The story just keeps getting better. Some guy called me just now.....telling me to stop harrassing her LOL or else he would "have to take matters into his own hands" I laughed and wished him the best of luck....mentioning that it would not be the best thing to sleep with her. He said that if i mentioned her being loose one more time that he would come after me.......so I told him about her having HIV and told him that she is literally crazy, bi-polar, and has multiple personalities. I then let it go...i figured that he was warned and the rest is up to him.
It sounds kind of cheesy, but the best revenge is to live well. From what you've said she seems like the type of person that finds pleasure in bringing other people down. If you let her do that then she'll be happy and feel like she accomplished what she wanted. But if you don't let her crap bother you and simply move on with your life and don't let her control you she'll feel powerless.
While it sounds like you have already made the decision to let this thing go, keep reminding yourself that it was the best part of you, your integrity, Christian faith, moral fiber, whatever you want to call it, that gave you the strength to resist her in the bedroom department. While it is much more difficult for a guy to get HIV from a girl than the other way around, it is still possible. For that reason, realize that your strength is what saved your life in that case. You don't know what all else is going on with this girl, and staying away and turning the other cheek just might save your life over again. It ain't worth it.
speak for yourself homeskittle..... Im doin fine jennafer huh....seems to me like there might be a female poster here with that name......right? Huh? right!
Look she made you miserable, because she is a miserable person. But no matter what, you are still better off than her. You don't have HIV, you aren't a coke addict, you have a nice business, you have clutch bbs, etc. You don't con people, or use people to get thousands of dollars, etc. It surely made you fee bad, but you are still better off than she is. So if at all possible try and look on the bright side.
Wow... Forgive her. I know it may be hard, but there are some underlying issues in there and there is no * next to the forgive part. If you are having trouble doing so, ask God to help you - that's what he wants and I can't see Him saying no on that request. Remember all He's forgiving us from. Don't maintain contact with her or her friends. She sounds pretty messed up, but you are too close to be the person that can show her the way out, plus I'm not sure she's truely ready to leave. And usually friends of someone like this, didn't fall too far from the tree. Pray. These are times when He's there and waiting. Of course, He's always there and waiting, but these are the time we notice. Don't worry too much about the money. It's all God's property anyway. He just lends us His stuff so we can learn some lessons. He's got plenty more where that came from and a few years from now you will barely think about that part. I'm sorry for the pain she's caused you. That's never a easy lesson in life. But be strong, bring your sorrows to Him and I will be praying for you.
You could take a bunch of laxatives and fill up her bottle of Pert Shampoo. Not that I have ever done that to a guy named Russell before...
right on. i read no farther than this reply. work through it...don't do something you'll regret. nothing is worse than regret.
OH WOW. It seems to me that you are in shock right now. Thanks God you stuck to your principles and didn;t sleep with this...I don't know what to call her. While you've lost some material things and had your heart broken, feel some relief money comes and goes, and your heart will heal...faster than you realize. I think it's safe to say to NOT take Baqui's advice this time, and wait for the words of revenge wisdom from Trader Jorge. TJ, where are you in our time of need?
i agree too. Relatively speaking, you got off cheaply. Take this as a good (though painfull) lesson to be more mefiant.
!!!!! Oh my GOSH. I'd love to b****slap that mother****er. That is sick and twisted. We're all here for you!
In terms of suggesting revenge, I was going to suggest delivering her some, ummm, "fudge", RocketMan Tex style. But seriously, finding out exactly how f***ed up this whole situation was... one of these days you're going to realize that you need never waste your time on girls like this. Don't let people use you in relationships. There are plenty of girls out there who are better... actually, just about anybody is better than that. Sorry for the pain it's caused you, but be glad it wasn't worse. Just get away and learn to build your life around better people. (and looks like this bbs is always here for you at 4 in the morning. That's good. )
emoreland, good luck man.. I think you are doing the right thing by taking the high road (to be honest I don’t think I could do it, I would want revenge even though I know it's wrong ).. Try to get a new hobby and keep your mind busy with something else than thinking about this mess all the time..
Wow Emore, you seemed like a genuinely nice guy replying back after selling me chocolate... can't see how anyone could be so twisted as to want to do these things to you--- but hey, I just have that much more respect for you now, and it kind of makes me think of the story of Job, and it looks like you have essentially passed the test (take that back, Job didn't have an HIV infected 17yr old who tempted him to sleep with her and use his gifts to buy cocaine... maybe more like the story of Joseph, but at least the queen didn't have AIDS.) Will surely be buying more chocolate from you.
Honestly man, I completely understand you wanting to exact revenge in some way. That is a natural reaction to anytime one is slighted. In your case, it's almost justifiable, but you'll feel worse if you do. It may feel better for a little bit, but once that wears off, you won't feel like a better person, which you obviously are. From your time here, I can tell you're a great guy. Take solace in the fact that you're not the one with the massive problems. These scars will heal. It may not feel like it right now, but they will. You also know, going forward, things can't possibly get any worse for you in the relationship department. Please take care of yourself and I'd stay away from her or anyone associated with her.
Sorry to hear about this man. Personally I would have found out a way to get back at her, but then again having HIV it looks like God already beat you to it. Strangely enough I knew a piece of **** girl named Jenna that was friends with my ex that sounds almost exactly like this girl. Coke, HIV, deciever and will try anything to get over on someone, and she was literally crazy. If you tell me she has a kid then this will be REALLY eerie.
emoreland: To take a line from a John Mayer song I like... There's no substitute for time. Lean hard on your faith right now. That is the one place, the one "person" that will never turn from you. Keep a full schedule...whether personal activities or work activities. Use your resources....if you need someone to talk to, don't EVER feel you are being a burden. You know who your friends are, and you probably can lean on a pastor or church goer that would love to listen to you. Soon, you will be on the road to healing, and all of this will be more like a B movie you rented and are left wanting your 6 bucks back. There is no honor in revenge....only regret and sorrow. We are not in the business of judgement. That's God's business. But of course, you know this! I have found that, as difficult as it may seem, praying for the person that slighted you is some of the best medicine you can take. I pray for peace in your heart, and swift healing!! Keep your head up.
