dude e-harmony sucks ass. It's so specific that it's rediculous. I remember several years ago, I tried online dating. Well, I got her number and we were chatting and everything. When we finally decided to meet, guess who picked up the phone when I called? Her HUSBAND! I was like WTF?! That ended my online dating stunt. Since it's online, people can bull about alot of things. It's not like people don't bull when you meet them in the real world, but at least you can have a better feel for the person. I'm currently in a happy relationship that didn't happen through online.
Online Dating is like going to grocery store of sorts, first of all......... Most of the time you can weed through what you want....most sites or posters will indicate casual encounter, long-term relationship, quick hit, or platonic stuff. Still, they are a couple of wackos out there, one time I went out on date with girl who was ... well let's just say she was not what she said she was. There are about forty million sites on which you can just casual date (Yahoo, Match.com, e-Harmony, Meet.com, craigslist.org, and true.com), you can have pen pals (Russian, China, or even in prison), religious dating sites (for Muslims, Christians, Jewish, Scietologists, and etc), alternative (gay, swingers, S&M, orgies, animal love, wife exchange, and even sites for pedos), hookup sites (like lava.com, adultfriendfinder, craigslist.org, and online booty call), Online Brides - Mail ordered Brides (usually from Russia, Eastern Europe, Phillipines, Ethopia, Dominican Republic, Mexico, and etc), and the everything else such interracial dating, seniors, overweight, dwarf dating, wealthymingle.com, and etc. You can find nice girl without asking lots of duds and crazies out. You can have about 50 strikes and never feel like your out. You can score and never ever have to leave home.
I would've never tried to look online for someone, I'm not one of those "casual fling" type of people. I always figured I'd meet some guy through one of my friends after I'd established a career for myself. But I met my boyfriend Derek on clutchfans and we talked on the phone/internet for about six weeks before we met in person. IMO, that time was invaluable. We got to know each other and built great communication and a connection BEFORE we had seen each other (besides pictures). I found out we both loved the Rockets, loved the same kind of music, same taste in movies, same spiritual views, etc etc. By the time we met, we already knew we were in it for the long haul. It's been two years and sometimes I forget that we met online. I think the internet is a good way too meet people, but there are a lot of crazies. I guess I got lucky. It's nice to skip the bullsh!t though and really get to know each other, which is what we were able to do before we met.
I think it's okay. You can meet creepy people anywhere. And you can possibly meet the right person online. Go for it.
I find total strangers who give a **** what I think about their personal decisions pathetic and unacceptable.
Drexlerfan22, you need to stop dating those Flava of Love b*tches. Rule of thumb: If she looks like she could be a contestant on Flava of Love back away. But it could leave you crippled.
Shows how culturally literate I am. I don't even know what that is... Though I guess a lot of "culture" these days is based on watching TV, and seeing as I hardly ever watch TV...
You want culture?!?! Some fem nazi picked Nadine Gordimer's The Pick up for this months book club. Now I'm trekking along some interracial love story set against the backdrop of modern South Africa.
Especially if that person is Swoly-D of all people. Seriously, of all the posts in this thread, you pick THAT one to take to heart?? God help you... I give up. Have fun trying to find the right person while worrying about how other people perceive the method in which you do so. You could be missing out on something really great, but whatever. I guess how you look to other people is more important... I don't think that's any way to go through life, but at least Swoly-D won't think you're "lazy"...
Now that I've read this thread through, disregard my first reply. Secondly, is finding the right woman what you really want at this moment? If you work 60 hours, then I don't think you have the time to set up that ideal relationship in your mind. Single 60 hour workers who love to work those 60 hours usually find the kind of wife who you've dealt with, if you get what I mean. I'm not saying they all cheat, but the priorities and needs are different... In this day and age, I don't even know if it's fair to that right kind of girl to accept that you spend that much time on work. Wives who grudgingly go through that need some light at the end of the tunnel or have some good reason. I would be worried about the silent ones who don't make it a big deal, but that's just me. It sounds like you're in a somewhat fortunate situation where the quick solution at hand isn't what you desire. I'd say you're still young and live it up. Even if that right girl comes around, you have to compromise, but a real compromise means you have to put your heart to that change. If working at your job with lengthy hours fulfills you, then it's not time to give that up. While it's really hard to do this, you can change before finding an outside, yet also good, reason to convince you to change. It's empowering because you make the shots, and things have a way of falling in place around you when you do. Again, my first reply was a joke. I feel pathetic now.
I'm single and I use every tool possible to meet new girls. Whether it's going out and meeting new people in person or online. I've meet lotsa crazy women in person, but I've also met lotsa quality ones as well. Same things goes for the few women I've met online. The ones online usually arent as attractive as the ones you could potentially meet in person, because better looking girls get approached a lot more thus no need for them to get online - at least in my experience. However, I met one of the hottest girls I've ever gone out with on Yahoo Personals and she was a a quality individual as well. It's too bad she moved away.
