38 and never been married. Had a four year relationship, and a two year and lots of shorter ones. The happiest I have been in my life is when I was in a great relationship. However I find that being single is way better than being in even a "pretty good" relationship, and there is nothing more miserable than being in a bad relationship. I don't know if I am qualified to give relationship advise, but if I was all I would say is don't settle out of fear of being alone.
oy vey... the yentas are sweating over this one... they already tried to set me up at a funeral (true story). What should I do?
With the number of divorces in the country and the women to men ratio...i'm pretty sure you'll have options... just be prepared for baggage.
I'm 25, but I've seen many people(all girls) settle for a relationship, lower their standards and accept the first loser to give them a decent punchline just because they're afraid of being single/alone. I know one girl who has made 3 bad decisions in 2 years(and a horrible one of turning me down for one of the losers) and changes their myspace/facebook relationship status 2-3 times per week over that period. She's a real sweetheart, very rare mature woman, but she's a horrible decision maker(so is most if not all women), even Luther Head is a better decision maker. Don't be like that. Enjoy being single. It's not that serious. You will only end up screwing yourself. Also that girl was only 24. Not many chicks at that age are mature enough for long term, despite what they say.
Hate to tell you this, but she doesn't sound mature at all if that's how she deals with relationships. To the OP, everyone has cycles where they feel like that, but don't sweat it. Since you just had a break up it's natural. Just find yourself some hobbies that you enjoy and throw yourself into having fun. The right girl will come along eventually. There's no set time limit on when you have to be "settled" by. All my friends are married or getting married or have multiple children, but they can't do the traveling or hobbies that I do because of it. Enjoy your freedom from more responsibility and relax. All will be well.
Yeah I just hopped in the shower and thought about that. Now I think about it it just seems that she's looking for attention. I won't give her the drama necessary to get that attention either. Sometimes I think she believes that **** will go down like some BET music video.
I feel like a lot of people are saying you get to have more fun single, and I will have to strongly disagree. happy marriage + kids > single partying + traveling Not trying to make you depressed, but it is an awesome thing to have.
I completely agree with this statement. However, I feel like a TON of people jump into relationships and marriage for fear of being alone, and that is FAR worse than waiting for the right person. Have patience. Being single is much better than being in a bad relationship.
I was basically going to say what Tex said, but he is speaking from experience, so give greater weight to his words. This isn't the 1950s anymore where all the decent girls are taken and you're screwed by the time you hit your 30's. Nowadays girls are staying single longer, and you can always go after a younger (mid to late 20s) girl. Then there are also all the hot girls who got married too young who end up getting a divorce. These girls hit the dating pool with a vengeance. They know they aren't 20 anymore and to compete with the younger girls, they hit the gym hard to keep their bodies looking right and they have a seemingly unquenchable thirst for sex. Think about it, man. You are in a good position (as long as you know you can take advantage of the positives).
When you find the right one, you'll know. Don't rush in or settle for someone because you're afraid of being alone. I thought my current girl was amazing until I got to know her better. I'm trying to dump her, but she doesn't want to leave. I rather be alone than waste my time with someone that I don't think is marriage material.
Di, why would you give such horrible advice to a fellow comrade? Chow_ yun_fat, what you need to do is get her to break up with you. You don't want her thinking you're the evil one.
Depends on when you want to enjoy your freedoms. We were essentially empty nesters when we were around 42. Both kids grown and either out of the house or in college. I'd much rather have the freedom and flexibility I have had over the past 8-10 years than I would have in my early 20s/30s. I still have many friends my age that still have kids in high school and I have way more freedom that they have. My brother-in-law is a year older than me and has an 8 year old. To each his own.
