Relationship Question......If you found out girlfriend had a mental disorder....

Check if that is a lie, you may have been mazyar'ed

 

Pathological liar here. The best thing you can do in this situation is to listen to random posters on the Internet, rather than your own intuition.

 

If she's lying about stuff that's in her self interest it's not a mental disorder, lollapalooza. My older brother flunked a whole semester at Tulane after already screwing up his ROTC scholarship by trying to be a theater actor; and right before he told my Dad, he wrote and showed him a suicide note. He was also the executor of our Dad's estate 8 years later, and sold the house, collected and spent all the money without telling us for two years; just cut off his phone and didn't respond to any emails.

Your girlfriend is either selfish, weak or just dumb; don't trivialize mental illness by thinking otherwise.

 

This situation will not end well. Move on and do not think twice.

 

Could be... or it could be that if she half a$$es it through therapy she won't feel guilty or believes it will help make you stick around.

 

Here are some points to think about:

so if you didnt confronted about the big lie, she would continue being a liar, and not accepting she has a problem?
she cried and asked for help, because you found about a big lie she told you.
and maybe she doesnt have any friends, because she lies to everybody and people have caught her on her lies.

How do you know she wont continue doing this?

 

sorry for the double post, but I hit the submit button, before I finished.

But if you really think this girl is the one, then you could try doing some therapy, to see why she lies, and hope she gets help to change.

 

I'm telling you, she's been with another guy already.

 

If the question is does she really have a mental disorder, the answer is that nobody but her doctor could know and everyone here trying to diagnose her or call BS really doesn't know what they're talking about (it's the internet - people suppose to not know what they're talking about). I make no judgment as to whether or not it is a disorder, though if she is truly a "pathological liar" it is worth noticing that the term includes the word "pathology."

If the question is (as you posed it), is it even an option to stay with someone with a mental health condition because you really love her, the answer is yes, of course it's an option. It is a very difficult option, and most mental health disorders never really go away or are cured -- though it can definitely be effectively treated and managed, if it is indeed a disorder and she's not just a liar -- but it is an option.

I'd think long and hard. If you really love her and you want to make it work, it is an option. But it is a really tough one. Only you can decide if it's worth it. And, though it may be hard, you can always leave if you feel the need to do so.

 

Yup.

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Run, do not walk, OP. Run.

 

Tough situation.. I guess it depends how much you like her. How far are you willing to go for her? How much are you willing to put up with? If you think she's the one then you gotta think hard about it.

 

That was friggin awesome.

 

I think you're talking about Rollins Band; yeah, I have to have a Black Flag-induced rage-off every once in a while, let off some steam. (Didn't mean to direct anything at your argument, or you personally, if you mean the above sarcastically.)

But, yeah, eddie, definitely watch the video a few posts up. Watch the minute of footage after about 3:00, and get used to hearing that over and over.

'Cause if you stay with this person, this is your relationship, from now on:

You catch her in a lie.
She apologizes, repents. She never realized it would hurt anyone else, and she's truly sorry. She'll never do that to you again.
You catch her in a lie.
She apologizes, repents. She never realized it would hurt anyone else, and she's truly sorry. She'll never do that to you again.
You catch her in a lie.
She apologizes, repents. She never realized it would hurt anyone else, and she's truly sorry. She'll never do that to you again.
You catch her in a lie.
She apologizes, repents. She never realized it would hurt anyone else, and she's truly sorry. She'll never do that to you again.
You catch her in a lie.

Until she gets pregnant (though she'll probably lie about that several times--anytiime you fight, really--before it actually comes true). Then you can't get out without hurting the kid, because divorce means leaving your child to be reared by a pathological liar. Try correcting that ---- over your weekend visits.

Run, don't walk, eddie. Even if it is a legitimate mental illness, cut your losses. Run.

 

Yeah where's DD when you need him? Don't listen to the advice of cogs, afraid of ever taking a chance in life. Live like a center hub & "CEASE" the day.

 

it's more of a social disorder. mental or psychological would imply some sort of physical damage to the brain or chemical imbalance.

regardless, run away.. run far far away.

 

Has anyone told you to Run away?

Liars never change.

 

This, if you really think your relationship has a chance you gotta help her.

 

Is she crazy in bed?

 

Pathological liars lie constantly because the act gives them a sense of pleasure, like taking a cocaine hit. That's why it's "pathological" and not just a fib. And just like cocaine addicts, everyone knows it's bad for you, but it's hard to quit. And even if you have periods where you may think you've recovered, it could come back at any time.

My advice for you is to walk away from this. As much as you love her, this is not a "small" matter where you can just overlook. It will cause long-term strains on your relationship, and ultimately, it could be toxic for everyone. Try to help her is NOT your responsibility. Now if she's your wife and has your kid, this is something a bit different. But at this stage in your relationship there is no need for you to carry her burdens.

Just..walk...away....

 

My sister's next door neighbor is a pathological liar. Just one example out of many. She was taking pre-requisite classes for elementary math in college so she could eventually take college math which is a pre-requisite for the RN program at Austin Commmunity College. Her neighbor already bought scrubs and would walk around everywhere and tell everyone that she is already a Registered Nurse. The dumb woman couldn't even pass Elementary Math even after re-taking it 3 times. She would ask my nieces to babysit her kids so she could "study" at a Starbucks. My sister coincidentally drove to Starbucks one afternoon and caught her neighbor there without any study books and instead was just texting and using the internet on her phone.

She constantly lies about what books she's read and my sister gets a kick out of bull****ting her with and catching her in her lies. This neighbor talks like she's read The Jungle only to say that it was written by George Orwell instead. She will lie through her teeth over anything if she thinks she can get away with it.

And as for your situation, only you can decide what to do. I would opt to think more with your head in this case instead of your heart.