I don't object to internet dating services, but aren't you stacking the deck asking an internet BBS dominated by people in technology careers whether it's okay or not?
Dating online should keep the environmentalists and global warming crowd happy that you aren't driving around, consuming resources.
4 real...I didn't want to start a new thread but had to tell someone how crazy women are...Besides, I met her online, so its justified..
I disagree. I think online dating takes away from the serendipity of romance. There's nothing romantic about emailing and scrolling for a potential partner. There are plenty of places besides bars to meet women. Try a bookstore, church, friends of friends, the Galleria, a park or gym (I hate this one BTW). Don't be one of those socially inept fools who needs a keyboard to make a connection with someone.
Nothing wrong with it at all. I went on EHarmony for the same reasons you listed (too busy to look, most friends are married, no desire to hookup with bar trash, etc) and met someone. We dated for over a year and were married in February. To tell you the truth, you sound like a perfect candidate for EHarmony. The reasons you list for wanting to try it are the exact reasons you should. Seriously, where do you want to find the person you may spend the rest of your life with and the Mother of your children? On a filtered on-line dating service? Or drunk at 2am at some lame bar full of douchebags?
I was half-wondering about this question myself. I actually just signed up on an online dating thingy. Like, a couple days ago. My problem has never been picking up women. That always came really easy. But apparently I have a really hard time picking up the right women. Half the time I'm out on a date and I realize that she can't hold a conversation for ten minutes, and/or is so boring that I want to cry. I'm also pretty concerned that my income level for my age seems to be attracting gold-diggers. I don't know if online will help me evaluate that any better, but it's been a problem. I guess I'll see if the online thing is any kind of improvement. I like the fact that there's more information up front this way.
I don't know about you, but approaching strangers seems to freak some people out. Friends of friends leads to you hating two people instead of one when the relationship goes south. I am just saying everything has its downside not just online dating.
My thoughts exactly. It seems like I've heard more often than not that girls really do go to the gym TO WORKOUT, so they like to be left alone. Besides, that's one of the WORST places you could possibly try and meet someone. If you get shot down or if the relationship turns sour, you'll be taking the chance of seeing her every time you hit the gym, or looking for a new gym altogether (which might include early cancellation fees and crap). Just a sticky situation all round if you ask me (and not the good kind). The other options have their faults too, depending on what your interests are. For example, I'm an intelligent college graduate type guy interested in intelligent college graduate type girls, but reading books isn't one of my hobbies. I'd rather not pick up chicks somewhere that I feel out of place because it makes it a lot harder to blend in, make relevant small talk, etc. As for church, I haven't been since I was 8 or so, and I wouldn't start going because there might be some cute girls there. Something about that strikes me as immoral The Galleria or similar shopping mall is a tough get too. I mean, if a girl is at the mall and she's looking good, you can bet she's already been "holla'd at" at least once by the time you run into her. Unless you're incredibly attractive/charming, your efforts could be futile. Of course there are two sides to everything, so I'm not saying to never try those places. It's just not as easy as all those dating advice articles can make it seem sometimes.
Correct. There are two sides. I go to the gym specificaly to workout. However I have scored two dates with girls who regularly attend the same spinn and pilates class. I guess a certain familiarity allowed them to drop their defense. My friend recently joined a book club. I hate bookclubs but I enjoy reading. After all I am a college graduate. She told me about it and mentioned that some cute girls were memebers. I joined. No dates yet but possibilities exist. I hit up the shopping areas when my niece is in town. There's something about a man shopping with his daughter/niece that endears them to women. More so than shopping with a son/nephew. I must admit my niece is a serious chick magnet. Recently I've discovered the chick magnetism of dogs. I'm a cat guy and never had a dog so I was unaware of this phenomenon. I was crashing at my friends in Austin and she went out with her boyfriend. She left me at her place with the dog. Took him out for a walk as a favor and my god did the girls love'em. There are plenty of places and ways to meet females.
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LOL I would try the site with Dr Phil, I dont know which one that is but that commercial on TV seems the most convincing and the most legit lol
Please spare us. Also, no woman you are dating should have any idea of what your income may be, that is something you shouldn't talk about.
