You know I can accept how cheap they are well... just because I've gotten used to it. I've accepted they aren't going to buy me a car. I've learned that If I want something I have to earn it myself. Because of this, they think they are being good parents. But Mum's gone too far this time and I think I may have to confront them when I've calmed down later today..
Dude, you're a kid. You need to look at the bigger picture. Do you know how arrogant you sound right now? "They won't buy me a car!!!!" Having a car is a privilege, not a right. Just because they are your parents, THEY DO NOT HAVE TO BUY YOU ANYTHING. Welcome to life buddy, everything worth having is earned, not given by mommy and daddy. I'm assuming you're Asian as well, so you of all people should understand this. It's our culture. I understand what your mother did to was horrible, but instead of acting liek a little spoiled kid, you need to beat them at their own game. Keep records of of everything, and show them that you are indeed telling the truth. You need to realize that they are your parents no matter what, and you don't have to like them if you don't want too, but you damn better respect them. Don't lose your parents over $1300. Be the bigger person here.
You didn't read, RKREBORN. He gave his mother $1300 for a laptop so she could use her credit card and get points (or whatever). Now his mom wants another $1300. That's not a spoiled kid, that's a dishonest mother.
Yea I read that. There is obviously some kind of misunderstanding or mis communication going on right now. It happens man, no one is perfect. That's why I told the OP to beat his parents at their own game (in case they are pulling a fast one), always keep records of all major transactions. The sooner he realizes this, the better.
He trusted his parents. It would have been awkward to pay his mother (at the time at least) with a check when he has the cash right there. Hindsight, ya he should have but that's hindsight.
This sounds like a plan. Yeah I usually don't like bringing race into perceived actions but you're right. Guess I'll have to start keeping records of my finances now. I went to a pretty expensive private school so I guess being surrounded wealthy friends really changed my view on what was normal. Most of my friends have been given cars better than the working man. Thanks for this.
I won't advocate cutting all ties with parents over $1300 but I wouldn't be nonchalant about it either. The guy did the responsible thing by saving up and has already paid for the laptop. The mom is the one who should act maturely and be the bigger person
I echo your sentiments, bobrek. WinorLoseMate, Are your cousin's parents as financially secure as your parents? If the answer is negative, then it is possible that your parents feel that your cousin's hardships trump your own.
You sound like a good kid. I'm happy you see the bigger picture . But make no mistake though, they shouldn't be physically abusing you either . Brains always beats brawn, so always stay one step ahead so something like this does not happen again. You want to work hard in life, and get to a point where they will be asking you for money, and not the other way around. Of do this not to rub it in their faces or anything, but to prove to them that you can.
Have your parents post their side of the story. I want to be sympathetic, but I've learned from dealing with 17 year olds to be careful of the narratives they weave. No offense; I don't know you from Adam. In any case, maximizing your education is probably your first priority going into adulthood. I wouldn't let other concerns handicap you there. Take out loans to pay for it and go. The extra pay you get with a degree will more than justify the interest expense. Saving money is not better than borrowing -- it just wastes time and kills momentum. If you need to move out, find a friend you can live with and/or pay rent with borrowed money (I'm assuming Australian student loans are like American ones, here).
I'm actually fine paying for college by myself. I planned for it, they gave me initial warning and so here we are. I just told my Dad and he remembers me giving her the money for the laptop so he's going to speak to her. If you want my parent's view it would be something along the lines of - We paid $60,000 for your school tuition fees. You went to a school where everyone is wealthy and we are a middle to high class family and can't afford to support your expenses if you move. Don't expect the same things they do.
Do you have proof that you can give your Mom that you gave her $1300, like a returned check or something? Just hand it to her without saying a word and walk out the door.
Dad just came home from work I told him about the situation and he said he clearly remembers me giving her the money, but it was only 1200. My dad has a pretty clear head so I'll just give my Mum the remaining 100. Time to start looking for a new place!
I think your mom is a bit too looney for it be safe for you to live in that house. Get out before she goes over the edge and strangles someone.
