She's stringing you along and you did the right thing by leaving, however you two are taking a break, so mean it. Take a break! Don't let her come over. Don't take her calls...at least not all of them. Since she isn't giving you space, take it. She's not respecting your mutual decision. While I don't agree 100% with Fatty on completely ending it, he is pretty dead on. You need to take the reins on this situation. I'd say she clearly is trying to manipulate things by still spending time with you, calling you, etc. Stand up, be strong and be firm. Do not let her play with your emotions Lil Pun. Bravo!
I just did you a favor and did her after the we were clubbin. There, now you can break it for good and kick my ass. Seriously, why don't you go clubbin with her? Can you dance? Dude, you're young, fat and can rap. You will find other women. And in your last 3 years, and especially lately, when you see an attractive woman, does that not interest you at all?
i must say with ya'll's age and have been dating for 3 yrs already, ya'll are very young and got a lot to learn and it starts now. i would leave her and don't look back. she is young and wants to party. i don't blame her, but she's not ready for a committed rltnship so you shouldn't waste your time. like someone else said, it is YOUR LIFE. there is that oldies (sorry for that term) song that goes "breaking up is hard to do." well, i wish i could've done it better but a clean, fast break is the best thing to do. i went out with my HS bf a total of 3 times in the last 8 yrs and the last time was one of the dumbest things i've ever done. i remember thinking "i'll never meet anyone like him again" bs. that's what it is...bs. the saying "there are other fish in the sea" is very true. you might not meet someone JUST like the last, but they will have different things you like and dislike but every experience is different so go out and see what you can find. i agree with everyone here, the 2 wk break thing is just prolonging the inevitable. and during the break, ya'll really are supposed to stay away to get time to think abt what it is that you (she) want. i would stress this to her if she continues to call and come over to your place. having you there and using your conveniences is no different from what she was doing. good luck
She thinks that she has you p*ssywhipped (and I think that is a good assumption on her part - watching Lifetime??!!). Time to grow a pair here, Pun, and draw your line in the sand. Try not to be around when you know she is going to call or stop by - after going through a week of not being able to *manipulate* you, she will realize that you mean business.
Pun, Pun, Pun, She has you wrapped around her finger and wanted to prove it and she did. I feel for you, man, I really do. Someday, hopefully soon, when you've moved on and found the REAL woman of your dreams, you will look back at this and say, "what was I thinking" and "why didn't I listen to the sound advice I got from my bbs pals". It is VERY hard to see what it is going on when you are the one involved. Take your "break" and DON'T COMMUNICATE WITH HER other than to say, "we agreed to take a break, so let's stick to that". YOU MUST USE THIS LINE. "It's not you, it's me." Everyone one of us guys has had that line thrown on them at least once in their lives from some chick. USE IT!!! C'mon Lil Pun, stick to your guns. You are both young people and have a lot of life to live. DON'T WASTE YOUR YOUNG YEARS. YOU WON'T GET THEM BACK. There is a woman who will treat you like you want to be treated, you just have to find each other. It took me for what seemed like forever, but I found her.
And one more thing: DO NOT DISCUSS ANY OF THIS WITH ANY OF YOUR MUTUAL FRIENDS!!! If it's a girl, they will run and tell her. If it's a guy, they will use it to get in her pants.
Lil Pun, This is a crass synopsis, but it sums up what I believe is happening to you. Pun, your getting f'ed up the arse and she is not even giving you the courtesy reach around. Look, horrible visual aside, but from reading all of your posts it is obvious that you care about her and love her. And just reading the other posts by Fatty and Drox and all the others give some HARSH but REAL advice. I don't think she intended to hurt you, but she is caught up in her own game and it is apparent that her new lifestyle takes precedence over you. She met some girls (assuming at school), she went out with them and they introduced her (or re-introduced her) to the "clubbin" lifestyle. And if you've ever been to the clubs you know it's a fox hunt. The fact is that she has chosen this lifestyle over you. She now goes out every weekend to the club, gives you crap excuses to avoid doing what you want to do, she has separated herself from you (by not calling/speaking to you for 2-3 days at a a time), gets text messages from other men, and has challenged you to break up with her. Now you guys have decided to take a two week hiatus from one another and NOW she starts coming around. Sorry, but the fact that she is not living up to the conditions of your two-week separation just smells foul, (The "wrapped around her finger" addage comes to mind). She wants her cake and to eat it to. She likes going to the club (where I have a sinking feeling other men are involved), and she likes the comfort of you... on the side... the FAR side. Maybe it's time for a change. I must say that the given circumstances seem to point in that direction. However, that choice is up to you Lil Pun. All-in-all, from the outside looking in, it's just very disheartening seeing a good person getting trashed. Best of luck Lil Pun, -Tdogg
unless one or two or four of her hot FEMALE friends want to join in, then by all means, GO DOWN BIG MAN!!!
