[Relationship Thread] Why won't it ever work out for me?

Dude, you're 26 and you're freaking out? Relax man. It's easy to feel lonely if you dwell on wanting someone. There are so many blessings to being single. Learn to identify and appreciate them -- live your life to the fullest while you still have the chance.

 

Never, eeeeevvvaarr, pour your heart out to a girl you're not even dating yet. Whether she likes you or not, you just made it too easy for her. Ask her out, have a picnic, stroll through the park, whatever to show her you want to date but NEVER TELL her your feelings out of the blue.

sorry dude, but you set yourself up for this one. you can't be too upset if you "knew" she'd respond this way.

 

So what other hobbies/skills/activities would folks recommend? Probably isn't good to dwell on your situation or life status in general much, but I guess it's different for every person. What happens when productivity and personal aspirations are sidetracked with borderline obsessive thoughts on dem femalez?

Like seriously...all the p*rn in the world is great, but then what??

Actually I bet p*rn is probably bad...kinda reinforces unrealistic thoughts of really, really attractive (hot) women, and who wants a woman past her late teen-early 20s prime who will essentially decline and rot as she spoils with age.

i'm watching cinemax right now

 

You are very much like me when I was in my 20's, regarding advice giving.

You might want to seek spirituality. You seem to be too consumed in yourself. If you truly put others before you with no hidden motives, the right person will find you. Try not to forcethe issue. Don't allow your fears to dictate your actions.

Live for today and for others and you will find happiness.

 

There is your mistake.

Vengeance....women love THE CHASE. They enjoy being pursued, but they also enjoy pursuing a guy. It's been my experience that women will not go for you if they think you are a slam-dunk sure thing. They get bored.

Act like she's no big thing, especially if she's hot, and you will always get the girl.

Never open up and tell them how you feel before you have sex with them. You will get shot down each and every time.

 

As some already mentioned, You should not have TOLD her how you feel about her.. Unless you two are deeply involved with eachother, a conversation like that would almost always be awkward. I mean how do you really expect her to respond? If she really liked you, 9 out of 10 times the girl would have told you FIRST. This is because girls have less self control when it comes to their emotions. If she liked you, she would have told you already (cause she can't help it). Focus on ways to get her to LIKE you more, not ways to tell her you LIKE her. So no more "confession" speeches. Don't be the girl, be the MAN!

 

I'll tell you all I know about women.

You can't shoot them.

 

The friends zone/friends ladder is BS. It does exist, but if you're involved with a girl who uses the ladder, i suggest stay far far away. The ladder only exist for her own self esteem. A girl will not let you on her ladder at all if you're a loser. If you are on her friends ladder, then you are nothing more than her security blanket. Basically, she has those guys who are on her "i want to f' list". Those are the ones that all her female friends "ooooo and ahhhh" about. The cute and "charming" type that all women want. Down inside, she doesn't get that fulfillment so she has her "friends ladder" that she can turn to and gets the rest of the fulfillment that a woman needs.

Not all women are like this. You can be friends with them, only if you know they are friends only. There is an old female saying about men that goes, "men are like parking spots, all the good ones are taken and the only ones remaining are handicap". Its the total opposite. A good woman is hard to find.

 

He didn't make a mistake. Any girl who likes to play games isn't worth the time.

 

Exactly what I was thinking. If she's flirting, hanging out with you, etc. and she isn't into you, then she's prob just being an attention w****. Atleast now you know where you stand with her. You're really young. Find a scene that works for you and hang out there. Your perfect girl will eventually find you.

 

Look on the brightside, at least you didn't get home yesterday to find your wife had moved all her **** out.

So there's that.

 

rocketman95 wth is a hang out boy???

 

Ouch. Been there, done that and it really sucks. If you ever head up north my way, shoot me an email and all your drinking is on me.

 

You're only about 32,000 posts behind him.

 

Yep. I'm glad she did it this way because I'm simply uber-pissed and not even sad about it. I know that'll come, but I'm really hoping I got a lot of that out of my system during our separation.

Sorry to derail, Vengeance.

 

It'll get worse before it gets better but it does get better. It took me much longer than I thought it would. Like I said, let me know if you want to hang sometime.

 

I appreciate it, man. I'm lucky to be blessed with great friends who really helped out last night. Among them, Mr. Busch and Mr. Keystone.

 

I thought so, too.