[Relationships] Getting out of a bad long-term one...

Eh - you don't need to go fishing yet, girl. But you should show up at Smeg's bbs get-together and let us all send some happiness your way.

 

B'wa ha ha ha! I didn't think I was that convincing!

 

Isabel...how's everything going? I'm just giving you a heads up that Valentine's Day is coming up and Ferd might send flowers/gifts/something romantic. Good Luck.

 

Update?

 

Here it is...A couple of post up...

don't worry, he is. And it was pretty funny. I think the cat references point to exactly what he wants and misses most. The real Ferdinand is apparently actually registered as such, but does not post.

At least I spent a while tonight writing in my journal about how I poured so much love and affection into that relationship for years. Most of it wasn't being returned, though he sure got comfortable with it. I did for him as I wished someone would do for me. I resolved to be the sweetest, most caring and affectionate and companionable girlfriend anybody had ever had, and to make up for all the past loneliness in his life. When we had trouble, I wanted to be able to do something about it, so I just tried harder. Anyway, it's sad and it makes me cry and all that, but it's good that I see what was really going on now. That he was never worth that kind of attention from me. He did nothing to deserve it. There's a reason he has no friends. I wonder how different it would have been if I had found a better partner.

Hey, IROC it, are there fish in that sea? Unfortunately they're probably all too young for me.

 

hey isabel,

i'm glad to hear you sound like you are stepping past the denial phase. i mean that in the most sincere way. write down how you feel everyday (i guess your blogs or here) and read it. keep moving on. i know what you mean about the self esteem stuff and feeling like nothing will ever work out. when you're down and things haven't been going your way, it's easy to feel like that. i promise it'll get better. you learn from things like this.

don't let him guilt you into getting back esp with the religious mumbo jumbo (i say that b/c i'm not religious) b/c ultimately life is too short to be unhappy.

 

Preach on sister-girl...Seriously, that is the point of all of our comments...As cliche as it is, it is very true...

Hell, I remember when I was getting divorced, I wish I could just fast forward time as I was really down a lot...Once it was done, it was like a huge weight getting lifted off my shoulders...As painful as it was, I was given a new opportunity to find happiness...