They call me superman, leap tall hoes in a single bound, I'm single now, got no ring on this finger now I'd never let another chick bring me down, in a relationship, save it bi**h, babysit? You make me sick Superman ain't savin' sh*t, girl you can jump on Shady's d**k straight from the hip, cut to the chase, I tell a muthaf***in' slut, to her face play no games, say no names, ever since I broke up with what's her face I'm a different man, kiss my a**, kiss my lips, bi**h why ask? Kiss my d**k, get my cash? I'd rather have you whip my a** Don't put out, I'll put you out. Won't get out, I'll push you out/ Puss blew out, poppin' sh**, wouldn't piss on fire to put you out Am I too nice? Buy you ice? Bi**h if you died, I wouldn't buy you life What you tryin' to be my new wife? What you Mariah? Fly through twice Bridge But I do know one thing though, bit**es, they come they go. Saturday through Sunday, Monday, Monday through Sunday yo Maybe I'll love you one day, maybe we'll someday grow, till then just sit your drunk a** on that f**kin' runway ho B Chorus Cus I can't be your Superman, can't be your Superman, can't be your Superman, can't be your Superman I can't be your Superman, can't be your Superman, can't be your Superman, your Superman, your Superman
Ive never seen such good advice on this BBS... I guess the reason so many people can relate to this topic is because WE'VE ALL BEEN THERE BEFORE.. its a part of life and most everyone has to go through something like this (usually with the 'first love'.. which is the most bitter/sweet).. My two cents: The girl is past her prime.. i know its hard with all the emotional aspects, but hey.. shes not taking it seriously so why should you? Girls are finicky like that so dont waste your time trying to decipher it all, you're only gonna get more confused. Be a man, take a stand and for godsake, take charge of your life. Goodluck -nos
In the immortal words of Glenn Frey: She's awwwwwawwwwww ready gone. Dude, you are who you are, your world is your world. You can chose to let a chick in and she can chose to stay or not. That's the only way it works for the long term. If your butting heads, or jealous or wanting the other person to change or act differently from the way the naturally are, your just asking for trouble. I've been married for 32 years. (Jonesboro? Don't you have a cousin you can go out with?)
Well I went out to the club last night with some friends and was hanging out there. The saddest part of the night was when one of my girlfriend's friends tried to go home with me. I mean these are the people she likes being with more than me and that's how they do her? Oh well... Everybody has been telling me that it is her loss, which makes me feel better because they say I have treated her as good as any guy can so they don't know why she's acting like this but hey who on here can really explain women and the way they act the way they do? Anyway I am going off with a buddy to shot the pistols and go 4-wheeling just updating and I'll keep doing so until I get a final answer.
Lil' Pun- You seem like a nice guy. Have you thought about trying to meet a girl in church who might have similar interests as you? I don't know. Just a thought. Best of luck with this situation.
well the big test will be when she comes back AND SHE WILL COME BACK after she finds out that their is nothing better out there Rocket River
Dude.....her friend was tryin to get you to mess around to try to force the issue...it was a trap....luckily you avoided it. You have gotten some fantastic advice in this thread... its true tho...most of us have been in similar situations....Dont let her set the terms..either she plays this game your way...or she dont play at all. You are a good guy....you should expect better out of your girl...if she dont want to give it to you...then find one that will... She does think you wont do it....thus the dare from earlier...adn then coming back over during the break period. Be firm....force the issue....2 weeks...make her do without you and see how she feels.... Ive offered you alot of advice over the years Pun....none of it more mportant than this. Take control.....dont let her string you...Fatty is sooo right...it isnt even funny....Do it bro...
