[Relationship Thread] Why won't it ever work out for me?

What a great idea! Let's tank the season less than 15 games into it for an inknown commodity! Not smart.

 

Of course they will. Womens is grief.

Seriously, there are more women than men in this country. They aren't hard to find. Unfortunately, once you find one, they tend to hang on like a festering cyst.

And yet I digress... Knock yourself out.

 

It could be worse...like your parents telling you who to marry!

 

Vengeance, just relax...you'll be ok, I'm sure. Don't think about stuff too much, and don't put a girl on a pedestal too much, it will make you too tense to be smooth enough to get her.

RM95, good luck.

 

Sorry if I'm not as warm as fuzzy as the other posters..lol. But I'm very much just as understanding...I'm gonna spout off a bunch of crap and hope something sticks...

Do you find out before or during that they're already in relationships? Its not too weird a notion to connect with women who are taken really....They already have someone and know it, so they can be more free and confident about things, which of course is going to come off as appealing. And girls who are appealing and attractive, chances are they ARE gonna be with someone (or someones). And sometimes the women in the singles pool just look like dumpy hags...

still...Women just plain...like to talk. And get listened to. And for some reason they like getting around to talking about their relationships and their men...You know when girls huddle together and they're all talking about that stuff to each other and its annoying...
THATS YOU, doing that role. You may not think so, but thats how SHE SEES YOU, as a sympathizer/pal/listener similar to her girl pals.

Something to consider - if the women you're attracted to time and time again are taken, and it might be because of that...maybe it would work for YOU just the same in the opposite. Appearing as though you have someone or SHOULD have someone. Instead of "alone guy"... just a thought.

The reflexive response would be to say "just f- it". But people that are really really nice and have the nice guy makeup cant just change and "f- it" just leads to apathy (believe me you DON'T WANT that). ...But if you're not wanting to talk about this same thing when you're 35, gotta shield and scale back the niceness a tad. If you're wanting "it" to work for you, gotta realize you might just need to attempt a few things different than how you do, even if it feels unnatural...

I know what "friend" is, hehe...You're probably thinking friends in the real sense, but coome ooooooooon

This works a couple ways - you knew what the outcome would be, so saying how you felt there was nothing to gain or lose & just saying it was whatever.... or, by professing your love she was gonna be so moved and impacted she'd reciprocate the appreciation back to you....methinks maybe you should make your way over to some singles somehow, where this same approach would work better.

Okay...DUDE, what the F-CK you talking about now??! LOL. Whats this getting old crap? You know what, we're ALL getting older. And is there some army of dark forces closing in on you, coming to whisk you away that have your days numbered? Feeling the sense of urgency is good, helps get things rolling....but man you're a YOUNG guy. Havent you heard 30 is the new 20? That'd mean you're the "new" 16 anyways....

This really does remind me of myself in a lot of ways, so I might be too similar a guy to take as seriously...still...
You seem like a smart guy, so you should know - there really isnt a ONE out there. Its ONE of many. That you choose from to be your one. Love can happen at anytime, but there's still numbers involved. You increase your chances of finding love by seeing more people...You probably can get dates and stuff. Itd help if you found some SINGLE people...and instead of counting on those few to "come around" for you to "save you from loneliness", find a way to be the biggest man-w**** you can be
And WHATEVER GIRLS SAY THEY WANT OR EVER SAID THEY "WANT", DO THE OPPOSITE. . Its ironic like that but you have as much chance making girls fall in love with you burping in their face than you listening to their crap...

eeeh could go on and on and on here...but, don't compare yourself to your married friends. You need to figure out what "success" and "failure" really is for YOU. Its okay to be a little selfish - ALWAYS ALWAYS do whats important to YOU. Dont EVER RELY on another person to "COMPLETE" you. And dont EVER get caught up in thinking you're someone else's missing piece either.

 

Right on, Man.

You took the time to break down his speech and attacked it peice by peice.

Well done.

 

Well, first off, you started off as friends, and for LT relationships, thats great, but ST, you're in the friend zone...

You have to let her know up front what you want, not just try to "connect" as again, you'll end up in the friend zone...

btw, I agree with Sishir Chang and have been there myself...hell, I might still be there...

 

Getting in on this thread late as I don't have the free time I used to have...RM95, I'm so sorry to hear this. I thought that things were working out good for you and that you had turned the corner. You deserve so much better - hang in there, bro.

 

just wanted to make an appearance in this thread. i too have been there, but cannot contribute anything that hasn't so eloquently already been said.

so for the record:

 

You just have to find a girl to try out your firefox.

 

If she is still willing to be your friend, ask her advice about how to improve yourself.

Also, hang out with her at some parties/gatherings. She can act as your social proof and this will help you get other girls.

After she finds that there are other girls interested in you, she might become interested in you again. But don't count on that.

You should always remember that you can not be fixated in any woman. Always look out for more girls. Then pick the one that is the perfect match.

After your relationship begins, you should still look out for new girls to make yourself "interesting" in front of your gf. Keep doing this until your gf becomes unattractive and you will have a successful LTR. Good luck!

 

It's not in the water, its in the season. Summer time is the time where all the girls just somehow...go nuts and want to be single. Come fall-winter time, girls will open up.

For you V, I suggest just chillin through the summer, catch a few stro's games, hound the forums for any new potential rocket profiles and just work. Keep yourself busy with a new hobby and chill with your buddies. Keeping yourself extremely busy during this season will help the more...solitary moments in life. You'll hook up with a new chica in no time. Goodluck man.

 

What a load of crappy crap crap..

 

Hmm....

 

Try weightlifting. deep down women are just as shallow as we are they just dont like to admit it.

Pick up a dumbell and dont put it down until some random chic off the streets gives you a compliment. Then grasshopper, you will know you are ready.