emoreland Under normal circumstances, I'd tell you to break contact with her. And I think that's true for you, too,. But you must do much more than that. You must proactively disconnect yourself from her. This chick is a coke addict. And in all probability, she contracted HIV from either sleeping around (with really sleazy people) or from a drug needle. She sees you as money. Nothing more or less. And she will do whatever it takes to get money from you. Steal. Deceive. Beg. Cry. Sex. Anything she can do to get money from you to support her habit (just as she has aggressively done for so long). And she will continue to try this for a long time. Forget about revenge - you need protection. You must change all your phone numbers. Re-issue all your credit cards. Change all your pin numbers. Secure all your bank accounts. Change the locks on your doors. Secure any and all belongings in your house (you're going to be burglarized). Secure your business. File a restraining order on her. Hell, you may want to contact some security experts to see what all you should do to protect yourself. And of course, you should never contact her in any way or any of her friends. And you should refuse to accept any attempts she will make to contact you. You must do everything you can to secure your entire life (and business ) from her. And if you start getting depressed or sad, be thankful that you did not get dragged down into the **** she was trying to pull you into, and remind yourself that your chocolate business has Easter coming up.
lol, droxford, you're like the proverbial conscious that no one listens to. always telling us what we should do. yet, we always do the opposite.
Fasten all seat belts, seal all entrances and exits, close all shops in the mall, cancel the 3-ring circus, secure all animals in the zoo.... Sorry...not trying to make light of the situation, it just reminded me of a good quote.
First really good advice I've read in the thread. Not to disparage the rest of the well-intentioned posts, but Drox hit the nail on the head. And get yourself tested, emoreland, to make sure you didn't pick up the virus from her, assuming the "friend" was telling the truth. It's not impossible to get it, even if you didn't have coitus. Do what Drox suggested. It is amazing the lengths someone like this will go through to get what they need. Were it me, I'd move to another town, and really get all of this behind you. Good luck!
Right, because this thread should be about what bothers you, I mean not like that is a pride issue or anything. emoreland - you're a brave young soldier and I've got your back - feel free to hit me up on AIM or yahoo if you need to talk.
Coitus? What is coitus? Is that some sort of old-geezer slang for The Nasty? emorland, it's a common reaction to blame yourself for something like this, but don't fall into that trap. You said something to the effect of "why won't anyone love me" earlier in this thread. Remember this is just one girl. And a coked-up girl with AIDS at that. You should actually feel good about the fact that this girl doesn't love you. Seriously.
I don't understand people sometimes. Revenge is not even worth talking about with this woman. She's batsh*t crazy and needs help, but not by you. Droxford has the right idea. Time to make adult decsions and leave the adolescent fantasies to this BBS. Sever all contact with her, secure your life and move on. You've got chocolate to make.
Where are they LOL. I really need someone that I can be with to take my mind off of all of this before I go crazy.
No, dude. I know that that's how you feel, but it's not true. Trust me - that'll just add to the confusion and chaos. No. First, you gotta secure yourself and your business (oh, and I forgot to mention that you need to secure your car(s), too). Be yourself by yourself for a while. Stand on your own two feet. Focus on your well being, and don't look to finding another person. Plenty of time for that later.
I agree with this 100%. I had a bad series of gf's as a teen (although nothing compared to this evil sucubus) and I decided to just be single for a while and work on myself. Then I met the girl that would be my wife. It's like God says "Thanks for getting out of my way. Here ya go." Time to concentrate on yourself for awhile.
The worst thing you can do to yourself right now is to run into another woman's arms. You're vulnerable now. Don't go find some female friend and pour out your heart to her. You're going to end up with another emotional bond that will probably worsen the wound later when it has to be broken. You need to be by yourself -- go on a retreat and get back in touch with God. Take some time off if you can and go away for a while. This does not mean that all women are bad or that you're not going to find the right one -- you will. But right now you're scarred and broken and you need time to heal -- lots of time. And droxford's advice is important too. You need to take steps to protect yourself, ASAP. The longer you maintain any sort of contact with this girl, the more danger you put yourself in. You've gotta get away, both physically and emotionally. You can start by thanking God for delivering you from so much harm. You know like it says, "if it had not been for God who was on our side...."
I have lost friends to AIDS and I will speak up every time I hear that kind of crap. It's about them and others like them. So please shut up, moefo.
May be the best post drox ever had. But also, look at this as a fantastic learning experience. Usually, the more there is to learn...the more pain there is. Whats the purpose of God's gift of life? Personally, I think a big part is growth. So think, if everything went super-great day every day, would you be as motivated to grow? First, your self-esteem is shot. Now what the h*ll makes you think anyone else is better than you? Identify the feeling for what it is, an entirely false construct of a mind that needs to grow. I know of what I speak. It was a longtime ago, but I was there. Sleep deprivation, no apetitite.... I had issues to address, and a tough break-up was the best thing that could have happened to me. I came out a changed person, and life was much clearer and easier on the backside. I realized that the pain had nothing to do w/ the relationship (which I clearly was never ever meant to be), it had to do with personal growth. And as for the revenge, yeah it's beneath you, behind you, irrelevant. This growth opportunity has presented itself...don't lose your focus. Good luck on the journey.
This is so F'd up Man, props to you for being so cool headed about it. I agree with droxford, excellent advice, and you really need to break all connections with this girl. Dont worry about revenge, God is the best in handing out justice.
I'm really sorry for your troubles. That's just messed up. Things will get better though. Really, they will. Think about this: Do you REALLY want to start some revenge sh*t with someone you KNOW is batsh*t insane? I mean, you do something to her, and she's liable to "kick it up a notch.. BAM!" by torching your house, killing your family, eating your dog, wiping out your credit, framing you for murder, cutting off your... ahem... manhood, giving you AIDS, anyway, stalking any future girlfriends, stealing all your stuff, running you over, chopping off your limbs, etc. Don't start wars with crazy people. There's a good chance this chick doesn't have a "line to cross."
