OP was emasculated twice during that sleep-over. And we can only imagine how the cat feels about literally being dragged into it...ecatsulated.
Im not sure what apartment number he lives in. He was already walking in the hallway when I stepped out of my apartment. I don't mind apologizing again / trying to explain myself to him the next time I see him when he's sober and less aggressive. Again I was just trying to defuse the situation last night without getting into a full blown confrontation over an elevator. And yes there are 5 floors in our building so I could see how it may have inconvenienced him but seriously? To get that upset over having to wait for the elevator or take the stairs is nuts. This dude definitely has a loose trigger when he's drinking or in general.
You need to chill and not care. Seriously, forget about it and move on don't apologize. There's tons of assholes everywhere dont let them get to you like this.
Ehh I'm over it already. I just wanted to see how everyone else would have reacted in that situation.
He is an idiot. You live in midtown bro? If so, I got your back. We will lay the smack down on his jabroni drunk arse
Maybe I'd be overboard by swinging at him, but depends on the person and situation. I'm not gonna be disrespected by a drunk person or a sober person. All I know is, I'm not gonna give an ass a pass just cuz he's a dbag. Bottom line. I don't think op was wrong. He was hesitant enough to think of the guy but was in a weird position. No need from him to apologize.
Lol yeah this is in Midtown but closer to the Spur that drops you into Midtown from 59. Funny thing is this dude acted like since we're neighbors we all need to be respectful of each other but then he verbally accosts me outside
it was inconsiderate to not hold the elevator when you knew they were behind you, but that dude overreacted. he obviously was not in too much of a hurry if he had time to confront you. if he had simply approached you and asked why you did not hold the elevator and that it was rude i think you would have owed him an apology or explanation. but if he is acting like that and calling you names i would have told him to f*** off. definitely dont apologize now.
You should have told him - "I tried to hit the door open button, but accidentally hit the door closed button - sorry"
Okay. So he emasculated you in front of your girl. So you want to be further emasculated by reporting him to security? You had your chance at the time he confronted you and you made the instinctual decision to be a beta. At this point just let it go.
If he was drunk and getting in his truck you could got his plate number make and color of his truck called cops and let them give him a reward (jail time) tell them what street he was leaving on. Of course that would be chicken shi!.:grin:
the feeling of getting emasculated in front of your girl is also petty. just chalk it up as the dude being a douche and move on. buy the guy a six pack, be humble and a better person. really unimportant in the grand scheme of things.
You have two options Show him your steel and let him know what he's got waiting for him the next time he tries to step in your elevator. Or move.
Why do you feel emasculated? Sounds like he just caught you off guard and you froze. Just forget about it. You don't have to apologize for squat. If he steps to you again tell him to **** himself. He's a grown man, tell him to get his own damn elevator. C'mon dude. Don't rationalize it, don't think about it, just move on.
What makes you think it was clear? Pretty much this. People are generally inconsiderate, but it happens plenty times and seems to be widely accepted. Many times, people are surprised when you say "thank you".
Nobody here is backing your neighbor. He behaved badly for sure. You don't seem to want to own your part in it though. You were inconsiderate, period. He was absolutely wrong. You were too. An apology would go a long way I think. And it all could have been avoided if you'd explained yourself before pushing the button to close the door on the guy's face, which is essentially what one is doing when one gets in an elevator with someone behind them and then presses the button that closes the door. The lack of basic decency that strangers show one another these days is really disappointing. My mother raised me better. I always hold the door for the person behind me. I always hold the elevator door (it seriously wouldn't even enter my mind to do something as rude as you did). I always let women exit the elevator before me or enter before me and I do the same with people that are elderly or sicker than I am. These are basic human courtesies that allow for us to live in a polite society without having to get involved with strangers at ALL if we don't want to. You brought this on though, dude. No excuse for the other guy's overreaction but please don't act like he had no reason at all to be angry with you. Everyone I've ever met would have been angry with you.
