That's a bigtexxx quote, friend - not from a movie. Hey, if she's not going to be compatible on the sports front, she better make it up in other ways. That's what I'm saying here.
Deep down, I think guys like it when girls aren't into sports, are into hair and makeup, or they don't otherwise understand them. I think it must make the women more attractive somehow. (in your situation, though, she could be more understanding.)
Isabel, what make you sign on to a basketball bbs? Most woman would not be interested in something like this. Never mind, I just remembered you played in college sports.
You took the words right out of my mouth. Even though she may not like or understand sports, she needs to realize that they are a big part of your life and you really enjoy them. It's alright that she doesn't like sports, but it's not alright that she bashes one of your favorite interests and something that makes up a part of who you are.
To me it seems this relationship is doomed. Her reaction to your sports interest tells me she doesn't respect your interests or things that are improtant to you. It might start with sports, then it becomes something important. Next thing you know you end up having pink wallpaper in your place. I had a g/f like that before. I remember the final straw was the AFC Championship game with Patriots and Colts. I told her I was watching the game that evening so if she wanted attention, she shouldn't come over. She came anyway and kept getting in my face, complaining, asking to watch something else. I held to my guns, didn't change anything. But the next day I told her that we need to break up because she didn't respect me or my interests. She was upset about it, saying I was choosing sports over her. Whatever, if she isn't willing to compromise, screw it. I am willing to miss some games for her, but with her my compromises were never enough.
God gave us all a right hand so that we wouldnt have to put up with crap while we trying to watch the game.
My wife always said she would never marry a guy that watched football, oops. I pretty much state when I absolutely don't want to miss a game, but I don't watch any game just to be watching sports. She accepts that as being fair. On Saturday while game three was going on we were out spending the day together, beautiful October day in Tucson. On Sunday though I watch all of game four and so did she. She got a little testy about Larussa and Edmonds getting tossed; didn't think I was being objective about the situation. St. Louis Cardinal fans get a little nasty when your not siding with them. She was a good sport though last night and congratulated me on my teams series victory.
I played in college... played in the pep band, that is. I was the girl who played the drums at most of the Rice basketball games in the mid-90's, and sometimes after that. I was not actually on any teams. Anyway, I signed onto the basketball bbs originally for the same reason as the rest of you: I wanted to learn more about the Rockets. My boyfriend/husband was never on the bbs. (He posted a few things using my account a while back, but that's it.) In fact, I said I was going to quit several times because I was the only girl (at that time) who wasn't there because of a significant other, but I always came back. I'm guilty now of not following the actual team as much as I used to when I lived in Houston, but that's still how I got here. To tell the truth, I also kind of like the attention. With this guy:girl ratio, I can get a little just for being one of the few females out there. I'm not picking up any guys from this board, though - forget it.
haha that's awesome. Regarding about girls that doesn't like sports = more attractive theory... I'm not quite sure if I totally agree with that. With that thought, my g/f does give me my space to watch my sports and does her own stuff. Personally, I could tell that she's somewhat interested but not really into it like I am. She's great in trying to find tickets for me when I was complaining about price. I could afford them, and the last thing I want is to spend thousands for scalpers to make money on an event that is so important to me. But with the thought, it really did count in my mind. However, with her slight interest, it does get a little irritating at times. She doesn't watch too much sports until I came along. Therefore, some of those questions that I get during a game of such high magnitudes (these recent Astros playoff games), I could honestly say that I felt a little annoyed, but I kept it inside because it really wasn't her fault. But that's from person to person. Anyways, I hope you get that problem fixed, because compromising is so important in a relationship and there's no reason for her to show no conscience whatsoever to what's important to you.
thanks for the advice and everything, guys. to be fair, she's a damn good cook (in the hotel and restaurant management industry) and great looking (but those things shouldn't be everything, right? oh, and no pics). when it comes to everything else we pretty much get along great. it's just this one thing. the emotional aspect of sports i hadn't thought about, so maybe i'll give that a try. but more than anything i'd like to be able to come up with answers to the questions she asked in the first place. why do we root for the home team? why have rivalries? why pay hundreds, if not thousands of dollars, to attend a championship game? i figure if i can come up with something solid, instead of my right hand to her face, she might be able to appreciate and respect my side a little more. i mean, i know it's in our nature to be competitive, as well as to favor the team that represents where you're from. but why? i mean, i don't know why i love watching the stros or rockets (and sometimes even texans). i just do.
