. Recent LiveScience Article Other things: - Men tend to overrate (or be less critical of) their own looks while women tend to underrate (or be more critical of) their own looks. - What feels good may be different from what looks good.
