I have no qualms with King of 40's confused reaction. People sometimes get their manners switches crossed and forget to do little things, it happens. King could have squashed it if he wanted to but I kinda don't think he wanted to. King probably felt offended that the guy got offended and didn't just let it go. I've had people pull that **** on me but I refuse to let them walk away before I explain myself and we get everything off our chest then and there just to avoid future bull****. I was blasting hotballa and his garbage hot takes per the usual.
Highly doubt that was the only thing on his mind when he unloaded on you. In my experience, people usually have a few things backed up when they decided to finally blow up on some unsuspecting person.
I think you messed up OP. He is now alpha male on your floor and your weak/no response guarantees he will do it again. If you would have at least said something or a minor reaction he would know he has an alpha male challenge.
I would have just told the dude to smoke a blunt with me outside when I finished up with my girl. Blunts fix everything. The 21st century peace powwow.
A situation like this with me would've played out similar to the way OP's did...Or much, much worse. Hinging on if I really felt threatened. People should really stop being so stupid.
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In those situations, I usually respond "what you go gonna do about it tough guy?". 19 times out of 20 the other guy usually backs off. Unfortunately the 20th time, you might get shot in the face.
True...and anyone who lays into somebody else is always taking a chance with their life. You better be damn sure the person you are laying into doesn't have a screw loose. And, you can never be sure of that or what type of retaliation may occur. The unfortunate part is these types of incidents tend to stick in the backs of the victims' minds. I've been laid into unfairly before and I still remember all that bs years later. It will come up ever so often from the deep tracks of my mind when I'm thinking bad things. The fact is...when it happened to me...I was thinking retaliation and all that. I definitely contemplated getting back at him. Usually, the person doing the laying into has formed a bunch of preconceived, false notions about what went down and/or how you wronged them. And, they probably do have other contributing issues in their life that led them to go off. This one takes the cake for being one of the more stupider confrontations I've ever heard of. You miss the elevator...you take the next one. Duh!
For full disclosure I'm Hispanic and the guy who confronted me was African-American. He said I was being disrespectful for allowing the elevator door to close on him/not holding the elevator for him. I'm not sure if he thought I had a problem or issue riding the elevator down with a black guy / black people but that's definitely not the case at all. Also, I didn't press the close button to try and hurry up and close the elevator, but I also didn't hold the door open either for him if that makes any sense. I just pressed the button for the garage and let the door close on its own and figured he would either make this elevator ride or just catch the next one. I would have apologized to him when he confronted me about my actions but he was in such a fit of rage it wouldn't have done any good. He was definitely intoxicated and had obvious anger issues. I didn't want to risk him blowing up on me any further resulting in a physical altercation. If I see him again on my floor or in my building and he's sober / calmed down I'll explain my actions that night in an attempt to smooth things over.
and now you're explaining yourself like a beyotch. you see, he is alpha now and he knows it. more than likely you won't renew your lease and will be moving when it ends unless you demonstrate your alpha again. the first place to start is don't explain yourself. blow him drunk dumb ass off. the worst thing you can do is explain yourself to him like some servant. if you mush confront him, i would go with "hey your drunk ass fronted me the other night and lucky for you i'm a nice guy and don't mess with drunks" "but do that **** again and i won't be so nice"
I'm sure you're joking, but showing is better than telling. If you were about it, then you would've did it the first time around.
you're not wrong but he's got to save face and he can't go back in time. and i'm not really joking. i had a neighbor that was a real ass (previous folks warned me) and i made sure to call him out on some bull**** the first chance i got so he knew i was not the old pushover neighbors. wouldn't you know it, he never once bothered me. even a few times he would politely "suggest" to me certain things, some which i did and some i didn't. the exact opposite happened to my uncle who had an ******* neighbor. my uncle showed some weakness and that neighbor started to terrorize the **** out of him. every little thing, just blowing it up. i felt really bad for my uncle. he could never get his neighbors fear or respect and he suffered for it. eventually the guy got transferred so my uncle lucked out a little bit.
Great news for this BBS !!! Looking forward to a nice courteous and polite posting style, since that is what your mama banged into you. Will be a nice change. DD
You're just emasculating yourself by over thinking it. If you're going to be so sensitive about it just try to hold the door for him next time you're in the elevator and make a joke about it. Then at least you don't look super beta. Hopefully your girlfriend is with you when it happens so you can talk **** after he leaves. Rebuild that image bro.
you should have sex with him...that will teach your girlfriend not to bring her cat over to your place anymore.
