Says the person with over ten thousand posts. Forget all the people who have truly and genuinely found love online...they're so LAZY!
I don't get it. I am lazy because I clicked "Submit Reply" 10000 times? Hayesfan, Google defines a "parade" as a ceremonial procession including people marching. You know... like a Championship Parade in 1994 after the Rockets win their first NBA championship? I only met my wife in such a way... but courted like everyone should, in person, without anyone's assistance... unless you have only TWO options (bar with scumbags, or eHarmony) like ima_drummer2k.
It's not lazy to try to find someone through a dating service when your life is so busy that you don't have time to troll bars or clubs for someone. IT's not always easy to meet people. Not everyone is lucky enough to meet someone through a friend, or school, or family, or even through a really cool message board where you talk about something you love. I think its a narrow point of view to think there is only one right way to meet someone... if that were the case I wouldn't have half the friends I have today. There are a lot of people I have met online from similar interests that I would have to give up if you could only meet people in the original see them in person traditional way.. and there is no way that meeting them was the lazy way to go.
I met my fiancee on Cupid a year ago. I was embarrassed to look online for someone, but I shouldn't have been. I finished college in 2 years, then moved back to my hometown. It was hard for me to meet new people while working in a small office all day, and having most of my friends away at college still. I met other people online before my fiancee, but decided they weren't right for me. Personally I think my fiancee would be perfect if she wasn't a Cardinals and Cowboys fan.
^Hayesfan: Point well taken, and fair. If you're only looking to "MEET THE PERSON OF YOUR DREAMS", you're setting yourself up for FAILURE, or SUCCESS, and nothing in between. You either FAIL at meeting "that right person", or succeed and marry them. Is that all we've come down to? It's EASY street. The word LAZY hits people the wrong way. It seems that everyone who is "too busy" goes to dating services. Well, then, stop being so "busy."
I thought you meant some special kind of parade As far as it being easy, you are so wrong. The idea behind most of those sites is to match you up with people that you will have something in common with in case you missed them on the street during the parade. It isn't to replace meeting live people its to supplement it. I went into eHarmony with no expectations what so ever. Someone had given me the subscription because she had met her husband online and was convinced that I would meet someone too. I just thought it was a good way to meet new people that I had common interests with that I normally wouldn't know because of where I live and what my occupation is. Not once did I think that I was going to "live happily ever after" with someone off of there. The problem I ran into is that because I wasn't looking for happily ever after, the guys I was matched with were looking for happily end my night. Not exactly the type of people I want to spend time with. It takes a lot of the risk of putting yourself out there on a site like that, so saying its easy (or the lazy way out) isn't anywhere close to the truth.
So what is the difference between succeeding/failing the traditional way and succeeding/failing with an online relationship? You're really grasping for straws here.
I am not the only one. My wife knows. But, hey... seriously though, you need to find out EVERYTHING YOU CAN about a person yourself, not from what they type onto a computer or onto a service and off to your screen... in order to have feelings for them. How do you know they're NOT LYING? Look into their eyes when they tell you something. Then you'll know the truth of their words as they express them to you. For all you know, I could be a robot typing this post, but... I can't tell you what love exactly is... you know it when it happens and if you meet someone of the opposite sex and immediately think they're interesting, and something has sparked. That could start something good, but once you start finding out more, and it seems appealing to your senses, it's off to la'la' land (cloud 9).
SwolyD (lovemaster), I think its just a starting point. Maybe after several chats back and forth they can meet and get to know each other like you are saying. I personally feel that youll never find true love if you are searching for it all of the time. Stop calling people lazy and let them get their cyber love on.
Ooo! Ooo! I'm Lazy and I found true love over the internet (which I was not looking for at all) please give me a good Catholic equation for why I'm doomed.
Those that have others ask the questions instead of themselves are LAZY. (how's that, no_answer, moballs, moes?) When you fail on an "online relationship" (not really that if it's CF.net) from a dating service, you believed everything you read on that "profile" and built your own image of that person, because they answered only the questions that service asked. Now, if you fail personally and in the traditional way, you're the one working the deal, asking the questions, finding out about the person, etc. That's the difference, I think. I don't know what "grasping for straws" means, by the way. So I can't really answer that... and you never answered why I am lazy with 10000 posts.
Yes, by all means, everyone should quit their jobs and go to a parade. Then and only then can you meet that special someone - but only if you're NOT looking for them. If you are, well then you're just lazy. Dude.... Do you not understand that people who use online dating services actually MEET IN PERSON at some point? Do you honestly think people talk online for a year, then get married??? What do you think of going on blind dates? I'm almost afraid to ask....
You've sat on your ass and posted 10,000 times on a message board. How is that hard to understand? At work? Well, you're LAZY for not finding more you can do in your spare time to benefit your company. Ever post in your free time? That's LAZY because you could be out exercising or running errands. But please keep flippantly calling people "lazy." If you're judgmental toward others, expect the same in return.
As long as that blind date takes place at a parade and they go run a 5k later to prove they aren't lazy I think we may be in the clear...
I'll be honest, I've never done the online dating thing so maybe I shouldn't defend it. But you must be an expert Swoly since you've been so critical of it. What happens on a date between two people who meet through an online service? According to you they don't 'work the deal (what?)', ask questions, find out about each other, etc. Then what do they do on the date!?!?! I've been wrong all along, thanks for showing me the light Swollen.
