Appreciated When everyone exits, at the door you can take a complimentary handbag of wives. They just require an activation fee and security deposit.
For sure 1 good caretaker for multiples, rather than multiple bad caretakers for anybody. But then what if that 1 caretaker is rotten, but he's hoarding several women away from good intentioned men but most of them are low wage earners? I do agree polygamy WORKS for those involved, definitely. I think some people shouldnt be allowed to procreate. A child molestor should forfeit his right to getting a wife. I just fail to see how it doesn't cause some kind of imbalance if men are allowed to have unlimited wives. Or why guys would be too willing to give UP the chances at getting some....women. For guys that gain, others lose out. Since I can't discuss without a layman analogy: Lets say in high school, at graduation all the top 20% male graduates get to select 4 wives a piece from the school. Class size 500 males/500 females 100 males gets 400 women 400 guys have to share 100 women (Probably thinking well isnt high school like that anyway? Doesnt Larry King marry 8 wives, just separately?) But at least there's a chance for things to even out later and they're not PERMANENTLY off the market. BUT, as I said if people want to live that arrangement without the contractual part, they can do that. If 4 women want to live with me, I'm down. Marrying them all might be a formality really. I guess the remaining men could form a militia group or something to pass the time since theyre not having much fun all womenless anyway. And the 4th priority wife can sit around bored to tears without any real goals or anything.
I think there is a slight contradicition in your post, which is why I agree with some but disagree with some. I believe you're focused on an equal opportunity for all. At the same time, you rule out, in this example, child molestors. For some reason you draw a rigid line there. In reality, it's not a line, it's a scale. There are people who mistreat children, molestors, child molestors, murderers, domestic abusers, etc etc. As much as the human mind likes to categorise things rigidly, we have to resist that temptation because, more often than not, it is inaccurate. In that sense, there SHOULDN'T be equal opportunity IMO. Also, and paramount to this view, is that the decision should be left upto the woman. To be a good judge of character. "Is what I will receive as a second wife of Mr X worse or better than what I will receive as the one and only wife of Mr Y?" You say what if 1 rotten caretaker is "hoarding" several women? Well, first of all, the women consented. That is their fault. Second of all, people make mistakes, and that's what divorce is for. It IS true, IMO, that being a wife in a polygamous relationship is more risky - but that's no secret. If you don't want to take that risk, then just say no. Ultimately, I feel that if women and men make good decisions, there would be very little polygamy in the world. Sure, that is an ideal situation, but it is not a condition different to that of marrying ONE person. The key element here is decision making. If your decision making is poor, you will likely get screwed over regardless of the number of wives/husbands. If it is good, then you will be fine. I laugh at the notion of it being ALLOWED or not. Of it being ETHICAL or not. Marriage comes with a set of duties and responsibilities. It is happening anyway. How many children are born, for lack of better vocabulary, "by mistake" these days? Why shouldn't those parents take responsibility? Why shouldn't those childrens have the options of every other child? If 100 males get 500 women, I say to the remaining 400 males: It's time to look at yourself and see what you're doing wrong. It's time to figure out why those 500 females prefer 1/5th of another man over you. I say to the females in the 400 who regret their choice: look at yourself and figure out what went wrong. You made a mistake, time to fix it. To the 100 females left over: time to look at yourself. To the portion of 100 males who screw up: time to look at yourself. To the portion of 100 males who have 4 or 5 happy wives each: congrats, you are a gem. Most likely scenario: Human nature will take us back to the norm of 1:1 if good decision making doesn't do so faster. Also, you tell a guy that if he gets a girl pregnant, he has to provide her and the child everything a husband/father has to provide, people will be more responsible about this kind of stuff.
Maybe I can not legally make a case but it does not make it right. A rich man buying a young wife is wrong. A gold digger marrying an old man is also wrong. It's just a little short of prostitution. If I can make the law to prohibit it, I would.
You want to make a law saying that people can only marry for love? Beyond being silly, you can't tell people what is right or wrong for them, sorry.
It's not silly to say no to prostitution. What do you mean you can't tell people what is right or wrong for them? We (you, me and society) do that all the time.
explain how sed law would work? Couldn't a 60 year old man claim he loves his trophy wife? And could not the trophy wife do they same?
Marriage was invented basically as a way for rich men to buy young women to preform reproductive and domestic labor. Why do you think you could change that with a law?
