Poll: 4 in 10 Americans say marriage becoming obsolete

Agree people are more "poly" and "non-mono" than we want to admit. I totally agree there needs to be OPTIONS laid out. People operate today by signing into different plans with different benefits. One-Size-Fits-All doesnt work as much now. What works for 1 couple won't always work for another. Marriage, long term companionship, whatever term you want to call it, by itself is NOT archaic but there are some definite archaic elements within it.

Yeah, open fidelity.... It needs to be a REALISTIC option for some. Not THE RULE, an OPTION for those who won't ever work out under the current marriage guidelines.

Still, people talk about human nature, and how we really "are". Real life fact is studies show time and time again that children develop better in a setting where BOTH the mother and father are present throughout. We explore all kinds of possibilities, aren't contained to any one thing as we grow into our adulthood. But child and human development, it would appear to me, has always been the SAME rudimentary process its always been for ages. Can we really "outsmart" that, or think of a better way around that? Or SHOULD we?

Maybe its people tampering with that process thats left us jaded and disgruntled in trying to form meaningful human connections. Kind of sad to think about really.

 

In my opinion, I think divorce has just become way too easy. People get a D the 2nd life gets too tough, thinking that quitting and moving on is the right way to fix things, without accurately considering the damage they are doing to their spouse and children. Divorce doesn't solve any issues, people still have the same problems post divorce. A man who doesn't know how to be affectionate isn't going to learn from a D. A woman who spends too much money isn't going to figure out after a D (although she may have less to spend)

There is no doubt in my mind the kids are better off with both parents living with them. As stated, guys don't make good moms, and chicks don't make good dads. You can get by, but it's not the best. And spending time with one or the other parent is not the same.

If I had to point to an overall source, I think society has gotten way too in to the idea that love should be easy, and if you aren't feeling it, you should leave. The concept of love as a verb more then a feeling is getting more and more rare.