It's funny because I was thinking if I should suggest that. But to be honest, I don't think it will increase her respect for you to see that you are asking for advice from us here...and her reaction does NOT make it seem like things will work out well for you. I completely agree. Seems like it to me, too. I agree. You really thought about things and you really seem to care. She doesn't. Me too. I think Rocket River is right. Exactly. With this stupid "break" thing you are giving HER the power to make the decision. It should be YOUR decision. I agree. LOL. Now, finally, I think you should post her picture her so that we can give you better advice. And if you have NSFW pictures, make sure to at least send everybody who posted in this thread one by e-mail...sounds like the least she would deserve...
He might as well have told her that he masturbates for a living. Seriously, he'll get hurt, and he'll learn. When he's 30, he'll either be with someone amazing, or be a playa. I am fortunate enough to have experienced both. Either way, he'll look back, laugh and be so glad that he dodged that bullet....
Most women take their husband/ boyfriend for granted. So do what Fatty FatBastard said. If she realize it, fine, continue on with your relationship. If she doesn't, dump her, otherwise you gonna get screwed(the bad way) once she becomes your wife.
Guys I have been doing that. I haven't seen or talked to her since Friday, I'm letting her do what she wants and I'm doing what I want. I have already made up my mind if she decides to stay with me some stuff is going to have to change and if she doesn't agree to it then I have decided to say f- it and let her go.
I agree with R2K, This sounded like a trap or a way for her friends to manipulate or force the issue. By Lil Pun - Guys I have been doing that. I haven't seen or talked to her since Friday, I'm letting her do what she wants and I'm doing what I want. I have already made up my mind if she decides to stay with me some stuff is going to have to change and if she doesn't agree to it then I have decided to say f- it and let her go. Good for you Lil Pun. I am glad to see you holding your ground and taking control of you life. It may be difficult, but you are now walking in the right direction. Again, best of luck Lil Pun, -Tdogg
UPDATE: Well it seems my girl is already forming her decision. A friend of hers calls me up and says that she has been debating on whether or not to call me and come see me. Her friend tells me what has been keeping her away is when I told her that she canot come over and act like nothing happened because it's like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. Well I told her friend that I am not going to call or go see her, the break was her idea and for her benefit and I told her she really doesn't need to see me because it's not a freaking break. Her friend said that she thinks she is starting to see what she is doing and is already regretting what she is doing. I told her good let her see and tell me though because I am not going to bother with it for now. So she ended up trying to call me but I just didn't answer. I think I am doing a good job of standing my ground and letting her see where she wants to go and it looks like she is already beginning to see what she is missing, after two days none the less but I am strongly prepared for a total break up situation two if that's what is needed. Damn I am proud of myself.
You deserve a cookie! Seriously, that is good to hear. It feels good when you stand up for yourself. Keep it up.
Outstanding Pun. We are pulling for our bbs homey to take control of the situation and do what is best for you because she is no longer thinking of your feelings. Way to Go!
And you should. Nothing is more difficult for a men then be in a relationship where the woman doesn't apreciate you(damn i sound like a woman). It is hard when you are on a break to really be on a break. But believe me it is for the best.
Hell, you've had a good run with her considering your ages. In a few months you will be able to put the whole thing in perspective...take out the good things, learn from the bad things and grow as a person. In the mean time, to quote the poet Pat Benatar, you've got to harden your heart. Stay strong. You've given her the benefit of the doubt, emasculated yourself and been the nice guy. The best revenge is knowing that you stood up for yourself, kept your dignity and found the right person. Good luck, man.
Pat Benatar's wrote Quarterflash's only major hit?? But I agree with BMoney on everything else and just remember Pun that "Love is a Battlefield".
haha! i liked the last two pat benatar references. lil pun-i agree with everyone here. you'll look back and realize you are doing the best thing for yourself. like i said before, breaking up is really hard. keeping your ground and doing what you say you're gonna do is tough. just be strong and make sure you always have a buddy you can hang out with during those urges that you miss her and wanna call her. those times will come too, but DON'T do it!! congrats!!
A couple of songs come to mind: "Don't know what you got ['til it's gone]" - Pun sings it now "Since you've been gone..." the outfield (Pun's chick sings it) his Arriba Lil Pun! Tienes bolas, amigo.
Yes guys, I feel so much better. I spoke to two of my very good friends, one is a member on this board (candycane) and they have helped me out the most. First of all let me say this, I am pissed about one of her friends going off and telling people all of our business. SHe is telling everybody about her problems, I mean when I went to the club and all these people I knew were coming up to me asking what happened. The I talked to somebody yesterday and it turns out that this friend was the first person to tell my girlfriend's mother about our troubles. Is it just me, or do I have a right to be mad because I think this is VERY wrong! Anyway... candycane pretty much said I have done everything right, meaning I have been better than most guys ever will be and I have been WAY better than the guys in her past. I have put up with a lot more than most guys ever would and that I have done EVERYTHING. I talked to another friend of mine, I'll call him D. I told him about the whole situation and and he just hit everything on point. He said the real reason she is unhappy isn't because of me it is because of the friend's she is with. They have been neglecting her. If they are her true friends then they should have spoke up and said you need to spend some time with your man and the fact that they don't/didn't even respect our relationship by asking her to do stuff with them all the time shows that neglect. He said as long as she is friends with these people then she will never be able to make anybody truly happy because they do not know how to respect her and her other relationships. He said, just like candycane, I have done right by her and done everything for her. He also said that it is a lot easier to find a good girl than it is to find a good guy so she going to have the harder part if it actually comes to an end, if her friends will even allow her to develope another relationship. So I am at my peak right now, after talking to these two. I had the hardest part understanding why she was unhappy, now I think I really have the answer and I know that it really isn't me.
