Tell her you have a lot of mixed feelings about relationships in general and you are not good at them. otherwise things would have worked between you and your ex. tell her that you have hard time believing things could be going so good with her and that you made a mistake. but it wasn't for the lack of feelings for her you just got all messed up in your head but now you are over it and want to prove it to her.
Thanks for all the advice, I appreciate it. First off I would like to say that no matter how it looks I really didn't do anything with my ex, I know that its extremely hard to believe but we were always better off as friends which is why I went in the first place. I'm clearly in the wrong here and I am not going to try and justify anything like someone said earlier, I deserve everything that I have coming my way. I shouldn't have put my self in that position and never again will I. Also I am six years removed from High School so I guess that makes it even more rediculous. Thanks again.
Hmmm, I don't think you have any reason to be lying to us, seeing as how you don't really know anyone here on a personal level (I'm assuming). If anything else had happened in that bed, you'd have told us the entire truth...no need to lie. That said, print out this entire thread and let her read it. Let her know everything that's going through your head, how you tried to fix the problem, and let her see the truth as it is. Maybe she might get a better sense of what exactly happened. You screwed up. And now you gotta pay. But be as sincere about it as possible, and try to mend whatever you can. Then again I'm just talking out of my ass, so I could be wrong in my suggestion here.
That sux that she found out even though nothing happen. I would be more concern how she found out. Is she spying on you or someone in your circle of trust is selling you out. She is getting inside info from somewhere and I'd be pist off.
Bottom Line: If she doesn't trust you and refuses to believe you are telling the truth then your relationship is worth about as much as my Roderick Rhodes rookie card.
If my girlfriend would start a story like that i would be even more pissed(i do not drink alcohol and do not do drugs). i do not think it is a good excuse for anything. Because you would make sure you weren't that drunk if you know something like that could happen
The only thing you can do is come clean with her, and wait for forgiveness. Now you have to know that she not going to ever forget, trust is going to be an issue for a loooooong time. You are going to have to put up with smart comments, with reminders of what you did, etc. for a while. What I am saying, is that the consequences of that on night will be felt for a long time. So it is going to be awhile before things are back to normal. Just don't screw up again during this period.
