Wow, I'm so sorry. Why don't you try again? My initial annulment paperwork was not so bad. If this doesn't go through, she suggested a Christian wedding. I should have done this a long time ago. I just kept putting it off.
Good luck FT. I paid child support for 13 years and voluntarily raised it every time I got a raise at work. It kept the ex happy and without any basis for further extortion. And whoever mentioned the nice raise you get at 18 is right on the money. It was like having a second income all of a sudden. I still send my son $$$ directly to him for allowance and he is grateful.
My son is never put in the middle. If that ever happens, it will be on her. I won't ever use my son as a pawn...but I think you already know that.
So can they find that you owe less support if you make less money now? That would be sweet justice. I think there should be a law to prevent women from double-dipping - if they want to get married again, the new man can support the kids. I'm on the side of believing kids would add too much stress to my life - but I respect the people who consciously decide to have kids and raise them. Unfortunately, too many people don't think before they have kids. It's a bigger life-changing event than getting married imo - you better be ready.
Yeah, but like I said, it has to be a change of at least $100.00 or 20% of the child support payment. I've pretty much stayed in the ballpark of where I was when I first got divorced thanks to my hiatus from coaching.
Yeah, you probably remember when she threatened me with that in the past. I've grown much stronger since then. Here's one way of gettng out out child support... http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/10924038/ Police: Man faked death to avoid child support 'Ultimate deadbeat dad' now owes more than $30,000 for two kids COLUMBIA, S.C. - Police arrested a man accused of faking his death more than 25 years ago to avoid paying child support. Johnny Sterling Martin, 58, had a relative call Family Court in 1979 and report that he died during a bar fight in Alabama, authorities said. That call came a few months after he escaped from a work detail while serving a one-year jail term for failing to pay $4,120 in support for two children.
Your situation with your ex is rare, at least from what I've been witnessed to...Good for you...Unfortunately, my wife has tried to use our kids as pawns and it just pisses me off...You know, when she gets mad or has drama, she just goes off the deep end and she brings everyone into it...I try to be the balance and be there for them and will continue to do so... I give my kids $$ when I see them...I can't wait until my Child Support ends...If I was to re-marry, I believe I have to get the marriage annulled via the church and I heard it was a two year process that goes to the Vatican for approval...
She take my money when I'm in need Yea she's a trifflin friend indeed Oh she's a gold digga way over town That dig's on me
It does work the other way as well. My sister's ex keeps trying to lower his or not pay. Luckily, the AG stepped in when they realized he wasn't making the correct payments and froze his accounts. Now they're hopefully going to scrutinize his bank records and see evidence of the money laundering he's been doing for someone.
If it makes you feel any better, my ex is nuts too. I wouldn't even know which state to file for custody of my son to start paying child support, because I have no idea where she went with him. Carry on.
If she's nuts, you should think about putting 20% away, because she can file for arrears(back pay) and get you.
That's fine, she can stand in line behind the rest of the people that want money from me that I don't have.
I didn't read the entire thread but in my experience for every dead beat dad, there are five or more good Fathers who are being drug through the ringer every month because the system wants to appear tough on the absent parent. It's a very broken system IMO. Good luck to you FT.
