Relationship Issues (Jealousy) Please Help Clutchfans

its kinda like how nurses outnumber doctors.....

or secretaries outnumber managers....

so you want a video, of a pilot and a flight attendent getting married? or cheating? I dont think they would be wearing uniforms in either case.

 

Very nice!

 

Pilot Forum about this very thing

 

This thread has taken off like a game thread.

Anyway my 2 pesos are rather than coming to Clutchfans you should be talking to your girl. Let her know how much you care about her. On the other hand if you keep on snooping behind her back and allowing your jealousy to fester this relationship will end faster than free food on airlines.

Perhaps this will be put better in a cheesy 80's song.

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Just knock her up. Nobody want a prego girl unless her name is mariah carey =)

 

Just because she's attractive makes her more prone to cheating?

I would incline differently. The more unattractive they are or feel they are, they wouldn't have the self-esteem for themselves not to let the "game" from other guys effect her. Or, if it isn't a game, anything from another guy that makes her feel good about herself will effect her more.

But, no matter how they look, if the woman doesn't feel appreciated and/or loved... the odds start trending way upwards.

 

I am sorry buddy, but that forum does bring up that they do have issues, I mean its not just a bunch of pilots talking about marrying or banging flight attendents.

This kind of thing happens to everyone. Maybe not with a flight attendent with an a** that tastes like candy, maybe with an acountant with a nice figure, a star bucks girl that gives you something extra with your coffee, a ballerina that insists on stretching before getting into bed, a nurse who likes to wear only a lab coat, a carreer woman who just wants a leg up with the boss, the list goes on and on...

And hey the Rockets have won two in a row and are playing golden state tonight and the clippers on wednsday!

Brace up.

 

this is probably your best option

 

Jealousy is always your problem, not theirs.

Plain and simple, if you're the right person for each other, then jealousy won't be an issue.

Having a little confidence in your place in their life and being secure in how valuable you are to them goes a long way.

 

And dude, I appreciate you being a guy who's into something more than the usual hit and runs at your age, but let me give you a little advice. Yes, chicks dig those books and deep down always dream of being swept off their feet and leading to relationships that he portrays. But, trust me, what they dream of and what they go for in real life are TWO DIFFERENT THINGS... ESPECIALLY that young.

Hell, even in his books (and I'm only going by two of the movies based on his work) the guy played it cool at the beginning and wasn't harassing her about other men and/or paranoid she could go with someone else. They were confident that the girl, no matter what else was out there, would come back to them. Yes, show her how much she means to you but still act like you're the **** and that she is lucky to have a guy like you.

Oh, at your age, don't EVER admit reading Nicholas Sparks. Come on. Good for you to broaden your horizons and reading stuff that may not be the stereotypical guy material. But, girls don't want to hear that stuff from a guy.

 

After reading through the whole thread I wish I had some solid advice but I really don't dude.

When I was in my late teens and early 20s I was incredibly jealous as I got older I came to a simple realization.

You can't control what another person does, there is just no way to do it, hence working yourself up into a this kind of insanity is totally pointless.

I grew out of it more or less, once you accept that you have no control over what happens with your sig. other, it'll make your life so much better.

All you can do is try your best at making a relationship work, if it fails then it fails. Relationships are incredibly hardwork all around man, don't make it harder by adding unneeded BS.

 

Bingo.

 

^THIS!!!

I'm a jealous guy, to an extent...but like he said, you can't control what other people do...the more and more you accuse and question her, the more she will be inclined to do it as you're constantly hounding here...you'll drive her to do it...

Think of it this way, if you don't have trust, then what's the point of being together... if she did cheat, would you be with her? If you cheated, would she be with you? This constant feeling of jealousy will drive you crazy so don't waste time if you don't trust her...

 

The more you bring it up, and the more persistent you are about talking about it, the MORE likely you are to drive her into another man's arms. Every time you show your insecurity about it, she's going to view it as you not trusting her. You need to relax, trust her, and believe that you're the person she wants to be with. Keeping your girl happy is all about confidence and flexibility. Don't GIVE her a reason to question your relationship, and she won't have a reason to go to another guy. Plain and simple.

 

People don't cheat because of someone else's physical appearance, stature, wealth...they cheat because of emotional reasons. ever wonder why you see celebrities or your friends cheat with someone who is 10 notches lower on the attractive scale than who they are with? it's because the current relationship is boring. and although their partner is attractive, they're aren't "attracted" to them anymore. a lot of times it has to do with the partner being a blanket of insecurity.

the more your well being depends on who or what you THINK she is doing while she's away, the more likely she's gonna grow tired of it and ACTUALLY do those things.

 

Easy just become her coworker!!!