no offense, but if you wrapped up every time, she has lied to you a lot and you have been broken up for a while...maybe she IS pregnant with SOMEONE ELSE'S baby. you never know, but cannot know until a dna test, which means she will have the kid good luck with your situation
On the subject of the cost to confirm the pregnancy: if you go to a pro-life clinic, they will give you a test for free. And, since you are abortion-minded, they'll probably do an ultrasound for free too. The only downside is that they'll want to try to talk you out of an abortion, and offer all kinds of free help with raising the child. There's a good one in 5th Ward called Fifth Ward Pregnancy Help Center. There's also some Carenet Pregnancy Centers around -- there was one on Richmond near Chimney Rock -- that all do this (but they might have changed their name). You could go to a Planned Parenthood, but they do have an interest in telling you you're pregnant and in not showing you the ultrasounds, since they make their money on abortions. This has the benefit of affirming what you already want to do (the abortion), but will cost more and will clap the blinders on for a pretty important decision. Ultimately, you won't get to decide because you are the man. But, you may have some influence if the girl is uncertain. So, the gravity of the choice is on you. If she does keep it, it sounds like you'll need a paternity test. But, in the meantime, you may as well act as though this child is yours, since you don't know otherwise.
I don't think I will ever live with myself if I had an abortion at my age. I can't punish the baby inside of me for my mistakes and would be very much selfish...That means I would have to live with my mistake if I got pregnant by the jerk which the relationship was based on nothing but lies(refer to my exclusive relationship thread) So armyman, don't punish the kid for your mistakes...and make sure it's your baby. Good luck.
It's obvious you have a skewed idea of things. So two parents who don't love each other if enough reason for you not to get to enjoy a potential whole life in front of you? He doesn't want the baby? Uh, really? That's his fault and he should have to deal with the consequences and learn some responsibility, which he should. He evidently wasn't responsible if she is pregnant by him. I can't even respond to the last comment you made there.
Two quick points here: 1. Make sure the baby is YOURS. 2. It is not up to you to decide whether SHE will have an abortion or not. It is her decision. If she decides to keep the baby, you will have to suck it up and pay child support. Personally, I believe abortion should be as rare as possible.
my exact thought to a tee. i think i just put a couple people on my block list just from the posts in this thread lol do the right, mature, adult thing FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILD if there is even going to be one
Yes, but I believe that it is necessary if the woman was raped or got pregnant by incest. We don't know the emotions the woman will be feeling for 9 months when she doesn't want the baby but doesn't want an abortion and to give it up for adoption. So this is pretty hard for the woman and sometimes an abortion will be the "solution" but again, this is a delicate issue. This probably belongs to D&D, huh?
Well, I consider myself pro-choice and am against laws that ban abortion. But I think one should explore all available avenues before having one.
FALSE CALL! Went to the doctor today, turns out she wasnt pregant. Told me it could be due to either using the tests bad or some disease called psuedocyses(however you spell that). This disease is just hormone imbalance or whatever and the girl gets all the signs a normal pregnant woman would but she is not pregnant really. And to the people who were kinda giving me a rough time. I wasnt going to force an abortion, i was gonna do whatever she wants to do. And I love kids like no other, but now is not the time for me, im way too young. And the "lies" werent her fault, it was my lies that would have made this relationship wrong. The lies werent anything serious like cheating or anything its just they were wrong. And i broke up with her because of time/distance issues and since i wouldnt be able to see her that often anymore with school coming. THANKS FOR ALL THE HELP! Seriously some of the advice that comes out of this forum is mindblowing. Anyway lock this thread up so it doesnt become an abortion debate. Im out and god bless the Rockets.
Congratulations! Have a stiff drink or 10. I know this must be one of the biggest 'relief' moments of your life. And make sure you don't let yourself get in these situations in the future (I know you said you've been safe up until now...just a reminder...).
