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[Relationships] Looks like my ex-fiancee is now cheating on her boyfriend with a girl

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by Drexlerfan22, Sep 21, 2007.

  1. LeGrouper

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    Wow, bro, it sounds like you need a shot of...

    Wake the F*** Up!

    Go get a copy of Swingers this weekend, make a night of it with a bottle of Ecco Domani Pinot Grigio and wake up the next morning and join a gym. Stop thinking about her when you visit Rosie Palm and her five sisters and you'll be cured within two weeks.

    Remember.... You're a Main.... M...A...I...N.... MAIN.....
     
  2. Drexlerfan22

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    Had you bothered to read my second post, you'd know that I didn't know about it until after we were engaged, and I wasn't about to break off the engagement because she cheated 2 years ago on her a**hole boyfriend.

    So no, this doesn't surprise me, but that doesn't mean I can't be saddened by it. And I hardly think you can blame me for staying with her, since we were already engaged...
     
  3. Drexlerfan22

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    First... I'm basically over her, as I said. I'm just kinda generally disappointed in humanity because of her. And I'm already dating... I don't need more nights of debauchery. That's not what this is about.

    Secondly, my back is such that I cannot do much physical activity outside of swimming.
     
  4. DaDakota

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    So would Ellen.

    ;)

    DD
     
  5. LeGrouper

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    I'm talking about M...A...I...N... MAIN.... I'm talking about an F'n MAIN!!!

    Brother, there is a sea of a$$ out there and she is a drop of water in that ocean. Worry not and jump back in the Mediterranean.
     
  6. Drexlerfan22

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    Again, I'm doing that already... I have two dates this weekend... not a concern of mine...
     
  7. LeGrouper

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    Disapointted in humanity? I can't be more excited than with the news you have provided us with... And don't get all pissy with me. I've already had my heart put through the meat grinder. It's just a stage. Get over it.
     
  8. Drexlerfan22

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    How many times do I have to tell you: I AM over her. This stuff is just gonna be on my mind for a day or two, that's all.
     
  9. FranchiseBlade

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    I understand a little. A girl that I had the worst break-up with who never wanted to break up with me, but she wasn't able to stay faithful got married.

    Later I found out she cheated on her husband in much the same way she did with me.

    I wasn't just sad, there were a million emotions going on at once, and some were contradictory. I felt sad for her, and wondered if it was some kind of illness, or chemical imbalance that caused her to do that.

    I really felt horrible for her. I also felt a lot of sympathy for her husband since I had been there.

    I felt a slight bit of jealousy that I wasn't one of the guys that was a possibility for to cheat with. I never would have done it, but it would have been an ego stroke to be considered.(I know that sounds horrible of me, but it was a flash that went through my head when I heard about it.)

    I also felt a huge sigh of relief because we had talked about marriage and at one point I wanted to marry her. I thought to myself that it could have been me that it happened to.

    Then I thought perhaps she'll get a divorce and I'll have a chance of seeing her again. Then I thought I wouldn't want to do that even if I could. There is no way I'd go back to her.

    Then I wondered if there was anything I could do to help her figure her mess out so that she would stop those patterns of destructive behavior.

    Then I felt a wish that she would find help, and be able to overcome her problems.

    I thought all of those things at once or at least within the course of about 2 seconds. The thoughts all branched out, and I was able to apply logic and remove some of those trains of thought, and focus on others and explore them more fully in my mind.

    But at least a good part of it was feeling bad for her, and sad. So I do understand, though mine was by no means purely sadness.
     
  10. LeGrouper

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    Here's what you need to do. The next time you run into her, call her "girl". Like this... "Hey, girl. What have you been up to"

    She will lose her F'n Mind. Then get back to your two dates this weekend.
     
  11. percicles

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    Look dude, she's a rug muncher. Most likely has been for some time but internal circumstances made her think otherwise. Hence the cheating on the boyfriends. You shouldn't be sad. It was destiny. Her rug munching ways were preordained long before she met you.

    Just consider yourself lucky in that y'all had the type of sex life most posters on this board only see in porno videos.

    It's not your fault.... (hug) It's not your fault...
     
  12. Jeff

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    I'm so money and I don't even know it.
     
  13. Space Ghost

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    Which ******* boyfriend? The one you never met or the one she is calling her last ******* boyfriend to her current boyfriend?

    Or is it the one that is posting her picture all over the internet?
     
  14. Drexlerfan22

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    Wow... cool. So I'm not the only one after all.

    I honestly might have felt the whole "I wasn't an option for her to cheat with" thing a little, but obviously since it's a girl, it's kinda hard for that thought to even enter my mind, haha.

    But yeah, other than that, all of those thoughts have gone through my mind at least once, if only briefly.

    I actually DID actively try to help her for several months... and she even called me several times after the breakup to basically cry on my shoulder about her life in general, because she said she didn't know who else to call about this stuff. A few times I thought I may have even gotten through to her a little, but a couple weeks ago a conversation ended badly, and we haven't talked since. I figure it's out of my hands now...
     
  15. Drexlerfan22

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    That's what I've been figuring for awhile now: that she's actually a lesbian, not truly bi. Maybe it was just society telling her that she wants men up to this point. Though just to clarify, all the previous cheating was with other guys, she was never with girls before this...

    The ******* boyfriend before me who raped her.

    And considering that she cheated on me, then dumped me for an 18-year-old after I had already changed my whole life around for her, I don't exactly feel guilty about posting a single pic of her on a messageboard.

    Now if I posted one of the not-so-G-rated pics I have of her, THAT would be an ******* move...
     
  16. percicles

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    I suggest you post those pics. Consider it a cathartic act on the road to emotional healing.
     
  17. Drexlerfan22

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    Other than that being an unbelievably *******-ish thing to do, it's probably illegal in some way...

    So sorry, but no. :)
     
  18. thelasik

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    1) Goto offtopic.com
    2) Create account
    3) Post pics
    4) Let hilarity ensue
     
  19. tested911

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    Whoa whoa hold the phone there... Don't be so quick to judge yourself for you are in no condition to make rational remarks ... Now please let Clutchfans provide you with therapeutic responses.. Please post the pics!! You will feel a lot better doing so :cool:
     
  20. Drexlerfan22

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    Wow... guess I shoulda known that would pique people's interest... you guys crack me up. I actually feel a little better now. :D

    Seriously though... not gonna happen. I couldn't live with myself knowing I did something that low.



    Plus there're hundreds of them. It would take forever. ;)
     

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