Is MySpace an online dating service??? I didn't know. How do you just "meet" people blindly? See that? He said "advertised"... like she was a product on a shopping cart, or something...
Because they all suck... Seriously, you're speaking in broad generalities.. One of your examples is a girl sitting/standing/being by herself? My guess is.. you had no idea what you wanted or were looking for, or you thought you did but, turned out otherwise. So it had to happen by chance for you. "Just living life", as you put it.. Unfortunately not everyone has this problem, so why should this philosophy apply to them? What "work" are you exactly referring to? Tedious small talk? Going through a few uninteresting bores for kicks? Taking a few spins through the proverbial rotating-door of dating? Spending/wasting money on women you knew you wouldn't be interested in at their first utterance? Just because a woman happens to be alone or appear available? This "work" comes off as an unreasonable, unecessary, fruitless waste of time to someone that already knows precisely what they want. If you know what you want, what to look for to find what you want because you've seen it times before, why not take advantage of a dating medium that connects you to a LARGER selection of just that in a matter of seconds? A COUNTRY sized selection. I just don't see the point in picking sides, as it were, on this issue. "I don't like this new medium and I'll never try it", sounds like a simple matter of being stubbornly set-in-our-ways old fashioned-ness. Both the in-person and online routes have the same possibilities of hits and misses. Just because someone types it in a "profile" doesn't make it anymore true and accurately representitive of the person than if they had said it in a coffee shop and vice versa. People can appear to be what they're not or be geniunely sincere on either. The girl I was with before my current "mate", I had met online. She met me on every level and exceeded on others. Everything I could ever want and wanted, and then some. And, since I rather not talk about it.. let's move on. The current girl I'm with, I met in person. Meets me on one level, however sporadically, and falls very short on others. Very important ones to boot.. The point is, if I were to make such a rigid stance for one and against the other from mere personal experience,as you're doing Swoly-D.. I'd probably argue yours by pointing out how much harder the "work" was with the prior. But, I'm not going to. I don't care how you slice it, any relationship no matter how it came together requires some form of effort and interest. Neither is "lazy". Equally, neither is more work than the other.
Very well stated, Hmm. Bottom line is if you truly find "the one" then who gives a crap how you met her. But I guess Swoly just thinks everyone should do it EXACTLY like him, or it's wrong...
Uh...and how do you magically find your soul mate in real life? That's what you mean by "PERFECT," right? My boyfriend and I understand each other on all levels and have most of the same interests and opinions. I had never met a guy who liked the Rockets, wasn't a hick, and also liked my kind of music. I couldn't believe he was into all that when I met him. But that was in the cyber world, so I figured there was no chance we'd ever meet. But after weeks and weeks of talking online and confiding in each other, I realized I felt a growing connection to him and he told me that he had really strong feelings for me and wanted to have a relationship. As silly as it seems now, growing so close to someone I had never met, that's just how I really felt at the time. Deep down, I knew this was the guy for me. I thought about it and prayed about it until I just realized, what the hell, this could be the best decision ever. After a couple months of talking on the phone, we were nervous as hell to meet in real life, but within a couple hours it felt natural and great. Now, I'm in love with him, and we both know that we are truly blessed to have found each other. We view it as though we are two imperfect people who are PERFECT for each other. And we met online. Don't debunk what you don't know.
That's a great story, finalsbound, but I'm sorry....you and moe are going to have to break up. As soon as possible. You see, you didn't meet him in a manner that SwolyD approves of. Please break up with moe and email Swoly through the bbs as soon as you do it. Again, I'm sorry...but this is just the way it has to be.
Are you kidding me, those are perfect as you know they put out...oh wait... I hear you, everyone has different opinions and experiences...Its not for everyone...Love is hard to find and maybe online is the way to go, but again, maybe not... btw, Swoly does it again...
Yeah, I went to Katy High School. I know I'm generalizing but it seemed like every Rockets fan I knew also was way into country music. So you know, I decided on a California boy.
I was at a bar and met a group of people there. One chick was there with a guy and he was dancing with someone else, while his date was left at the table. She was not happy about that. So I hit on her. We've been married for 10 years now and have two kids.
That is sooo lazy.. You had another buy bring the girl to you and then have him do the work to act like a jerk making you look much better in comparison.. Seriously though nice story.
lol... I knew someone would say that. Right now I work from 3 to midnight so I don't get to go out much and figured online was probably the best way. Tried going out with a girl at church but that didn't go so well either. I'm horrible at this stuff heh.
No way, you have your sights set WAY too low. They overcharged my credit card so I was comped 2 free rockets tickets..... Pugs
No, Sishir Chang, Wangdoodle DID THE "hitting". NOT LAZY. All of you who have people write "what they're like" without asking them yourselves are lazy, PERIOD. Cool stuff. finalsbound's story is different. That's not "online dating". She came here AS A FAN OF THE ROCKETS. She was handing out opinions... moes happened to see her... probably called her on the phone plenty of times before he "hit" on her on the BBS. Neither of them came to the BBS to find a "soulmate" or a potential partner. She's a fan of the ROCKETS, for cryin' out loud... that's compatible to ALL of us... but moestavern19 wasn't LAZY. He picked her up and swooped her off her feet, without using the BBS. He did that offline. Am I correct, finalsbound? All I am seeing is that if you have to have someone else "hook you up" with someone, you're LAZY. No one did it for Wangdoodle or moestavern19. They did it themselves. not really, ima_drummer2k, I don't think everyone should do "as I say". I think everyone should just live the way they want, but wanting to have someone "weed out" the people they want to meet is being lazy. pugsly8422, great setup. I fell for it as well.
I think I speak for us all when I say: shut up dork. You know not of a single thing of what you speak. You are a blind man, telling others how to see. You are deaf and you speak to others of what's in the CD player. You are lost, but you claim to be an expert on how to find shut up dork shut up dork shut up dork shut up dork shut up dork shut up dork
