Apologies to anyone that responded earlier with the same advice... but TL;DR... Make yourself scarce. Don't be available to anything she wants, not even a phone call or text message. Move on and find a different girl... they truly are a dime a dozen. You'll be shocked how fast you forget about her once you're balls deep in some strange. Even if you truly care about her, I believe this is the best way to get her to join the team. Good luck and hope everything works out for the best!
I have a story about my ex that I will share with you and everyone else here to hopefully make you feel better. My ex (at the time I wasn't dating her) moved in from Arizona next door to me and she had wanted to get with me for awhile. I ignored her advances because I didn't want to get with her since she had a previous boyfriend who was always doing dumb **** next door. He was breaking her windows with rocks or peeling out of the driveway and my parents called the cops and her mom didn't like him since he was 18 and she was 16 so all this drama and they finally break up. (btw I was 17 when I started dating her but turned 18 that same month of dating her i'm 20 now) Then my cousin who knew her told me on christmas at a christmas party that she liked me and I never payed too much attention to her but this time I was too busy looking at her sweet ass in her white pants she was wearing. So I give her my number and we finally start going out. This was in January fast forward some relationship up and downs, fights you guys know the deal and its now July. Her family is now moving back to Arizona and of course we had both fallen in love. So we decide to do long distance relationship. She moves out to Arizona and I leave Dallas to go to Laredo Texas to start my own little life while trying to save up money so i can save up enough to move in with her. Now many are asking why didn't you just go with her? My parents HATED her and despised my relationship and I told my father I was going to leave with her and he said "If you leave you are dead to me and don't ever ask for any money or any help when you are in a tough situation because I won't help." I'll add that her father was in prison so it was her and her 2 sisters and mother and they were doing bad financially so I always had to help by buying them groceries, partially paying for the water bill. Her mom is illegal (but my ex wasn't) so she could't find a job and is a reason why she left form Arizona. Now back to our long distance relationship I'm in Laredo and I'm saving up its now October and I get a call from my father. Its early morning and I find out my grandpap has passed away... I'm heartbroken and take 4 days off work to come back to Dallas and visit for the funeral. I come back and my ex is saying she doesn't want to separate me from my family and that she and her family will be moving back to Dallas in a few months. I'm ecstatic so I immediately leave in December and move back to Dallas. At this point im paying for my ex's SG3 phone and now am back with my parents. So now Fast forward to August and its been a tear and were still doing long distance but shes been acting weird lately. She says she no longer wants to be with me and she wants to focus on her life with no boyfriends. I find it fishy but I ask if we can get back together in the future she says yes so I don't disconnect her phone say I love you and we click. 1 week later I find shes been hiding a facebook from me and shes now with another guy and TALKING TO HIM WITH THE ****ING PHONE IV'E BEEN PAYING FOR since the "I need a break" bull****. I read comments saying she left me and she has another man and shes telling him I love you baby and all this crap. It broke my heart because I spent so much effort into the relationship only to get ****ed over. Morale of the story guy is things get better she calls me a 2 months later and asks if we can get back together and that shes sorry so I say "**** off" lol. I know it hurts man but you get over it and life goes on. You have friends to help get your mind off her and plenty of genuine and honest woman out there. Get your head up man live and learn and things will be alright. I left out a bunch of stuff from this story but I've already written too much and I don't think anyone is going to read all this. Anyways I hope everything goes good for you and anyone else that experiences a heartbreak one day all of us will find "that" 1 person.
^^^ I laid a lot of tracks in AZ, hope your girl wasn't one of them. Anyways, you should be happy you got out. Nothing but nasty dishrag whores in that state lol.
Her name wasn't Sandra was it? lolz but yeah man it hurt just glad its all good now. Haha I bet you had fun over there if that's true.
Never boned a Sandra, so you're safe... But honestly, you know from living there that all those girls are some serious dishrag whores. It was fun, sure, but it gets old. Not the strange itself, but the type of strange. I couldn't take anymore white trash girls with tattoos and a 4th grade reading/comprehension level. C'Mon Man.
BTW I lived in Tempe and Scottsdale at different times, so yeah... ran thru the gauntlet of dishrag whores... actually preferred Tempe girls cause they were at least younger.
Yeah It would get tiresome after awhile I'd imagine lol dishrag whores. She was from Phoenix so I guess I am safe but not that it matters anymore haha. I actually got a friend studying over there in Az I was going to move in with him bout 3 months ago but I didn't want to go to that state after what happened figured it'd be weird If I ran into her but my cousin told me shes moving back here. No lie id hit it again but no relationship bs this time lol.
The fact that you are not confident in yourself is a big part of your undoing. Women like confident men. Don't pretend you're awesome. Know you're awesome.