OK. I have been married for about 8 years (2 legally), and yes, I am whipped. I am WHIPPED For ONE SOLE REASON: to do what I want without having to do without having to go back and say that we didn't do what wasn't important. Here is what happened Wednesday: I called my wife. I ask her if we'd go do Denny's to take our little girls. She said: "Isn't YOUR game tonight?". She says "YOUR" because she knows I'll be the only one watching at home without anyone there rooting for me. She knows how much I am into all my Houston teams, and even if they lose, I support them. Back to the matter at hand, wifes/girlfriends/significant_others who don't follow any sport or don't know anything about any sport probably were raised under a rock, in an all-girl catholic school without recess, or in a convent. I wouldl ike to guess your girlfriend was in the first group, not the latter. If she never saw sports or never followed, she didn't probably have someone when little that asked: "Hey, my daughter, would you like to go to the game with me?" and this is what she missed. Now, everything about sports is what she detests. She doesn't like it because she's got no memories. I will sum it up with one thing... here's what my wife says to anyone who calls her on the phone and asks who is watching the sports at home, or what I am doing while she's studying: "Oh, I am not watching it, but my husband is. I like basketball, baseball is ok, i don't understand football or soccer, but I let my husband watch important games, because of the fact that he gets excited and then later it's a good reason to celebrate together or to comfort each other at the end of a game, whatever the outcome." That, and I love my wife to death. I would have probably NOT have married someone who'd make me miss my favorite Rockets' or Astros' or Texans' game because they want me to go shopping with them. Don't get me wrong, I do, but not when it's such an important game, like the World Series, the Super Bowl, the World Cup games (qualifying or final), the NBA Playoffs, etc. I'd just hate it. I am liking the fact that I am raising 2 beautiful girls who like at least SOME sports and like to watch the games with me when they can.
I dated this chick in college who grew up in WV. She freakin memororized the rockets roster b/c she knew how much i watched em. Should have married that one....
That's a good idea: get your daughters interested in sports, so they don't feel like it's part of a world they can't belong to. My dad taught me to watch football with him when I was little. I didn't have a brother so maybe that helped, but hopefully I would have been given that opportunity anyway. If you like your games free of distractions: tell your woman to let you watch sports in peace, and make a special plan to do something together or something she likes. (A specific plan, complete with activity, date, and time; stick to it.) If you don't mind distractions and just want to spend the time together: see if she'll watch it with you, or at least agree to be in the room. There are interesting variations: for instance, make sure you're alone together, remove most or all clothing, and curl up under the same blanket and watch the game.
Sorry 'bout that... I meant: to do what I want [as far as watching an important game, and do what's important, like visiting her mom's house or take her shopping] without having to go back and say that we didn't do what wasn't important [for either her or me]. Sorry about that, man. All I am saying is, if there is something that is more important going on, as far as something she wants to do with you for fun, do it. Try taking her to a game and see how it turns out. Don't let her, however, just MAKE UP stuff to do on purpose of not letting you watch something important, like game 1 or 4 of the World Series. That's just plain mean. Isabel, when the Astros lost and before I got home, my daughter told my wife: "MOM, don't tell dad the Astros lost"... she said to me: "I felt so bad that she was saying it in a sweet way to not hurt your feelings, babe, but (here comes the but) then she said: 'Don't tell him, OK? I WANT TO TELL HIM!'"
