Relationship Issues (Jealousy) Please Help Clutchfans

This came out in 93 dude.

 

I haven't read through the thread yet, but I promise, YOUR CLINGINESS WILL DRIVE HER AWAY. Either STFU and learn to not be jealous, or don't date an attractive woman. You're basically hammering home the point daily that she has the upper hand in every aspect.

 

D'OH!

 

Don't worry. Guys won't steal her from you...mostly because she's a bad kisser.

 

Go see someone. You have serious issues.

If you can't trust her now, you are doomed to fail anyway. Like another poster said, it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Until you deal with your insecurity issues, you are not ready for a serious long-term relationship. And you are wasting HER time -- she could be in a happy relationship with another guy who actually has a pair.

Go see a pastor. Or a shrink.

 

The important thing to remember is you have her for now. When she's young, her expectations are low, doesn't really know how hot she is, she's not looking for anything long term - ie, she's just living life in the moment.

Over the years, this will change. She'll begin to understand her place in society and what she's entitled to. Then these flings will start to become a little more serious, and she'll be eying the material possessions of the guys she talks with. And evaluating things like how masculine they are and if they can "handle" her - how they'll provide for her babies.

This is when she'll realize she's made a big mistake and been prioritizing the wrongs things. You don't want to put so much into this relationship only for it to crash and burn, do you? Imagine the pain, sleepless nights and possible depression it will bring you. I suggest telling me where exactly she works (terminal, lounge, etc), name and physical description and we'll set up a litmus test to see how faithful she plans on being.

It's now or never.

 

sounds like a case of S.P.S

 

Usually the most jealous people are the ones that are cheating themselves or really contemplating it. Have you been totally faithful yourself dude or have been close to or thinking about cheating with someone right now?

 

Havent read any other posts except the first. Here is some advice from the Stache...

You sound like this is your first relationship. Seriously, calm down. If she cheats on you she wasnt worth your love and thankfully she cheated on you in the dating stage, not engagement or marriage.

Honestly you will end up driving her away into the arms of a macho confident man if you keep bringing it up. It sounds like you have no reason to not trust her minus her work surroundings.

Man up, be confident, trust in your own dong to satisfy her needs.

 

[cut and pasted from every clutchfans relationship thread]

Just please get a vasectomy.

 

Guess what, it's very likely it'll be the same with the next one after her and the one after that.

Basically you're insecure about yourself, but you still want your ideal woman. Problem with that is, if you're too insecure you probably won't get any woman. If you do happen to get with someone who's close to that "ideal" woman, then you'll lose her due to your insecurities.

You can't be a vagina one second and then act like you deserve better the next because she's thinking, "he's such a vagina and i deserve better". And she is the one who's right.

 

Do you worry she is trying to go out and ride the wood of every celebrity crush she hates?

All I am saying is that women will react poorly if they think their man is worried about her when she isnt doing anything. Trust is huge to a woman. But more than anything she needs to also trust you are a strong enough man to seed her and carry the yoke of the family.

Would you rather her work at the airport...or flash her naughty bits in a strip club, or be a Hooters girl halfway hooker?

Honestly if this relationship fails due to these circumstances the blame is squarely on your behavior to her at this point in time.

 

repped, he speaks truth^

 

so has every straight and gay man that has ever walked this earth.

 

oops, i meant to only bold the part about checking out other women...but i guess the second part applies to every straight man ever also :grin:

 

Hey man, you just need to chill and live life. Your dependence on this woman is going to lead you no where. Stop being such a p***y and let your girl breathe. I honestly can not believe you are checking her email occasionally, that's a b****ass move. Let her be man.

A simple fact of life, like it has been mentioned already in this thread, is that you can not keep your eye on this girl 24/7. If you can not trust her now, you will never trust her long term and more than likely you will eventually end up being dumped.

By the way, stop reading love novels and feeling your head with all these ****ty fantasies. Relationships always are swinging back and forth and you will never have the fake love that is shown in a hollywood movie or described in a book. This is what is clouding you as well. You are a man, ****ing act like it, otherwise your girl will find someone who can actually make her feel secured and loved and leave your ass.

You really are a pansy bro and your ass needs to man up.

 

I think what a lot of us are overlooking is the fact that he's 22.

When I was 22, I was a jealous SOB... because I was the most insecure man on the planet. I always thought every GF was cheating on me and became irate whenever I saw one of them talking to men.

If facebook was around back then, I would not have handled it well.

But guess what... In a few years I grew up. By my late 20s I had matured and become a confident man, and girls picked up on it... I no longer had jealousy issues and overcame that stage.

In due time, so will McGrady... until then the women you date will likely leave you b/c of your insecurities... but that's all part of the growing up process.