I am going to assume my wife isn't dead because that is a crappy thing to suggest, Manny. No wonder you like such bad music. I am going to assume that my wife is a psycho b**** (not a stretch at all but I am going to pretend that is NOT the reason I love her and we work so well)and we get divorced. My plan will be: #3 - I am in high demand and cannot let it go to waste. And I would go as young as I could without being annoyed. I would do this for a while but not too long. After that I would probably switch to being open to whatever happens but not really wanting anything one way or the other. I am great alone and in general it is near impossible for me to find someone for a real relationship (a combination of standards, worldview, personality, etc) so I would not expect to find anyone that would fit but if I did I wouldn't ignore it just because I had been burned before. So the next answer is neither #1 nor #2 because those are too limited and I would not be interested in playing house by moving in with someone if I didn't think it was forever or, at least, for a long time. I didn't vote in your pole. Because I am soooooo cool.
Agree. I have 4 kids; if I'm taking care of them, do you think I want to do it by myself? Seriously, the kids would be the biggest driver for what relationships I enter after the divorce/death/dismemberment of my wife. But, honestly, I'm not one for whoring around, so I'd probably be in the #1 or #4 camp.
i'm married now. if things change put me down for a number 3, with an order of rio de janeiro on the side
i fell into #1 and am actually still surprised that i wasn't completely jaded after my abortion of a first marriage.
I can't imagine how anyone would know how they feel about this until it happens, even f it was happening for the second or third time.
agreed. weird question. and also, that's a helluva jump between "serious-living together" and "**** buddy"
If I somehow lost my wife, I suspect I might start a serious relationship with Johnny Walker for a while....I can't imagine dating would be on the radar for a long time...
Thinking about it now when you can be objective could help you make a wiser decision should you actually be confronted with the choice later.
I voted for Fw/B, but that is probably colored by the fact that I wouldn't get married in the first place.
The people I know that have been married and gotten a divorce, for the most part, swear that they are never going to go through that again. I would say 50% are in the "f*** buddy" camp and the other 50% are in the living with someone but not marrying. Different question since so many people have talked about kids - is it better to stay married but be fighting in front of your kids all the time or get a divorce and even though the kids have their folks split up, they are at least not having to deal with all the drama and fighting. My brother-in-law is dealing with that right now - he is in a loveless marriage and fights with his wife a lot but won't divorce her because he has 2 kids with her.
I say make it work, or at least try to get along as roommates. Kids are the #1 priority, and keeping things stable is huge, at least until they're out of the house. It's the commitment you make when you have them.
