Daddy's girls are the worst kind of b****. **** her, dump her, **** her mom, don't dump her, impregnate her, and when your son is 5 make him choose whether his aunt lives or everyone in his family gets stricken with leprosy.
Agreed. You're going to have to talk to him at some point. Imho, she already ranked you vs the family and you came up lacking. If she doesn't see that then your relationship is doomed any way. It's a tough situation, but honestly if after 8 years you're not the priority that's unlikely to change.
Asian? If yes, then forget about the drama that just happened. Decide what you want from her. Marriage soon? Not Marriage? If it's Not Marriage, then find someone else. After 8 years, you owe her that. If it is marriage, talk to her without carrying your hurt feewings and be honest where you both think your future is headed. If you still feel good about it, then man up and have a face to face talk with her father like what cometswin said, and stand up for yourself and your girl. Quit thinking about the slights. You're at least 26 years old, and the future will have even bigger **** to deal with with other women.
Dude, from your moniker, it looks like you have a very high chance of being Indian. I'm not Indian, but most of my friends in Houston are. Are you guys both guju, malu, etc or different caste? Anyway, if you want to be involved with her family, it looks like it will be nasty in the future....but if you really love her, then go for it and don't make too much contact with her side of the family. Even though I'm not Indian, I know how the family situation can be really difficult. If you're having major doubts about the relationship by itself (8 years no marriage/engagement)....may be a good time to move on.
I feel like OP may be leaving out a key part of the story. Dad hates him just because he's not a doctor...nahhhh. Spill it son.
What about money? Does his family has more money than yours? That's a common reason a woman's family won't let their daughter marry a guy. Or if she makes more money than him. Same thing.
to respond to everyone in 1 post. ya. asian/malu. it's been 8 years without marriage just because we were both waiting to be done with grad school. and yes we dated with the purpose of being married around this time..or withing 1-2 years. no they are not richer. we are equal in pretty much every aspect...only key diff is my dad. no he doesnt hate me just cause i am not a doctor..but its a combo of things that i mentioned before. and most of it is..he hates my dad..so he hates me sorta thing.
Well in that case, her dad just seems like a d***. Wash your hands clean from this girl and move on. This is an uphill battle I don't see ending well.
Time to move on..If he doesnt like you after 8 years, what makes you think he will like you now? Even if he doesnt, then she should be standing up for you, which it doesnt seem like shes doing. Give her an ultimatum.
me: "point is you couldn't decide who you wanted there...you were just happy I excused myself." her: "ya it made it easy for me, I was stressed. I am sorry but I should have picked you. end of story. you did more for me than my parents ever have. but i didn't know how upset my decision made you."
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I've dealt with the malu people's on my travels. They're a timid, passive people who don't really stand up for themselves and the women are the authoritative figures of the household. Sometimes, based on the natural evolutionary cycle, a man needs to take control and impose their will on a situation. Seems like a pretty dull, robotic relationship anyways so it's time to put all your cards on the table instead of living a lie out of fear of "dying alone". Tell her you're going to talk to her dad about wanting to acknowledge you, then go to him and lay it down matter a factly and say it's a slap in the face to your self-respect to be treated this way after so long. Look him dead in the eye and be as deadpan as you can. If he still objects, it's decision time. Your girl has to choose between you and her parents, you can't keep living a lie as the hidden boyfriend if you have any integrity whatsoever. If there's anything in life worth fighting for, it's your belief in yourself. Currently, you have none. And check out this video with your girlfriend... see how she feels about it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rtHGA6zlsnA