Well just some random thoughts here; probably repeating various things said by other posters: 1) You are in high school - girls that are in high school are notoriously flighty and spacey. They are always having a different boyfriend every week. You are better off to forget a serious relationship and just trying casual dating. It is not until you find girls in their mid 20's that they begin to want a serious relationship. 2) I read once that a girl or woman knows within 5 minutes of meeting a guy if they want to date them or not. She made up in her mind when she first met you that you weren't dating material. Sorry to be blunt about it but that is just the way it is. A lot of it is due to the vibe you project - you don't want to come across as a cocky jerk but you can't be a needy desperate guy either. 3) You need to google the "Ladder Theory" and really read up on it. 4) Find other things to do to get your mind off this chick such as lifting weights, playing basketball, watching movies, etc. 5) Try to gravitate towards girls that you think have an interest in you instead of going after unattainable ones (I know you said that she is "nerdy" but still this is with any girl you meet). 6) I had a friend who when he was in high school, he would deliberately date girls that he called "stepping stones". In other words, he dated them to make him look more attractive to the girls that he really wanted to go out. It sounds bad, I know, as he was using these girls for his own personal gain. But you might look more attractive to the girls you are going after if they see you with another girl. 7) Sense of humor - while us guys are turned on by looks of women, women are attracted more by a man's sense of humor. If you can make a girl laugh, you have a much better chance of developing a relationship. 8) Finally don't let the little head think for the big head - I have been given that speech most of my life by my old man and I ignored it. Then the last 6 years or so happened and my life got ****ed by a woman. Seriously, you are so better off by not putting p***y on a pedestal.
I appreciate the advice, I really do. Not just from you, but from everybody It's good stuff. I think part of what makes this hurt so damn bad was that this is someone who should have been attainable. I made her laugh (I may not express it well here, but IRL I'm good with jokes), we have a lot of common interests, and like I said, we're around the same spot on the social structure. And I still couldn't get her. I liked her, but it's like, how low do I have to go? Am I really that bad? There is one other girl, who might be interested in me. She's kinda cute. I'm debating whether or not I should ask her out, I don't want her to think I'm treating her as a stepping stone (as much as tip#6 would help, I refuse to do that). One thing I also forgot to mention, her previous boyfriend (the girl from the OP) cheated on her and treated her like crap, and as far as I know, that's the only relationship she's been in. I don't know whether that had anything to do with this or not.
Well, damn. Loved how you told her to "F Off". That's always a great feeling when they come crawling back and you have all the power.
da_juice, This site is pretty good with advice on this topic (at least the ones who reply seriously). Look at it this way - you are on a see-saw with this girl. The ideal situation is for you to be halfway off the ground and for her to also be halfway off the ground. What is happening, though, is that you have your ass on the ground and she is at her highest point - you get what I mean? There is no equity in this relationship; you are giving your all and she is taking it without really giving you anything back. You don't need to subject yourself to that. You want to be with a girl that likes you equally as much as you like her. As someone else said, it's strange but once one person in a relationship realizes that the other likes them more than they like them, they become unattractive. It probably is due to stereotypes and how we are wired but women look at men as strong and providers. When a man comes across as needy or desperate, the woman thinks of him as weak, whether that is right or wrong. I would pursue this other girl. Try to place yourself in some situations where you know she is going to be around. Try to come across naturally towards her and don't ever try to force anything whether it is a conversation or yourself on her! For example, if you know that she has a certain class at a certain time of day, try to "bump" into her. See if she acknowledges you and if she does, does she smile at you? If this happens, "run into her" again the next day and make some icebreaker comment like "Funny to be running into you again - my name is da_juice, what's yours?" Hopefully, you can pick up on her vibe and judge for yourself if there's a future with her. If so, do something light, like go somewhere after school to get a bite to eat. Go slow and don't show your hand too soon. Good luck.
It sucks.. What I"m about to say sucks but it is just how it is nowadays and you need to accept it In these modern times it is cool for girls to be sluts Now think about it, why does that suck?? Why is the divorce rate so high? It sucks because through culture we are programmed as men to want to have a deep and connected relationship with a girl. However it just isn't possible in these times and you have to accept that, accepting that is the hard part. Once you accept it, you will accept them for who they are and not only treat them as they desire (which is treating them as if they are nothing but an expendable piece of @$$) and accept you will live life with a bunch of hookups instead of a nice relationship. Once you accept them for who they are and embrace it your hookups will skyrocket and thats just how things are nowadays unfortunately. I guess if you impregnate one of the girls it may lead to some quasi semi-successful-possible long relationship. But trust that the slut is deep ingrained ready to slut all over the place. Don't make the same mistake again and learn from this experience. Don't become enthralled by a girl and think of her as something more then she is, they are a dime per ten thousand nowadays, not a dozen. BTW this goes for american born girls, foreign girls are an exception and you may try for a relationship with one.
Haha I would bro but I'm sure shes suffered enough cuz the guy she left me for left her. Her name is Sandra (wont say last name) cuz I don't want to start anything whats done is done but thanks for the support
True that brother if they do it once they will do it twice and over and over. Not going to get my heart broken twice by the same person thanks for the support!
