I think it's healthy for any couples in a longterm, meaningful relationship to spend time apart; how you could possibly stand each other if you spent every waking moment together. That goes for the kids too...the wife and I make sure we spend some time apart from the little one every now and then..just the two of us...to keep our bond strong. We also spend enough time apart doing our own things...me watching the 'Stros or Rockets, she watching American Idol, So You Think You Can Dance, etc...I go off and play softball every week, sometimes she comes to watch, sometimes she doesn't. We never have to force alone time on each other, it just comes naturally. Hell she's so great she even let me go play softball a day after our kid was born!
I have plenty of alone time in my marriage. It helps when she lives in another zip code. But seriously, I respect what say. I think everyone needs alone time.
Good question - I have been married a little over a year and getting alone time from my wife has been one thing that we have struggled with. She feels that when I get home from work, I should spend every waking moment with her since she didn't see me all day. For the most part, I don't mind because I have missed her, but she still struggles with the concept that I am not interested in watching some chick flick movie with her. A lot of it depends on what type of day she had; if she had a pretty good day, she will usually not mind me wanting to watch something different from her. However, if she is feeling bad or had a bad day, she'll want me with her pretty much the whole time. This has gotten better a little bit but it could still need some work. The bad thing is my job has me away during the week (but I come home on the weekends), so we are really missing each other. My situation is similar to kpsta's wife in that I will only be able to see her and spend time with her (and my daughter) on Friday nights and Saturdays and a little bit on Sunday. So, I guess that is one way of solving not getting enough alone time - have a job that requires you to travel all the time.
